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Tiffaney Bunch
Professor Fylan
English 1220
09 November 2015
I Stand Here Ironing
The short story “I Stand Here Ironing”, by Tillie Olsen, is a first person narrative that includes the protagonist’s memory flashbacks, which give context to the current dialogue. The story reads like a journalistic interview of the Mother, or a one-sided telephone conversation, using a cadence reminiscent of an Irish Mother, both self deprecating and desperately defensive. A back and forth exchange, between a forced explanation of her daughter’s awkwardness and an attempt to justify her own responsibility for contributing to those character flaws. She vacillates between short bursts of intense regret and frustrated pleading.
The narrator is a Mother talking while she is ironing laundry on the ironing board, saying in the first line, “I stand here ironing and what you ask me moves tormented back and forth with the iron”. (270). A metaphoric statement which is symbolic both for the good intentions she had at the beginning and to demonstrate what she hoped her daughter would come to understand. Hard times in life -the iron- have the ability to press someone down flat -the ironed
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dress- , and that her daughter is “more than this dress on the ironing board, helpless before the iron”. (275). Responding to an inquiry requesting insight into her daughter Emily, the Mother counters with her own query as to what gave anyone the belief that she would have an explanation just because she was Emily’s mother. She sounds exasperated and impatient in an effort to make the inquirer leave off. An experienced tactic used to extricate herself from her thoughts, when they unintentionally linger on her daughter’s childhood. The dress she is ironing, gives her something to do with her hands as she, reluctantly, attempts to illuminate the dark parts of her heart, paralyzing thoughts best kept in shadow, where all mothers try to hide their fears. The same thoughts occupy every Mother’s head. Here is her internal rationalization, recrimination, and examination of events that may have been the catalyst for her oldest daughter, Emily, turning out “different”. Specific descriptions like, “pre-relief, pre-war, and world of depression”, (271), and the mention of streetcars, combined with her “running up the stairs” (271) after work and the “woman downstairs” (271) are all clear indications of urban life. These are the images used during the flashbacks and support the depression era backdrop where her story begins. The city setting is at a time before anyone had any social services or government resources. Being a mother during this time of extreme poverty was challenging under the best circumstances, but nearly impossible for a very young single Mother. Her husband had abandoned her and their eight-month-old daughter, Emily. He left a note about how he could “no longer endure” “sharing want” (272) and she was left to look for work, look for him, look after herself and raise Emily alone. Before this critical event initiates the timeline of the desperate choices made by a mother trying to survive, and her own frustrations at the unintended consequences, the love and devotion to Emily is clear. The mother speaks about breast-feeding Emily by a strict clock dictated by the books even though it caused her grief when hearing her baby cry and pain from the breast swelling she endured. She tolerated the pain because she believed it was better for Emily. She vividly recalls the active, happy, confident baby who “loved motion, loved light, loved color and music and texture”, (271) “blew shining bubbles of sound”, (271) and was a “miracle to me” (271). All of these observations are the kind of indicators used by all mothers to identify the unique details specific to each child. Life’s unforeseeable circumstances restricted her ability to parent and create lasting reassurance for Emily. The mother had limited influence and control over everyday hardships. She recalls having to leave Emily with a sitter while she worked all day and the, “clogged weeping that could not be comforted,” (271) response Emily had upon her return from work. The Mother recalls sending Emily to live with the Father’s family until age two and then describes the nightmare of a nursery school where she left Emily because she had no other option. The second time sending Emily to live with family, only returning after the Mother remarried. The narrator indicates how Emily was very often, left alone. The frustration is clear in her detailed memory of Emily’s tearful reactions to or attempted manipulation of these events of separation from the mother. The depressed nature of separation gets worse when the mother goes to the hospital to give birth to a new baby, Emily constricts measles, which leave her thin, frail, and prone to nightmares. There was another separation when Emily had tuberculosis was forced to recover in a convalescent home where visits from her mother were only distant waving since there was no physical contact allowed. The Mother describes Emily’s frozen responses at any attempts to provide physical comfort or assistance once returned home permanently. From all this pathology, the story continues as the mother lists all of Emily’s insecurities, such as skin ruined from pox, low self-esteem because she fears she is not pretty. Emily’s illnesses took a toll not just physically, but her academics were scattered to the point that she had teachers who labeled her a poor student. The mother has other children in their current situation. Times are clearly easier, however, she feels as if the damage may already be irreversible. She compares the differences between Emily and the younger sister, Susan, who is blonde and extroverted.
Susan is the opposite of Emily. The mother is secretly relieved that the level of pressure and anxiety in the top spot of social competitions was never available for Emily because it would have destroyed her. As it stands, the mother sees the things in her daughter through the eyes of someone who observed Emily enduring throughout her life. She does not appear the same way to the mother as she might appear to others who do not know her. For example, there is a point in the story where the Mother recalls how helpful Emily was while the second husband was away in the war, she describes a made up word, “shoogily”, which the younger children use to mean comfort. That word came from Emily. The mother in
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...ck of cards that prevented her from becoming her full potential. When the mother speaks of Emily this way she is simply saying that Emily will find her way through life somehow, someway. She might not become anyone important, she might not do incredible things, and she might not even live the life she wanted. In the end, Emily will still live a life that is worth living with all the mistakes, regrets, and decisions that will all be her own.
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The mother in I Stand Here Ironing speaks of Susan, "quick and articulate and assured, everything in appearance and manner Emily was not." Emily "thin and dark and foreign-looking at a time when every little girl was supposed to look or thought she should look a chubby blonde replica of Shirley Temple." Like Dee, Emily had a physical limitation also. Hers was asthma.
The Mother Daughter Relationship in "I Stand Here Ironing" by Tillie Olsen. I stand here ironing, a unique phrase uttered by a woman in her conquest of life. It may seem like an unwanted phrase to many, but it has a deep meaning behind it. This phrase is almost whispered by the narrator of?I Stand Here Ironing,?
Emily’s mother is just a teenager when she had Emily. She did not have the money or resources to take care of her, so she had to let Emily live with her grandparents for a couple of years before she could get Emily back. When Emily was two, her mother finally got her custody of her, but Emily is not the little girl she remembered. When the mother first had Emily, she described her as a beautiful baby (302), but it changed when Emily became sickly and got scars from chicken pox. The mother said, “When she finally came, I hardly knew her, walking quick and nervous like her father, looking like her father, thin, and dressed in a shoddy red that yellowed her skin and glared at the pockmarks. All the baby loveliness gone. (302)” Nevertheless, the mother is never there for Emily as she grew up. Emily tried to show her mother in different ways that she needed her, but she never seemed to catch the hint. For example, when Emily was two her mother sent her to a nursery school. The teacher of the nursery school was mistreating the children, and instead of telling her mother directly like the other kids told their parents, she told her in different ways. She always had a reason why we should stay home. Momma, you look sick. Momma, I feel sick. Momma, the teachers aren’t there today, they’re sick. Momma, we can’t go, there was a fire there last night. Momma, it’s a holiday
As time went on pieces from Emily started to drift away and also the home that she confined herself to. The town grew a great deal of sympathy towards Emily, although she never hears it. She was slightly aware of the faint whispers that began when her presence was near. Gossip and whispers may have been the cause of her hideous behavior. The town couldn’t wait to pity Ms. Emily because of the way she looked down on people because she was born with a silver spoon in her mouth and she never thought she would be alone the way her father left her.
Because the mother is living in a world of depression a dark wall has wrapped itself around her. Worrying solemnly about the life of her daughter, the mother is neglecting to appreciate the positive attributes her daughter is presenting. Emily is a gifted comedian, "Where does it come from, that comedy?" (p.159) being a comedian during the Great Depression is almost as rare as finding water during an extensive drought. If the mother wasn't as depressed she would be able to appreciate the comedy that Emily is passionate for. The mother's character is left in a state of helplessness reaching out beyond depression to view the comedian inside her daughter.
Emily’s isolation is evident because after the men that cared about her deserted her, either by death or simply leaving her, she hid from society and didn’t allow anyone to get close to her. Miss Emily is afraid to confront reality. She seems to live in a sort of fantasy world where death has no meaning. Emily refuses to accept or recognize the death of her father, and the fact that the world around her is changing.
Plot: Woman gets call at work from her father, telling her that her mother is dead. Father never got used to living alone and went into retirement home. Mother is described as very religious, Anglican, who had been saved at the age of 14. Father was also religious and had waited for the mother since he first met her. They did not have sex until marriage and the father was mildly dissapointed that the mother did not have money. Description of the house follows, very high ceilings, old mansion it seems, with chimney stains, it has been let go. Jumps in time to narrators ex-husband making fun of narrator fantasizing about stains. Next paragraph is the father in a retirement home, always referring to things: ‘The lord never intended.’, shows how old people have disdain for new things, the next generation appears to be more and more sacreligious. Shows streak of meanness when ‘spits’ out a reference to constant praying, narrator claims he does not know who he is talking to, but appears to be the very pious mother. Following paragraph jumps back in time to when narrator was a child, she asks her mother constant questions about her white hair and what color it was, mother says she was glad when it wasn’t brown like her fathers anymore, shows high distaste towards her father, the narrators grandfather.
The narrator reflects and regrets on her daughter Emily’s past. The narrator feels guilty about leaving Emily at a neighbor’s house, sending her to nursery school and a convalescent facility. In her short story “I Stand Here Ironing”, Olsen describes the convalescent home as she insert “The parents stand below shrieking up to be heard and the children shriek down to be heard, and between them the invisible wall “Not To Be Contaminated by Parental Germs or Physical Affection” (226). When Emily is in the convalescent facility, she is cut off from outside world, including the communication with her mother. Besides the convalescent facility, the iron itself also has a symbolic meaning. In the beginning of the short story, Olsen writes “I stand here ironing, and what you asked me moves tormented back and forth with the iron” (223). The narrator is ironing during a phone conversation with an adult concerned about Emily 's well-being. Toward the end, the author express the Emily’s feeling when she says “Aren’t you ever going to finish the ironing, Mother” (229). The non-stop ironing annoys Emily because her own mother is willing to spend the time on ironing despite it would extend the distance between the two of them. The simple act of ironing not only symbolizes the duty as a mother but also represent the helplessness to change the circumstances. The absences of the narrator and the lack of communication weakens the bond
As time goes on Emily grows up, her mother criticizes and blames herself for the distance between the relationships. It is causing tension in their already rocky relationship. The mother is obviously suffering from guilt on how Emily was raised and the unpleasant memories of the past. Emily was also suffering. We see her shyness towards those who care for her. She was a very depressed teen. She had quietness in her daily duties, and her feelings of not being good enough towards herself. She always felt that she was extremely ugly and not smart compared to her younger sister, Susan. She thought she was perfect. She was the typical “Shirley Temple” image.
This feeling takes over through the entire story, creating the second theme. The narrator feels responsible for Emily's upbringing. She regrets ignoring her cries for help, and feels sadness over the way she treated Emily. For an example "Night after night she had nightmares. She would call for me, and I would rouse from exhaustion to a sleepily call back: 'You're all right, darling, go to sleep, it's just a dream,' and if she still called, in a sterner voice, 'now go to sleep Emily, there's nothing to hurt you." Twice, only twice, when I had to get up for Susan anyhow, I went in to sit with
Emily was kept confined from all that surrounded her. Her father had given the town folks a large amount of money which caused Emily and her father to feel superior to others. “Grierson’s held themselves a little too high for what they really were” (Faulkner). Emily’s attitude had developed as a stuck-up and stubborn girl and her father was to blame for this attitude. Emily was a normal girl with aspirations of growing up and finding a mate that she could soon marry and start a family, but this was all impossible because of her father. The father believed that, “none of the younger man were quite good enough for Miss Emily,” because of this Miss Emily was alone. Emily was in her father’s shadow for a very long time. She lived her li...
The short story “I Stand Here Ironing” by Tillie Olsen a remarkable piece of literature involving the struggles many women faced in the 19th century before, during and after the Great Depression. A mother describes her daughter as a “child of her age, or depression, of war, of fear” and constantly reflects over the decisions she has made as a mother. (Olsen, pg. 4). Her story exemplifies the guilt of a mother not being attentive to her daughter as she had been working (“Tillie Olsen” pg. 1). By reading “I Stand Here Ironing”, it is noticeable about the realism of women taking care of their families during the Great Depression.