This chapter is about how each family has roles,responsibilities and rights, and understanding them better so we can help our client. There are several types of families; you have the norm, or the nuclear family ,nuclear family consists of mom,dad and kids. Then you have the extended family, meaning you have other generations living in your house. For example grandparents are now living with their children and grandchildren. Finally, you have a blended family; usually happens when parents divorce and get re-married. Because you are bringing two families together, to make the family whole. Blended families can be hard for the step-parent, because you do not want to over step your boudoirs on disciplining your step children. My family is …show more content…
Then the message that you are trying to tell them is not going to get through. “ To be truly effective, communication and rules must be clear cut.,open and consistent, as accepted by that particular culture.” (Crosson-tower, 25) Communication is important with talking with your children, they have to be understood and making sure the parent is not neglecting them when they are trying to tell them something. When a parent is not communicating with their child then other issues will come into an effect and sometimes the abuse comes in and it is hard to come back from …show more content…
When those things happen, the stress on the family can take a toll and lash out to others who are not to blame like children or even towards the spouses. There are four tasks that can have dysfunction on a family (1) not being able to complete a task, (2) Not being able to deal with tasks that are not being started. (3) Not being able to deal with a crisis that is going on within the family. (4) Not being able to deal with other cultures. All of these can start to get to a family, if you do not know how to deal with a crisis and talk it out, all you going to do is cause the crises to get bigger than you will not be able to fix
What exactly is dysfunctional? Who wrote the rules for proper family or societal behavior? How does one know exactly what the proper reaction is? Every family has its crazy members and every city it’s insane citizens, but many do a great job of covering it up. Especially when it comes to being high in social standing.
Families are becoming more diverse and they come in all shapes and sizes. Some people consider families to be strictly biological, while others consider people they love to be their family. Although two-parent families, also known as a nuclear family are the majority, one-parent families are becoming more common in today’s society. A sole-parent is considered to be a parent without a partner or spouse who is the primary care giver of one or more children in a household (Ministry of Social Development, 2010). From the age of 14 onward I was raised by m...
In this millennial it is very common to see a divided family. People get married, discover their differences and often divorce. Yet, with divorce comes many decisions and often a messy outcome. While this may take a toll on a family, remarriage is another issue of it’s own. “Step parents” is what they call them; although no one is quit sure what the word “step” truly insinuates. The sacristy of a marriage and the bond of a family is metaphorically protected by the beamed structure of a home. It isn’t until you read “Stepdaughters” by Max Apple that you catch a glimpse of the interior complications and obstacles, divorced families often face. The author seamlessly paints the very common mother and teenage daughter tension many families endure. Yet, the story is uniquely told by “stepfather number three trying to stay on the sideline” (132). The author focuses on a few issues that a family (divorced or not) may face: overbearing control, lack of trust, and unwanted change. He does this, by use of temporal setting – the dreaded teenage years – and situation – the exhausted disagreement between the mother and daughter.
According to smith and Hamon (2012), Families are considered as a whole in society. However, they believed that couples have many components in which makes up the family, if one component is missing, the family as a whole can get unbalance (Smith & Hamon, 2012). In the Brice’s family, communication was the component that was missing. The couple was not able to communicate their differences, which was what caused Carolyn and David to verbally insult each other. Smith and Hamon (2012), also explain that a person who expresses his or her feeling is considered as someone who is breaking the functions of their family system; especially if the person is focusing on the individual who is causing the problem, rather than the problem itself. In the Brice family, Carolyn could be considered the one that cause the dysfunction in the family structure because she was focusing on David as the problem of their marriage, rather than focusing of the elements that are causing their problems. Smith and Hamon (2012) explain that individuals should focus on how to solve a problem, rather than trying to find who is causing the
To a certain extent, it would be considered abuse. As a parent, they do not want you to tell them how to handle their child simply because that is their child. Every day there is a child out there being abused and will not speak up. Some children think that if they do decide to try and get help, people will not believe them.
In attempting to understand the blended family system, one would be remised if we did not first look at, and understand primarily what a family system dynamic is. Unfortunately, this is a theory that once had very clear cut lines; today those lines are a little burred and more subjective than ever before. Given that the family is an ever changing system with fluid boarders, this author will illustrate some finite distinctions that may separate the typical family system from a blended family system.
Many families have certain roles and traditions that are followed by being taught or just by habit. Within those families are certain roles that are followed or taken on. Some families are patriarchal meaning that the man or father is more dominant or in charge and some families are matriarchal being that the mother is in charge or more dominant and in control. For some families these certain roles fit the family perfectly with not much of an issue which can balance out the family. But unfortunately for other families these roles break the household down making the household unbalanced. And this can cause the family to lack in some areas such as understanding, communication, or forgiveness.
The family dynamic offers multiple perceptions and needs, these may require addressing matters individually as well as on a group level. There may be matters such as domestic violence or substance abuse which requires both individual and family counseling and resources. In times of crisis families need education and coping strategies in order to regain their lives back. The necessities of the family may entail emotional and medical support requirements depending on their situation. When there is a possible case involving violence the focus may turn to more than medical and emotional support and possible removal of the children from the home may be required.
All families have a certain way that they function with each other and have a set way of how they solve problems together. However, some families may find themselves unable to successfully overcome any problems that may occur as well as have difficulties in properly communicating with each other. This occurrence can cause dysfunction and unhappiness within the family unit. According to Hartline (2007), Satir found that each person can improve their lives and relationships with others by changing the way they see and express themselves. She believed that a family puts the blame on one family member for its pain and problems but blame can usually be put upon all members of the family (Hartline, 2007). According to Satir, families will come to see that change in how their household interacts can occur and with that change self-esteem will increase, all family members will become more responsible and all family members will be able to synchronize (Banmen, J. & Banmen K.M., n.d.). To help make this change happen, the family must be able to dwell in a loving atmosphere, they need to have a sense of trust with each other, they must believe that change can happen, and they must be able to meet each other halfway throughout the process of change (Hartline, 2007).
The intent will be to get a better understanding of how children living in stepfamilies households define their family and how they perceive their relationships with other household members. The sample population will be a family counselor (Psychology). I will plan to seat in 10 or so sessions as an observer. Information from the seat-ins will be developed and analyzed. Research findings will be used to help future research.
Ultimately, dysfunctional families create a selfish and unsuspecting society that is ruled by a government of great dominance over the people.
My family was dysfunctional due to the fact that my parents would argue about their responsibilities. This was especially relevant during dinner when I would sit at the table - told minutes before that dinner will be ready soon, but then would wait hours for any food to finally arrive, my parents busy doing work, would forget to cook and instead order dinner from a nearby restaurant.
They do not allow the children to express how they feel, and the children are constantly cleaning up after and taking care of their parents. As long as they please their parents, the children feel happy. Serious family problems can cause confusion. Everyone has mixed feelings, which causes them to lose confidence in the family or themselves. As fear, guilt, blame, and low self-esteem take hold, codependency begins.
There are many types of family that exists in today’s society, each important to the upbringing of any children of which may be apart of it.
To thoroughly elaborate on the institution of family we most look at the family as it was before and how much it has changed over time. Throughout the years we are recognizing that the family is slowly being replaced by other agents of socialization. Families in the past consisted of a mother and a father and most times children. We are, as many societies a patriarchal society; men are usually the head of the households. This has always been considered the norm.