In the story, My Father’s Life, by Raymond Carver I learned Raymond shares many traits with his father. They are both alcoholics who can’t seem to settle anywhere they go. They even share the same name; Yet I don’t think Raymond likes it. Raymond had a pretty rocky relationship with his father. Raymond tried to make that connection with his father, but his father was to distracted by life struggles and alcohol to give him the same effort in return. Despite all that is against him I believe Raymond wanted to connect with his father anyway he could. I assumed Raymond did not like sharing his name with his father when he said “I hate the ‘junior’ part” (81). Raymond also preferred to be called by the name Frog, which was the name his father …show more content…
It was difficult for him as he was trying to raise his own family and earn a living. Raymond did eventually manage to tell his father he wanted to become a writer. Raymond said “The poem was a way of trying to connect up with him” (86). Even though it is a little too late he tried connecting with him. Even though that connection was never made he misses him a lot. As he said in his final paragraphs “I began to weep for the first time since receiving the news” (88). I understand where the author is coming from in this short story. I also have a father who is addicted to things I’d rather not mention. He is never around; and when he is there he only stays for about twenty minutes then he’s gone again. I don’t know who he really is. I have tried to connect with him many times, but that connection was never made. Now it’s too late as my father also passed away. All that lives on is memories. Overall we can all only do so much. We can put so much effort in to something but if we don’t get that same effort in return there’s nothing we can do. Raymond tried to make that connection with his father, but his father was to distracted by life struggles and alcohol to give him the same effort. We must all try to not let our struggles control our life and remember to make time for our loved
father will ask how he is doing occasionally. In the end his friendship does not change. But it will
As well as the long last effect that alcoholic parents have on a child and a loved one. Moreover, McCullers writes his story incorporating the reality of alcoholism to allow people to visualize the effect of addiction and how it a very serious life changing issue that can deteriorate and break apart families. Mucllurs also indirectly emphasizes the sacrifices that parents must do to ensure the happiness and wellbeing of their children and how being disconnected from your social circle can lead to very serious mentally draining issues. As well as how he emphasizes Martins own intentions and how Matin suffers his own dilemma throughout the story for specific
I can still remember the day, June 2, 2013, my cousin took his own life due to alcohol. This is not the first time alcoholism has taken a family member from my family. I lost my uncle ten years ago to the same things, but running his truck into a tree. Like Scott Russell Sanders’ my family has suffered from the pain and disease that alcohol causes. Although Sanders’ case was much different than mine, my families is more unknown until all of a sudden one of my family members is gone. In Sanders’ essay, “Under the Influence: Paying the Price of my Father’s Booze,” he discusses how it was growing up around him, his father’s life being taken, and his life now.
Raymond was very light-skinned, and many people accused Claudette of having a white child. As the years passed and Raymond got older, he became addicted to drugs. Claudette witnessed her oldest son falling into a bad addiction. She could do nothing to stop him. Raymond died of a heart attack at the age of thirty-seven. Raymond passed away in his mother's apartment. Claudette says that she is very disappointed, but she is just thankful that her grandchildren did not have to suffer what she had to struggle when she was growing up.
In Raymond Carver's "Cathedral," the husband's view of blind men is changed when he encounters his wife's long time friend, Robert. His narrow minded views and prejudice thoughts of one stereotype are altered by a single experience he has with Robert. The husband is changed when he thinks he personally sees the blind man's world. Somehow, the blind man breaks through all of the husband's jealousy, incompetence for discernment, and prejudgments in a single moment of understanding.
David Sheff’s memoir, Beautiful Boy, revolves around addiction, the people affected by addiction, and the results of addiction. When we think of the word addiction, we usually associate it with drugs or alcohol. By definition, addiction is an unusually great interest in something or a need to do or have something (“Addiction”). All throughout the memoir, we are forced to decide if David Sheff is a worried father who is fearful that his son, Nic Sheff’s, addiction will kill him or if he is addicted to his son’s addiction. Although many parents would be worried that their son is an addict, David Sheff goes above and beyond to become involved in his son’s life and relationship with methamphetamine, making him an addict to his son’s addiction.
The author uses his knowledge of the human brain to emphasize the importance of “Endorphins” when growing up and how the lack of the chemicals “in infancy and early childhood,[creates a greater need] for external sources” (289) such as drugs. Along with his scientific evidence, Mate also uses many of his patients traumatic childhood experiences such as having “dishwashing liquid poured down his throat . . . and was tied to a chair in a dark room to control to his hyperactivity” (289). These patients help create an image for the readers to be able to understand the feelings and the pain addict 's often face in their childhood, that leaves them feeling abandoned and neglected from the rest of the world. Mate even analysis the fact that addict 's can come from home where there is no abuse and the parents try their best to provide a loving and nurturing home. The problem in families like this is often a parent is the one who faced traumatic experience as a child and are not able to transmit the proper love to their child, because they lack the feeling themselves. The author uses the strategy of looking at both the child and the parent experiences to show that the root problem originates from the same outcome, wanting to feel “unconditionally [loved and be] fully accepted even when most ornery”
Another aspect that can be derived from this poem is Atwood’s father’s obvious intentions to give her an awareness of the many adversities life can obtain. He has made sure she leads a life that doesn’t result from a spoiled childhood. He made her attentive of a hard days work, which is probably one of the best things a father can teach his child. It is absolutely essential that parents in general teach their children the many hardships life may behold. This gives the child a better direction in means of future obligations.
...and Theodore Roehtke both had fathers who were hard working, involved men, but both having taken the time to show their sons the attention and love that they deserved. The impact that the fathers played in these poets lives will always be remembered in the poems “Digging” and “My Papas Waltz.”
The crippling effects of alcoholism and drug dependency are not confined to the addict alone. The family suffers, physically and emotionally, and it is the children who are the most disastrous victims. Frequently neglected and abused, they lack the maturity to combat the terrifying destructiveness of the addict’s behavior. As adults these individuals may become compulsively attracted to the same lifestyle as their parents, excessive alcohol and drug abuse, destructive relationships, antisocial behavior, and find themselves in an infinite loop of feelings of emptiness, futility, and despair. Behind the appearance of calm and success, Adult Children of Alcoholics often bear a sad, melancholy and haunted look that betrays their quietest confidence. In the chilling silence of the darkest nights of their souls, they yearn for intimacy: their greatest longing, and deepest fear. Their creeping terror lives as the child of years of emotional, and sometimes physical, family violence.
As an infant, his biological father fled from Hayden and his mother, and at eighteen months, Hayden’s biological mother abandoned him as well, in hopes of “pursuing a stage career in a different state” (Feast 1-5). She handed Robert Hayden over to the next door neighbors, the Haydens, and left without any consideration; however, she moved back to Detroit and would make random frequent reappearances as an attempt to be a part of the Hayden’s life (Feast 1-5). As he grew, the reappearances and disappearances granted nothing but confusion and sadness for him (Feast 1-5). Hayden’s foster mother and biological mother were constantly fighting over him, and as Kelman states, “vi[ed] for his attention” (1016). With Hayden’s best interest in mind, his foster mother attempted to rid his life of the unhealthy and unstable relationship with his biological mother by having his name legally changed to “Robert Earl Hayden” (Kelman 1016). What originated as a kind gesture from his foster mother’s heart quickly sprouted from consolation into a greedy desire for praise. Although Hayden was grateful, his foster mother would not only constantly remind him of the deeds she had done but also constantly force him to thank her repeatedly for them, almost as if she were seeking his praise (Kelman 1016). While his mother received some sort of ecstasy by demanding Hayden’s
“When I was 13, my dad started drinking more and more. Every day he would come home from work and have beer, lots of it. I didn’t think much of it at first, but then he started getting more angry and violent. He would shout at my mom and me. It was like my father had gone and been replaced with another guy” says an anonymous kid who lives with an alcoholic parent in “How my dad’s drinking problem almost destroyed my family”. The kid depicts that he is so confused, angry and upset especially when his father got fired for going to work drunk. This is one of many children’s voices who suffers having an alcoholic in their family. Most of them are depressed because alcohol has destroyed their family. This is an addiction that does
My father passed away in 1991, two weeks before Christmas. I was 25 at the time but until then I had not grown up. I was still an ignorant youth that only cared about finding the next party. My role model was now gone, forcing me to reevaluate the direction my life was heading. I needed to reexamine some of the lessons he taught me through the years.
Robert Frost was described as one of the greatest poets in the 20th century and became a sensation for poetry. It is not just his poems that interest the reader, but also his quotes can fulfill your compassion. This quote for example, “No tears in the writer, no tears in the reader. No surprise in the writer, no surprise in the reader” (Frost), shows that Frost will not feel a connection with the reader if the reader does not connect with his poetry. Frost presented a poem called “The Gift Outright” at John F. Kennedy’s Inauguration. In order for the audience to relate to what Frost was saying, Frost had to succeed at his connection with the audience. This The farmer poet, Robert Frost was introspective by his surroundings and connected to his readers.
Everyone has that one person in their life has influenced to be who they are. Some weren’t meant to be looked up to, still somehow that person shaped them to be who they are today. It could be anyone, a friend, teacher, most of the time a parent. A parent that has influenced their child would be a hard parent, who disciplined and showed the real world to their kid, for what it really is. In hopes that their kid will survive the real world and pass on their knowledge to their kids and their children and so on.