Mother Interview Paper The woman I interviewed was my boyfriend’s mother Maureen Del Vecchio. She is a 49 year old single mother of two. Growing up Maureen was the second youngest of four girls. She spent most of her life growing up in Levittown New York on Long Island. Throughout her childhood, her mother was the boss of the house- what she said, went. An experience is very personal, and we have different experiences based on overall dynamics, past experiences and events, personal beliefs and attitudes, and many more factors that contribute to the different aspects of how we view and live life. When I interviewed Maureen, I know from personal experience that different stages of my life were different kinds of experiences. For that reason, …show more content…
But they can also be rewarding, fulfill us with a sense of security, and sometimes the best thing to happen to us. As human beings we have a need for compassion, love and affection, and companionship. Similarly to the experiences of stages through life, I asked Maureen to explain her relationships with different groups of people to understand the diversity between them. Dating was the first up and she explained that she met and dated her husband at a young age; having a few relationships in between a breakup with her husband as teenagers, she found that all roads lead back to him. As the years went on after marrying in early adulthood and having two boys, things took a turn “Our relationship was toxic because he had an addiction problem; we loved each other but just could not live together”. He died in 2005 from a heart attack due to an overdose in his apartment; since his death Maureen has not re-entered the dating field because she is afraid to get back out there. Non-romantic relationships are just as important, if not more important than romantic ones, friendships are your crutch, especially if you are a women. Growing up Maureen said that she did not have many friends but the ones she had were good and she is still friends with two of them still; and they are very important to her today. I am a strong believer in quality over quantity and that is one key belief that Maureen …show more content…
Growing up, her hopes and dreams for the future were to be a teacher until she realized the schooling involved, and then she didn’t want to do it. Over time her hopes and dreams changed when she went to work instead of school. She worked in two different industries and there was a time she regretted it and wished she had gone to school instead. But she was in a rush to grow up, and thinking back on it now that she has been working since 17, she wishes she could’ve gone back to school to figure out a career. Other than her dreams career wise, she has always wanted to be a mom like her own. “As far as the mom thing goes, I am so glad I have both of my boys and would not change that for the world”. Similarly to Maureen’s personal growth, society has changed and grown over the years, and she believes that women today most definitely have more opportunity then when she was growing up. Hand in hand with her beliefs of society changing over time is her obvious change of views and personal beliefs when it comes to things prior discussed such as sex, gender identity and transgender, men and women, and Feminism. She feels that the older she got, the more matured her thinking has been on these issues and views. Unfortunately she does also believe that men and women love behind stereotypes as a sort of blueprint or code on how we should live our lives, or even a “how-to” on living a “happy”
Regardless of the form in which it exists- be it romantic, familial, or platonic- the love and many relationships which manifest between people functions as a defining factor in the development of all individuals in both an intrapersonal and interpersonal context.
Human beings are not isolated individuals. We do not wander through a landscape of trees and dunes alone, reveling in our own thoughts. Rather, we need relationships with other human beings to give us a sense of support and guidance. We are social beings, who need talk and company almost as much as we need food and sleep. We need others so much, that we have developed a custom that will insure company: marriage. Marriage assures each of us of company and association, even if it is not always positive and helpful. Unfortunately, the great majority of marriages are not paragons of support. Instead, they hold danger and barbs for both members. Only the best marriages improve both partners. So when we look at all three of Janie’s marriages, only her marriage to Teacake shows the support, guidance, and love.
She pays attention to the mother and daughter 's shoes, dresses and jewelry, and image their conversation, I because she wants to feel that she is also involved in such relationship between mothers and daughters. Then here comes a question, I keep asking myself this question. She lost her mother when she was nineteen, did she ever have those moments in her life before her mother died?, then I re-read this essay again, the last two paragraphs makes feel that she might not have those moments with her mom before, or she even had a bad relationship with her mother before, because she said " I suspect that we would have been friends... The woman inside the mother.” That might mean before her mother died, she was too young, she might not have a good relationship with her mother, but after her mother died, she starts to regret and miss the time when her mother still around. Anna leaves us a sad ending, “And I think that my fantasies… Then again, maybe not.” It contains sadness, lost and
Karen, R., (1998). Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love. New York: Oxford Press.
From the time a child enters preschool, teachers begin asking a common question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” That dreaded query has always haunted me, mostly because the way it was redundantly asked put a ton of pressure on me and my peers. The question was like a rusty nail being hammered into our head’s by society. I continuously had the cliché answers of becoming a doctor, teacher, or a police officer, but with serious reservations. After years of not having a clue, I started to think about what I like to do after the stresses of work and school were gone at the end of the day.
She and her siblings largely experienced much of the same ‘adventure’ as her mother liked to call it. They even ended up in the same big city together. The three older siblings, Lori, Brian, and Jeannette herself, all lead successful lives. Her divorce and Brian’s may have been an after effect of their rearing, but for the most part, they were full fledged members of conventional society. As was Lori. Maureen, though, struggled later in life. She became exponentially dependant on others and then later on cigarettes and alcohol. The problem was that she was dependant on her parents who were no more equipped to take care of her than they were
Fairy tales tell us that once upon a time a girl met a boy; they fell in love, and lived happily ever after. Reality is not that simple. Long-term relationships force couples to get to know each other, involve themselves in each others’ worlds, fight through the hard times, and eventually develop deeper connections as noted through distinctive stages of Knapp’s relationship model. Although I have dated the same person for over two years, our communication through relationship stages makes it seem as though I am now dating a different person than the one I met years ago. Following dissolution and subsequent repair, I realize the most exhilarating of roller coaster rides develop through sets of ups and downs, much like the stages on how our relationship is built.
It shows her desire to assert what little independence and control she has in the face of the strict gender roles she experiences within her society. She explains to Frank that she believes that the “idea that people have to resign from real life and ‘settle down’ when they have families… [is] the great sentimental lie of the suburbs” (117). She finds it difficult, like many women of her time, to find a medium between who she is and who she is expected to be, but tries to create a balance. Nevertheless, her efforts to do so are consistently ruined by the variables around her, causing her to become more and more frustrated with her
Extensive demographic and cultural shifts have taken place over the past few decades that have made late adolescence and early twenties into a new transitional developmental period known as emerging adulthood for young individuals across industrialized societies. Arnett (2000) argues that emerging adulthood is a “distinct period of the life course” that is “characterized by change and exploration of possible life directions” (469). Additionally, a critical area of identity exploration during emerging adulthood is love and romantic relationships. Arnett contends that “demographic changes in the timing of marriage and parenthood in recent decades has led to prolonged periods of adolescence and delayed adulthood transitions” (470). By postponing
In the reading “Who Goes to College” written by Cecilia Rodriguez Milanes I was able to see myself in her situation. When she was a senior she had no idea what she was going to do her following year, all she knew was that her parents wanted her to attend college. She always wanted to work, she liked being able to provide for herself but her parents always told her that college would come first. She had no clue of how college worked, what classes she would take or what she would do there. After all the confusion she had of what college truly is, she began to love it. I believe that Cecilia Rodriguez chose the right path, even though she was not completely sure of what she wanted to do she always worked hard and never let any obstacle put her
‘Every day we create relationships by means other than formal contracts... As individuals form relationships they necessarily bring their accumulated experiences and developed personalities with them. In ways unknown to them, what they expect from the relationship reflects the sum total of their conscious and unconscious learning to date.’ (Spindler, 1994, p328)
I interviewed a fifty-five year old female named Theresa Geis. She is married to Robert Geis and they have four daughters including me. They reside in Denver, Colorado with one daughter still in the house. Theresa graduated with a master’s degree in teaching with a focus in special education. She grew up in Greeley, CO but enjoys Denver and where she is currently at. Theresa and Robert have had the same house in Denver for twenty-one years now and have recently bought a cabin in Estes Park which is on the border of Rocky Mountain National Park.
The fairy tales say that once upon a time a girl met a boy; they fell in love, and lived happily ever after. Reality is not that simple. Long-term relationships force couples to get to know each other, involve themselves in each others’ worlds, fight through the hard times, and eventually develop deeper connections through distinctive stages of Knapp’s relationship model. Although I have dated the same person for over two years, the stages of our communication make it seem as though I am now dating a different person following dissolution and subsequent repair. However, even the most exhilarating of roller coaster rides develop through a combination of ups and downs, much like the stages of a relationship.
Most children seem to have ideas of what they would like to be when they grow up. The average person walking into any kindergarten class today would find future teachers, lawyers, doctors, nurses, astronauts, firefighters, and ballerinas; the list is endless. I never had the chance to even dream about what I wanted to be when I grew up and was given little chance to develop my own tastes and ideas towards this goal. I spent my childhood trying to be the good example to my younger brother and sister that my father demanded in his letters. All the while I was hoping and praying that my mother and father would get back together. The only thing I knew was being a mom and that is what I thought I wanted to be.
full time task of raising a baby. Her world is changed from her world of