Hurt People Hurt People Analysis

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Critique of Wilson's Book Hurt People Hurt People
Summary
Wilson’s book Hurt People Hurt People is quite interesting the book is designed to help the readers overcome past wounds. Wilson indicates from the moment we are born we start forming questions for living in such cases the basic questions “Can I be safe? 2) Can I be me? 3) Can I be accepted”? (Wilson, 2001, pg. 73) Throughout ones life these are the questions we will continue to ask until one parts from this world. The first half of the book examines issues that a person may have encountered during childhood such as unavailable parents, shame, physical abuse, sexual abuse, and choices. She moved into discussing how readers can start to heal those childhood wounds with the help of counseling and depending on Christ. Wilson explains her “Theory of Change” she says, “Making and consistently practicing new choices produces change”(Wilson, 2001, p. 87). “New Choices plus Consistent Practice equals Change” (Wilson, 2001, 87).
She also uses a H.O.P.E. Chart that helps with the healing process from all childhood wounds. In order for the Chart to be used correctly one has to establish the key issues then seek the truth about the issue start making new choices and finally put it into a new practice for living in truth instead of lies and deceit. In between every section of her book she has a place for the reader to stop and reflect on what has been discusses and pray about the issues that have been considered. She encourages the reader to seek help if one is struggling with something that has been reviewed.
Wilson uses several different charts that pertain to each topic she examines and how a counselor can implement these charts into the counseling sessions. She also use...

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...ling. I will also it when helping clients are coming to see me for grief counseling. I think it will help by going back to the childhood wounds and start changing the thoughts he or she has about what took place during those years. I feel that this theory will be one that I use when I start counseling because it find it to be extremely helpful with all the different charts that she uses through out her book. I really enjoy the way she approaches every issue with a prayer to help start the process of getting past the past. I will also use scripture to point out God’s truth the way Wilson does in her book. Knowing that hurt people hurt people has actually change the way that I look and interact with all people that I have come into contact with here recently.

References
Wilson, D. D. (2001). Hurt People Hurt People. Grand Rapids, MI: Discover House Publishers.

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