Love In Robert Sternberg's Theory Of Love

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According to Vultaggio (2015), Maya Angelou once said: “In the flush of love 's light, we dare be brave. And suddenly we see that love costs all we are, and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free.” Dr. Rappleyea (2015) once stated that love is a very complex emotion perhaps the most complicated of all human emotions. Some might even add that love is not only an emotion but it is also an action shared between one or more individuals. Family greatly influences how we love and the way we show our love for one another. In fact we first learn what love is or what it is not in our household, and gradually our meaning of love will mature. Psychologist Robert Sternberg developed a triangular theory of love which explains the topic of …show more content…

I thought being with a woman would give me a deeper form of intimacy that men of my age group lack. Romance in a heterosexual relationship is often inspired by the woman. According to Rappleyea (2015), Sternberg’s Theory of Love states romantic love is the combination of intimacy and passion. Romantic love, although lacking commitment, is probably the most important form of love to me because it almost resembles consummate love which is the goal of any intimate relationship. Women tend to view romance as their most significant “love language” and most men recognize that. So men will often “go the extra mile” to ensure his woman is happy so he may get what he wants sexually in return. In contrast to heterosexual relationships, I have concluded woman know how to love other woman. Therefore, I did not have to implore for romance/intimacy it is almost as if it occurred naturally in our relationship. Although, I am shocked to receive a score of 5 in the romance section of the “Love Style” inventory, the results are justified due to the change in my dating preference. Homosexual relationships deal with a massive amount of “courting” especially when one is not open with their sexuality. Nonetheless, I have concluded based on my dating preference, ludus love is pretty accurate in my love

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