I have had many obstacles come across my life; where I have had to overcome them. The biggest challenge, or setback that I have had emotionally in my life, is the divorce of my parents. My parents got divorced six years ago when I was eleven years old. At the time, I knew my parents were not loving each other the way they used to, and did not care about each other anymore. I knew something was wrong. My parents got divorced because my dad had an affair with another woman, who had 5 children. The affair went along for 5 years without my mom knowing. I was some-what of a “daddy’s girl” and always leaned more towards my dad’s side. However, after the divorce, everything changed.
My dad became my enemy. My father’s mistress always brought her kids and herself over to my dad’s apartment; taking over my bed. Sometimes I would sleep on the floor, sometimes I would get the couch; depending on who was at the apartment. My dad’s “girlfriend” and her kids were not the reason why I did not enjoy my dad’s company anymore. I do not know how or why my dad became the opposite of who I thought he was – a kind, gentle, fun-loving dad. He
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Nothing about the girlfriend coming over, or about any abusing situations. The physical abuse was not often, but when it did happen, I always told my mom the bruises were from cheerleading. Taking me to cheerleading practice every Sunday was convenient for my dad… he had an excuse for my mom when he took me back to her. The emotional damage was the worse obstacle I have been through. Being a “daddy’s girl” for eleven years, and then becoming the victim of abuse from my own father; was heart clinching. Sometime when I was fourteen, I told my mom everything. After I told her, she immediately called child protective services and got me into counseling. Now, my dad does not have any custody over me, and cannot see me. I am a “momma’s girl”. This was the best obstacle to come my
I was awful young enough to not fully be aware of the entire situation. What I did know was that I didn’t want to move into a new house, attend a new school, and definitely not live without my dad. Adapting to my new and different surroundings was very hard for me. I was upset with my dad for his actions because he was the cause of all the changes. I was mainly angry with my mom though for her decision. To my eight year old self, I felt as if it wasn’t fair. I was her precious girl and entire world and I knew she would do anything to see my happy. For that particular reason was why i couldn 't comprehend her decision. I wasn 't happy with the outcome, I hoped she would forgive him and we could be a family
Now that I am in the counseling program I have become aware of the dysfunctional family that I have grew up in. Growing up I remember my father was never around. There is a memory I will never forget it seems blurry but I remember my parents arguing and becoming angry. I went into a room and when I came out I saw my father’s hand bleeding. My mother was holding a kitchen knife and she had cut his hand. Since my father was hardly around we never had family trips or family time together. He would spend his weekends drinking or going out with his friends. I have another memory that stands out. I remember I was in the back seat of the car and my mom was dropping of my dad somewhere. They were arguing the whole way over there, once we got to the destination my dad got off and walked out. I can imagine this affected my mother as a woman because her needs were not being
During my freshman year in high school my parents decided to separate, and later divorce. The decision was an abrupt one, and the beginning of many challenges for me. The first decision I was faced with was which parent I wanted to live with. As a fifteen year old who had just entered high school and loved/needed her parents equally, this was a challenging task. Ultimately I resolved this challenge by choosing to stay with my dad.