Jess, Bend it Like Beckham
From what it seems like even as a child Jess a young indian girl has always loved soccer, her parents didn’t mind when she was a child but to them she has reached an age where it is time for her to stop playing soccer and get married, but Jess doesn’t wish to have a husband, she had dreams of her own. In the movie Bend it Like Beckham, the main character Jess deals with internal conflicts such as her Family’s expectations vs her Own expectations.
Ever since Jess was a child she wanted to be a professional soccer player or “football player,” but her parents had different plans for her. For Jess she wants to follow her dreams and play soccer, but her parents wish for her to get a husband like her sister. Through the film Jess gets noticed by a soccer team and is asked to play… But she has to wear shorts to play which is one thing that goes against her religious beliefs and even her own. Though she can deal with going against her mother's wishes, she has internal conflicts, like scarring on her legs from when she was a child and burnt herself, and majority of the skin on her upper thigh. She eventually concours her internal conflict
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with showing her scars but, her mother finds out about her wearing shorts and doesn't take to it so well. When Jess was younger her mother didn't mind so much that she played soccer but as she grew older, her mother feared more and more that she would not find a husband and dishonor the family name.
To her mother it is abnormal that Jess would rather play soccer with boys, than go shopping with her sister and her friends. Also her mother thinks it is time that Jess stops playing soccer all day and go out and find a husband, her mother really wants the best for Jess but her idea of what's best is completely different than Jess’ idea of what's best for herself. Though her mother is trying to keep Jess’ feelings in mind she is forced to forbid her from playing soccer due to her beliefs of what is best for her daughter in her opinion, but this doesn’t stop Jess from following through with her
dreams. At one point in the film, Jess’ mother had completely forbid Jess from playing soccer. This didn't stop Jess from doing what she loved, she continued to practice with her team in secret, and was forced to hide it from her mother. She comes to practice, very upset one day and her coach is able to cheer her up and get her to do what she loves, play a good game of soccer. On the day of Jess’ sisters wedding and american scout was going to be at her game, so she was torn between completely disobeying her father, but mainly her mother, and going to her soccer game and possibly fulfilling her dreams. During the wedding she sneaks away, and goes to her game. Long after the wedding had passed she came clean and told her parents. Her dad was first to accept and allow her to play soccer. For her mother is was a very difficult decision and eventually decides that she has taught jess what she needs to know, and what she does with her life is up to her. From what it seems like even as a child Jess a young indian girl has always loved soccer, her parents didn’t mind when she was a child but to them she has reached an age where it is time for her to stop playing soccer and get married, but Jess doesn’t wish to have a husband, she had dreams of her own. Through this small journey Jess overcame internal conflicts, with showing her legs due to scarring. She had come to a common ground with her parents, and finally got their approval to follow through with what she wanted in life. Most important was she followed her dreams and did what she loved with her life, playing football.
Roxanne faces a relationship crisis with her fiance since he wants to receive a scholarship and play college ball in another city. Roxanne had no past experience and Roberta suggests her to “try not to get too worked up about [the issue] … [because] [she] [will] get it straightened out” (32) eventually. Roberta enlightens Roxanne about the uncertainty in life and that one should make their own decisions. Thus, Roxanne also gains from Roberta’s advice.
Not every teenage girl or teenager gets along with their parents. Everyone sees things in different way. the difference in the point of view provokes the narrator's response, because they both see in a different view that they think their parents is selfish and neglecting or don't care about them but really their parents are helping them.
Although, a mother’s determination in the short story “I Stand Here Ironing” mother face with an intense internal conflict involving her oldest daughter Emily. As a single mother struggle, narrator need to work long hours every day in order to support her family. Despite these criticisms, narrator leaves Emily frequently in daycare close to her neighbor, where Emily missing the lack of a family support and loves. According to the neighbor states, “You should smile at Emily more when you look at her” (Olsen 225). On the other hand, neighbor gives the reader a sense that the narrator didn’t show much affection toward Emily as a child. The narrator even comments, “I loved her. There were all the acts of love” (Olsen 225). At the same time, narrator expresses her feeling that she love her daughter. Until, she was not be able to give Emily as much care as she desire and that gives her a sense of guilt, because she ends up remarrying again. Meanwhile narrator having another child named Susan, and life gets more compli...
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Throughout Jessica’s journey of losing her leg, she acquires an enormous level of support and comfort from her family while she is finding her way. Losing a leg is something that nobody ever wants to happen, but Jessica doesn’t get this choice. Along the way of the process of healing, Jessica’s family gives her so much support. Jessica states, “Mom’s been so strong through all this. So positive. I, on the other hand,
She allows her mother to control her and make decisions for her. During their conversation, she asks her mom if she should marry Mr. Jones even if she does not love him. Her mother does not seem to care until Helen mentions that he is Vice-President of the company. Her mother says that she should marry him whether she loves him or not because he will be able to take care of her and Helen. They continue to discuss how Helen can marry this man that she doesn’t like so she will never have to work again and he can support her mother, or she can say no at the risk of losing her job and not being able to support her mother anymore. Helen ties in how life is making her “feel like I’m stifling!” (591). Again, I feel this is another representation of Helen not being able to handle the pressures of society. Helen can’t talk about important decisions she has to make without feeling claustrophobic and blowing up by saying things like “I’ll kill you!” (592). I think she blows up because her mother is always nagging her and she can’t handle it in that moment anymore, especially since it is a conversation about
She feels that caregivers don’t trust their children and that they rather than giving their child commands. I see some similarities of my life and experiences that I found in the text. When I was growing up, I pretty much had a childhood. Me and my sister will play outside and do things without being supervised by my parents. We were able to explore outside and make up games to play with other kids. When it rain and snow me and my sister will use our imagination and create games such as house or school. My parents didn 't control our childhood they didn 't create activities, nor tell me what to do with our free time. I was pretty much free. But as I got older, parents started to be involved in my life and started to plan my future. The concepts of the worldviews, biases, and assumptions that are used in the text is that parents make it difficult for their children to interact with their surroundings because it ends with the consequences. Ellen claims that a child should learn how to use their imagination instead of following the rules. The worldviews that are found in my personal and education life is that the author’s perspective about how she see the world relates to
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Parent/Child relationships are very hard to establish among individuals. This particular relationship is very important for the child from birth because it helps the child to be able to understand moral and values of life that should be taught by the parent(s). In the short story “Teenage Wasteland”, Daisy (mother) fails to provide the proper love and care that should be given to her children. Daisy is an unfit parent that allows herself to manipulated by lacking self confidence, communication, and patience.
What Jessica desires is to be in control and she sees an opportunity to achieve this within the popular group of the school. Jessica earns her position within her clique by being demanding. She scrutinizes students at school, and her dominant demeanor allows her to control people’s behaviours. Although Jessica plays her part exceptionally well, Valerie is able to see through the facade. During a conversation between Jessica and Val, Val sees the true Jessica. She says, “The confidence was gone, the superiority was missing - all replaced by this weird vulnerability that didn’t look right on her,” (Brown 215). Valerie sees that without her public persona, Jessica is vulnerable. What Jessica desires is control, and without it she feels just as insignificant as those she picks on. By developing a public persona of a confident teenager, Jessica controls people’s lives and makes an impact on others, positive or
This was the illustration of this entire story. As the story goes it present a lot perspective and though of the mother and very little of the girl. More importantly, the story shows that the mother doesn’t really care about how the girl feels about her advice; it wasn’t a choice either she take her advice and become a good daughter and a good wife in the future or she will become known a “slut” who doesn’t follow her tradition. This story will make you wonder if the girl will ever become the perfect girl that her mother wants her to be or if she gets use to the American tradition and not be the perfect girl her mother ought her to
Eva’s lack of value for motherhood shaped the lives of her family as well as her own. Because of her negative feelings toward motherhood, many of the people surrounding her have similar values. Eva reflects her community’s negative perception of motherhood by being straightforward about it and passing it down through her family
The society aspect of women roles and the duties as a woman. Society plays a role that is shown in a parallel between Girl and the Women’s Swimming Pool. In girl, her role is restricted in the direction by her mother. The restrictions come’s with consequences that she has to follow. These restrictions are guidelines that may or may not help her as a woman but she is subjected to do them in order to survive in a society that is controlled by men. While in The Women’s Swimming Pool, the young women finds a way to escape her old culture values and adapt to a new culture. She will be forced to make a decision that will put her in a position that she has to either leave her grandmother or her desire to the pool. Her grandmother is a symbol of her old culture values and the pool is symbolized as the new culture looking forward to change. As the old generation no one is willing to accept change but in the new generations they are willing to search for the change. Which comes with consequences and a great deal of
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