The Lack of Male Intimacy
As I sit in the auditorium of the school I attend, I listen to the speaker of the day make his fatal mistake. He has done well up until now, relating to us only facts and ideas. Now, he has suffered from a lapse in judgment, and seems to have forgotten his surroundings - an all male audience. He has the audacity to display genuine, vulnerable emotion. I wait for the response I know he will get. The sound fills my ears. The all male audience brings forth a sarcastic and mocking chorus of "awwwwwww."
One could not imagine the same event transpiring in an all female group. It is pretty much commonly accepted that men do not show emotion. It is pretty much commonly accepted among men that men should not show
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Some men are criticized for having a fear of intimacy. The sheer fact that the term is used as one of criticism, rather than just one of reality, shows that many men do not have the problem, and that some women prefer men who are ready to share their emotions. Some men are addressing the issue directly. In the essay "Can Gays and Straights be Friends?", Paul Monette states, "We make terrific friends, we queers, perhaps because we have traveled so far to reach the free country of the heart. All men deserve to live there." That he speaks of homosexuals and heterosexuals is secondary to his idea that all men deserve to live openly, which involves expressing emotions. Men expressing themselves emotionally can be seen in plenty of other places. If one listens to the radio, they are bound to hear a number of songs about sex, and probably an equal number about love or other emotions. All sung by males. The same is true of other mediums of pop culture, such as movies and television. As these images become more visible, men are more likely to feel comfortable about the idea of men revealing their emotions. While there is not an equal number of men secure with expressing their emotions as women, there is a much higher instance than in previous
An Investigation Into How the Thickness of Insulation Affects the Time a Drink Takes to Cool Down
It is important however to note that the NH4 and K ions are still in
Aim: The aim of this experiment was to determine the empirical formula of magnesium oxide.
As young men grow up, they would generally learn and integrate within a box of codes which shows them how to be a man, known as the Guy Code. The Guy Code is a set of rules prevalently applied among men groups about how a man behaves with other men and his girlfriend. It mainly teaches guys to be dominant, aggressive and fearless. In Michael Kimmel’s “ Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code”, he indicates that men disguise their emotions and inner beings to be like a man, particularly among their peers. It imposes a consciousness that timidity is not a characteristic that men should have.
An article entitled “How Boys Become Men,” written by Jon Katz was originally published in January, 1993 in Glamour, a magazine for young women. This article details the process of a boy growing into a man and mainly focus on the lesson boys learn that effect their adult lives. These lessons are about how to hold back emotions and never appeared sensitive. The author includes examples of his own experiences as a boy to convey to the reader the challenges of growing into a man. Through the various stories of young boys, the author is trying to prove that the men are insensitive because they had to learn to hide their feelings during the stage of growing up with other boys. The purpose of the author is to explain the women of the world, why men appear to be emotionalist and “macho.” The author’s main idea of this article is to explain why men are insensitive and to help women understand why men sometimes seem “remote” and “uncommunicative.”
The Effect of Concentration on Reaction Rate Introduction I will be carrying out an investigation into how concentration affects reaction rate. I will be looking at sodium thiosulphate and hydrochloric acid. The reaction is represented by the following equation: [IMAGE]Na2S2O3(aq) + 2HCl(aq) 2NaCl(aq) + H2O(l) + SO2 (g) + S (s) I will add the hydrochloric acid to the Sodium Thiosulphate and time how log it takes for the mixture to turn opaque. I will use a different concentration of Sodium Thiosulphate each time. Prediction
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heat will stay in the cup and can only escape by rising to the surface
CSA has very adverse impacts on devolving healthy intimate romantic relationships. Some victims of CSA decide to abstain from sexual activity altogether (Noll 2003) or feel a low sexual drive or feel guilt when aroused (Levenkron 2007) “CSA survivors have more difficulties in their adult relationships, reporting insecure attachment, lower levels of sexual and relationship satisfaction, and more marital dissolution. Two cases in “Stolen Tomorrows” of this are Gina and Olivia. Olivia’s marriage suffered, and ended in divorce, because of her total disinterest in sex. She had no sexual desire at all and lacked the ability to be aroused, which was a result of the sexual abuse her father had put her through. In order to cope with the abuse she developed a “mental novocain” that disconnected her from feeling anything “down there”.
...ature (men have a biological need to have sex and if there is a woman next to them in bed when they are in the mood they just cannot help it), we may see it as a misunderstanding (although I told him I didn't want to, maybe I gave him the wrong signals somehow), we may have religious issues which question our right to refuse intercourse (I have got to submit myself to him and accept his will above mine as my Lord and Master)” (Hidden Hurt).
with a tong to see if the magnesium had started to burn and also to
3 cm of magnesium ribbon generally has a mass of 0.04 g and yields 40 cm3 of hydrogen when reacted with excess acid. 50 cm3 of 1M hydrochloric in this experiment is in excess.
Sexuality is a necessary means of survival. In order for a population to continue the species relies on sexual reproduction to produce offspring to continue to thrive. There is a natural, internal instinct for sex just like an instinct to seek out food and shelter. They are all drives that we experience in order to keep going. “In most species, females are unwilling to engage in sex except during estrus, a period when the female is ovulating, sex hormone levels are high, and the animal is said to be in heat.” (Garrett, pg. 200) This means that most species of animals only engage in sex when the possibility of reproduction is present. People, however, are interesting because we have a more developed sexual drive. Sexuality for humans is more than just a means of reproduction and continuing our species. Sexuality has become evolved because people experience a much deeper, and social connection through sex with another person. This is not known to be true for many animal species, which is why human sexuality is such a complex
Sexual normality implies the innate amalgamation of one’s sexual drive, or libido, with a predetermined sexual goal, i.e., copulation. This ossified concept of normality produces a fragmentary view of sexual theory. Therefore, normality is not necessary or sufficient for sexuality; human sexuality is individual, not universal. An innate association of sexual drive with a specific sexual goal is incompatible with a comprehensive examination of human sexuality.
A fundamental step for understanding the links between human nature and intimate relationships is by understanding human sexuality. Alfred Kinsey, in his pioneering study on human sexual behaviour, illustrated the degree to which individuals differ in their sexual attitudes, beliefs and preferences (Kinsey, Pomeroy & Martin, 1948). In particular, a marked difference was highlighted in individuals’ sociosexual attitudes and behaviours. Following this, many of the sociosexual features individuals differ in, including preferred frequency of sexual intercourse, the number of different sexual partners they predict to have in the future, and their willingness to engage in uncommitted relationships, have shown to covary (Eysenk, 1976, as cited in Barnes, Malamuth & Check, 1984). Considered together, these features compose an individual difference dimension named sociosexuality (Snyder, Simpson & Gangestad, 1986). Sociosexuality reflects the tendency to engage in uncommitted, casual sexual encounters (Simpson & Gangestad, 1991). Those with a restricted sociosexual orientation typically prefer closeness and commitment from their romantic partner before engaging in sex (Simpson & Gangestad, 1991). Such individuals claim they rarely have one-night stands, and require emotional intimacy within a romantic relationship before feeling comfortable with sex (Simpson & Gangestad, 1991). Conversely, unrestricted individuals require little or no emotional bond with a partner in order to have sex. These individuals are more likely to be involved in extra-marital relationships (Seal, Agostinelli & Hannett, 1994), and exhibit more frequent displays of sexual assertiveness such as flirting (Simpson, Gangestad & Nations, 1996).