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Connie and Her Fantastical Friend The work “Where Are You Going? Where Have You Been?” by Joyce Carol Oates is a story of a young girl that faces certain coming-of-age experiences in a matter of a few days. Themes of adolescent challenges, naïveté, and fate, along with the idea of an exterior and a false façade, are prominent ideas that appears throughout the story. With the protagonist, Connie, at the center of the story, the reader sees the world around her in a very curious way.
The short story centers around the life of a beautiful girl named Connie and eventually, her vivid interaction with a man named Arnold Friend. Through descriptions of her actions and daily life, she
She is described as someone who “was twenty-four and still lived at home.” The inclusion of the word “still” in the previous sentence gives a negative impression of June. The characters do have good qualities, but they are all shown in relation to the more negative ones. The author is so clear on the flaws of the characters that their good qualities are accentuated when they are mentioned. For example, it is not too evident, but Connie actually loves her mother very much. During the chaos of Connie reaching for the phone, she cries out for her mother. Then, as she is laying on the ground, she thinks to herself, “I'm not going to see my mother again.” It is an incredibly drastic contrast to her earlier disliking of her mother that is seen in the line: “…Connie's mother kept picking at her until Connie wished her mother was dead and she herself was dead and it was all over”
First, there is the name of the antagonist. “Arnold Friend” provides a great contrast to the actual personality of the character because he is anything but a friend. The fact that this name is posted on his car door shows that the author mindfully thought about the name of the character and how it shapes the readers’ view of him. The same car is so loud and flashy that it seems almost unreal. The car is such an important part of the story that, in a way, it seems to be its own character. Friend also draws an X in the air during his interaction with Connie. It is an ambiguous symbol but at the same time very fitting for his future
In “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been?”, Oates wants to show a more intellectual and symbolic meaning in this short story. Oates has many symbolic archetypes throughout the short story along with an allegory. Oates uses these elements in her story by the selection of detail and word choice used. Oates does this because she wants to teach her audience a moral lesson.
Oates, Joyce C. "Where Are You Going? Where Have You Been?" Compact Literature. By Laurie G. Kirszner and Stephen R. Mandell. 8th ed. Boston: Wadsworth, 2013. 505-16. Print.
Connie is only concerned about her physical appearance. She can be described as being narcissistic because "she had a quick, nervous giggling habit of craning her neck to glance into mirror or checking other people's faces to make sure her own was all right" (Oates 148). Connie wants her life to be different from everyone else's in her family. She thinks because she is prettier, she is entitled to much more. She wants to live the "perfect life" in which she finds the right boy, marries him, and lives happily ever after. This expectation is nothing less than impossible because she has not experienced love or anything like it. She has only been subjected to a fantasy world where everything is seemingly perfect. This is illustrated in the story when Connie is thinking about her previous encounters with boys: "Connie sat with her eyes closed in the sun, dreaming and dazed with the warmth about her as if this were a kind of love, the caresses of love, and her mind slipped over onto thoughts of the boy she had been with the night before and how nice he had been, how gentle, the way it was in movies and promised in songs" (151).
Connie has the need to be viewed as older and as more mature than she really is, all the while still displaying childlike behavior. She shows this childlike behavior by “craning her neck to glance in mirrors [and] checking other people’s faces to make sure her own was all right” (Oates 323). This shows that Connie is very insecure and needs other people’s approval. Although on one side she is very childish, on the other side she has a strong desire to be treated like an adult. This longing for adulthood is part of her coming of age, and is demonstrated by her going out to “bright-lit, fly-infested restaurant[s]” and meeting boys, staying out with those boys for three hours at a time, and lying to her parents about where she has been and who she has been with (Oates 325, 326). “Everything about her ha[s] two sides to it, one for home and one for anywhere that was not home” (Oates 324). Even her physical movements represent her two-sided nature: “her walk that could be childlike and bobbing, or languid enough to make anyone think she was hearin...
Connie's character plays a big role in what ultimately happens to her. Connie is a vain girl that thinks the way you look is everything. She plays the stereotypical part for girls in today's society. She thinks that as long as you are pretty and dress a certain way then you are everything. This comes across when Oates writes "Connie thought that her mother preferred her to June because she was prettier" (980). By flaunting her looks she could easily give a guy like Arnold Friend perverted ideas about her. It could make them see her as easy, which he did.
Arnold Friend’s layers of deception. Connie’s blindness is the pretext of her loss of innocence
The mysterious Arnold Friend goes to Connie’s house. He tries to convince Connie to take a ride in his car. Most people will deny the offer, but seeing as though Connie is unruly, she is easily persuaded by Arnold . Arnold deceives Connie with his charm and ride. He takes her to a place where she does not know. We find that Mr. Friend is not so friendly, but a sick soul with a loose tongue. In addition to this I agree with author Christina Marsden Gills of “Short Story Criticism, vol.6” when she explains that:
A mysterious car pulled into Connie’s driveway and the driver proceeds to get out of his vehicle, showing that he belonged there, not recognizing the car Connie opens the door to her house and leans out it. “She went into the kitchen and approached the door slowly, then hung out the screen door,” (2). Without even knowing who or why this person has come to her house, Connie opens her door and leans out to possible talk to the driver, who would turn out to be Arnold Friend and wants to take her on a “date”. Connie’s ignorance towards Arnold and his arrival almost immediately puts her in a vulnerable state without her even realizing it, this vulnerability would be the first event to foreshadow Connie’s inevitable kidnapping. After greeting and talking to Arnold for a little, he proceeds to ask Connie if she wants to go for a ride in his car. Instead of turning down the offer since she barely, if at all, knew Arnold, Connie somewhat debates it. “Connie smirked and let her hair fall loose over her shoulder,” (3). Though she lacks any information about Arnold, Connie kind of debates taking up his offer to go for a ride, further letting her ignorance towards the entire situation usher her into an even more vulnerable
When approached by Arnold Friend at first, she was skeptical but was still charmed by him. As she began to feel uneasy, Connie could have used her intuition to realize that he was trouble. Once she had been engaged by Arnold, her life was over. The influences on Connie and her lack of instilled reasoning led to her down fall. Her family’s fragmented nature was echoed in her actions; consequently, she was unable to communicate with her parents, and she was never was able to learn anything of significance. She felt abandoned and rejected, because no one took the initiative to teach her how to make good decisions. Connie was unable to mature until she was faced with death and self sacrifice. In the end, her situation made it difficult for her to think and reason beyond the position she was in. By not being able apply insight, she fell into Arnold Friends lure. Misguidance by the parents strongly contributed to Connie’s
Connie’s clothes and infatuation with her own beauty symbolize her lack of maturity or knowing her true self, which in the end enables her to be manipulated by Arnold Friend. Connie was enamored with her own beauty; in the beginning of the story Oates states that Connie “knew
Rubin attempts to convey the idea that Connie falls asleep in the sun and has a daydream in which her “…intense desire for total sexual experience runs headlong into her innate fear…” (58); and aspects of the story do seem dream like - for instance the way in which the boys in Connie’s daydreams “…dissolved into a single face…” (210), but the supposition that the entire episode is a dream does not ring true. There are many instances in which Connie perceives the frightening truth quite clearly; she is able to identify the many separate elements of Friend’s persona - “… that slippery friendly smile of his… [and] the singsong way he talked…” (214). But because of the lack of attachment with her own family, and her limited experience in relating deeply to others, “…all of these things did not come together” (214) and Connie is unable to recognize the real danger that Arnold Friend poses until it is too late.
The protagonist of the story, Connie, reminds me of Little Red Riding Hood. Like Little Red Riding Hood, Connie is naive and childish in her ways, unaware of the dangers in the real world. Connie still believed that when she met a boy, they would have a “Cinderella” like kind of romance where a boy rescues her from her family and, like a Disney fairy tale, live happily ever after. This was evident in when she began “wondering about the boy from the night before and how nice he had been...the way it was in movies and promised in songs”. Connie believed that “Eddie” was her “prince charming”, letting her all the easily be fooled by Arnold Friend.
Arnold Friend’s arrival on the scene of the story marks the beginning of most critical arguments and suggestions. His character is that of a sexually hungry predator who goads Connie into his embrace. The allusions
Reminiscing the events in the neighborhood and school, many of the situations directly relate to the incidences Connie goes through in the story. She tried to create a sexy appearance and enticing boys in the local diner serve to explore the new worlds. Her bold step on searching for independence has brought her a brutal
Connie, a vain, self-absorbed 15 year old girl, begins to distance herself from her parents’ control and protection by lying to her mother about meeting up with boys and friends that her mother is concerned about. During one of her secret outings, Connie meets Arnold Friend who encourages her longing for independence and her desire to abandon her childhood. Through emotional and physical violence, Friend forces her transition into the adult world, disconnecting her from her childhood. Connie’s move towards independence and her separation from her parents are hastened due to Friend’s