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Nice Guys Finish Last, Maybe?

I know everyone has probably heard of the quote, “Nice guys finish last.” I most certainly think this quote is true, well in my life. I always chooses the average guys or the “bad boy” gys over the “nice guy”. Why? I’m not quite sure. Nice guys aren’t so big of a catch. They’re boring. I already know what to expect from them. They’re a gentleman. They’re sweet. They’re caring. They’re giving. Cliché. The cookie-cutter, semi-perfect guy is just not fun to have around.

Drawing from my past dating experiences, I noticed I barely gave any attention to the “nice guys” when it comes to dating. Don’t get me wrong, being nice isn’t a bad thing, but I find it very unattractive. I have a history of picking the “good but bad habits” type of guys. These guys are good at heart, but have bad habits that may change over time. They have somewhat of a “bad boy” attitude. They’re not mean, but they’re not too nice, as well. They didn’t do anything dramatically romantic until we were very well acquainted with each other. I wouldn’t say these guys were complete assholes, but some of their actions such as lying, cheating, and etc., left me hurt in many cases.

It’s just something about a man’s demeanor that determines rather I’m attracted to them or not. A man who is confident, not too shy, and dominant is definitely a winning situation. I love a man who is mysterious and unpredictable-which is hard to find in a “nice guy”. Nice guys are usually too predictable and clingy. From experiences, I learned that the “nice guy” is a people pleaser. For instance a few months ago, a “nice guy” was definitely trying to pursue me. He would offer to do things for me that I felt ...

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...and women do seek partners with attributes that are consistent with gender role stereotypes and expectations. With the constant usage of media, a woman's perception of how men should act and carry themselves, could be easily distorted. Currently, the media portray the “it guy” as being aggressive, charming, and insensitive. (Justin Beiber) A guy that’s too nice, caring, and sensitive to other could be seen as a “softy” or “gay” in today’s society. Another concept of the social theories that made perfect sense to today’s society was that “women receive more social rewards for seeking out sexual activity only within the context of committed relationships”. Nowadays, women who sleep with multiple men without dating them, are often seen as a whore. Women are commonly told that by it’ll be better off for them to keep their legs closed until the “right” guy comes along.

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