Mother-Daughter Relationships In Carrie And Gilmore Girls

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Adolescence is the point in a person’s life that plays a vital role in the formation of the man or woman they are to become. Not every journey or experience is the same, but every girl and boy has to go through it to officially be ushered into the adult world. For a young lady, the most important thing in her journey to womanhood is her mother. The mother plays the role in guiding her daughter through her adolescent experiences in a healthy way. She is able to use her experiences to teach her daughter but also allow her daughter to learn from her own mistakes and make her experience her own. In the novel Carrie written by Stephen King and the television series Gilmore Girls created by Amy Sherman-Palladino, there are two examples of mother/daughter relationships and the effects the mothers had on their daughter’s transitions through adolescence into adulthood. The two relationships differ because of maternal and community support, maternal guidance and teachings to the daughter on how to be a woman, parenting styles, and honesty about the mistakes the mother’s made. The relationships are similar because both girls are in high school, …show more content…

Firstly, both Carrie and Rory are teenage girls trying to be successful in becoming the ideal women while still learning and struggling along the way. Secondly, they also both lived in small towns and were high school students. High school is a place for both Carrie and Rory that played an important role in their rites of passage in different ways. For Carrie it represented a temporary up rise to an ultimate downfall. She thought she would finally be able to fit in. Rory’s experience was more positive. She made friends at both her old and new school. Thirdly, Rory and Carrie both have girls who dislike them in high school who try to start problems and bully them. Unlike Carrie, Rory was able to handle herself against the mean girls in her

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