People do not always perceive situations in a way that gives them a good understanding.
They may think they understand, when they are in fact, quite ignorant to the situation. In the story “The Father” by Hugh Garner, Garner develops the idea that if a person does not, or does not want to understand a person and their situation, he may find that this causes him to develop poor relationships and drift apart from others.
With John, we learn right from the start he is not interested in an intimate relationship with his son, Johnny. He is asked, by his wife, to go to his son’s father-and-son banquet for boy scouts and “It was on the tip of his tongue to say, ‘Scout meeting! What do I look like?’" (1). Instead, he inquires about it. Only at the end to harshly accuse his son of being “too shy to ask his own father to go somewhere” (1). John does not understand this his son iis not just “only a twelve-year-old that wants to be left alone” (1). Johnny is a kid who needs a father in his life.
It is only John that has a tensious relationship with his son. The rest of the family gets along fine. His wife and children [quarrel] often, [nevertheless] there [is] no tension between them” (2). This is
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because Johnny’s mother is interested in his life, she knows about his interests, and about his accomplishments. John, knows little to nothing about his son. He knows his son plays baseball, but “[doesn’t] even know what position [he] [plays], or even the name of the team” (3). He knows his son swims two nights a week, but “never thought of him being an exceptional swimmer”(3). John Purcell did not understand his son at all. In fact, “he [seems] to know less about [Johnny] than anyone”(3). His alcoholism doesn’t help this either. John’s drinking is a huge problem in his life. He goes out for drinks before the banquet, and when he is about to leave for the banquet he even “[pours] himself a tall one for the road” (2). He meets another father at the banquet who is no better. They end up each having “three good drinks apiece” (5) during this father-and-son banquet! This of course, does not lead to anything good. John just cannot understand how the way he acts affects his son greatly.
First, he goes up on the stage and makes a fool of himself raising his son’s hand in the air like an idiot. Then he stumbles back to his seat knocking “a vase of flowers and a couple plates... to the floor with a loud crash” (6). He plays this off like a joke not even realizing “[his] boy was sobbing silently” (6). At this point John still finds humor in this whole situation. He tries to tell his son “it was really nothing [and that] it'll be forgotten in a day or two”(7). All Johnny wanted was to be left alone and his father could not even do that, causing Johnny to go “running down the street”(7) It is not until this point that John realizes everything about his relationship with his son was his
fault. John really does not want to understand his son. He doesn’t want to understand who his son is, what he needs, or what he might be going through. He goes through life believing that twelve-year-old’s just want to be left alone. He tries his best to try and isolate himself from his son, buying him what he needs, and not giving much more support than that. He cares not for his son, but for what people will think about him based on his son. Towards the end of the story, it seems like John finally realizes that “It’s always been [his] fault”(7), but he could just be thinking this in the drunken state he is in and not planning on applying it when he sobers up. Throughout this book John Purcell does never fully achieve an understanding of his son. Although, it is more that he does not want to, than it is that he cannot.
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