Sarah Dessen in her book What Happened to Goodbye describes divorce by comparing it to ripping a piece of paper into two, and these two pieces will never be equal and will never fit with each other again. This description of divorce is true because divorce changes the lives of many people and change brings problems to people (Dummett, Hughes, and Stephenson, 2014). In Qatar, divorces have been raised in the last ten years. It marks the end of a previous life and the beginning of a new life for the mother, the father and children. Divorce can happen because of many reasons such as the lack of proper communication between the husband and wife, constant arguing, infidelity, abuse, and many other reasons. Regardless of the cause of divorce, the …show more content…
Children with divorced parents suffer more from mental illnesses. According to Patrick Fagan and Aaron Churchill (2012), children with divorced parents suffer more from anxiety and depression. Also, children with divorced parents exhibit many antisocial behaviors (Fagan & Churchill, 2012). This shows that divorce is not an easy change for children and can result in many mental illnesses that must be dealt with. Parents should not ignore the simplest signs because their children's wellbeing depends on them. Furthermore, divorce affects children by increasing "behavioral, emotional, and psychiatric risks, including even suicide." (Fagan & Churchill, 2012). This shows that the effects of divorce on children can be very dangerous if the situation was not treated wisely. In short, children feel that they lost their sense of safety which triggers all these sad feelings which may develop into depression, anxiety, or anti-social …show more content…
Children with divorced parents usually acquire lower grades in school. Furthermore, according to Bernardi and Radl (2014), children who come from broken homes are less likely to attain a university degree than their peers who come from intact families, especially if their parents were not highly educated. In fact raising child with divorced parents is much more difficult than normal families, because each one of the parents try to achieve child satisfaction and this lead to spoil them. Academic performance needs a stable and normal life so child can do their best. Law academic performance of children with divorced parents happen because the problems at home distracts them from focusing at their education, unlike children from intact families who get the love and support of their parents and are undistracted by family
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Therefore, divorce should be a last resort because it brings nothing but such pain, and affects each individual directly involved in the divorce. For one, divorce causes trauma and exhaustion. Medved states, "The process of evaluating the injuries-of cajoling and pleading and threatening-is emotionally exhausting. The physical act of packing and moving out is traumatic. And from there the trauma escalates"(664). According to this quote divorce causes more pain than closure, leaving both in distress. Furthermore, it affects future relationships. In fact, according to Medved, it brings indefinite "distrust, agony, and bitterness"(665). It is harder to move on, and to find a new partner, when a person's trust and hope has suddenly turned into nothing but a distant memory. Lastly, divorce can cause many different types of psychological disorders including depression, separation anxiety, adjustment disorder, and so on. These are disorders that are difficult, if not impossible to cure. Even though difficult for her to share, Medved writes "Even though I found a satisfying relationship, I am still paying the price of my divorce... I am embarrassed and ashamed."(668) No matter the amount of time passed, the pain and the aftermath of it all, will permanently stay a part of a person involved in a
Divorce can be caused by problems such as drugs, adultery, abuse, and money. The United States is a fast-paced country with little to no time to spend on the basic family values it was founded upon. Jobs are more demanding, kids are spending most of their time with people other than their parents, and the economy drains marriages by causing worry and stress. The foundation upon which marriage was built has been shaken.
Since there are high rates of divorce in America, I decided to write about it. Providing facts that might persuade the reader to think the way I do. Divorce is like a disease, it starts with a disagreement until the relationship is destroyed.
Divorce is a heavy concept that has many implications for those involved. The situation becomes even more consequential when children are considered. As divorce has become more commonplace in society, millions of children are affected by the separation of the nuclear family. How far-reaching are these effects? And is there a time when divorce is beneficial to the lives of the children? This paper will examine some of the major research and several different perspectives regarding the outcomes of divorce for the children involved, and whether it can actually be in the best interest of the kids.
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Most people, when thinking about divorce, worry about the impact that it has on the children that are involved. Even though children are most likely better off if totally incompatible parents separate instead of staying together, divorce is about loss and change, and it is still hard for children. Everyone knows that divorce has its effects on children. There are three different sources that try to explain these effects. Graham Blaine Jr. states that divorce is a threat to all children, whereas Rhona Mahony states that divorce is not always the cause of behavioral or academic problems in children coming from divorced families. Yvette Walczak and Sheila Burns state that the extent of the damage can be determined by the parents and their methods of explanation to the children.
Most people divorce due to uncertain, complicated reasons. Perhaps divorce is a way for some to escape insecurities or personal problems. It’s no secret that divorce has helped people run from their problems instead of facing them. It is easily arguable that divorce is the primary cause of family destruction and relationships. According to American Psychological Association, about 90 percent of the twenty-first century marry by the age of 50 (APA). The APA states that healthy marriages are essential for couples’ mental and physical health. They are also influential when raising children; it also acknowledges that raising children in a happy home shields them from mental, physical, educational and social problems. Nevertheless, approximately
When a couple with a child chooses to get a divorce this can have major impact on a child at any age. There are many causes of stress throughout the divorce process that can negatively affect children. First, negative reactions and behaviors are dependent upon the situation before the divorce. Some studies show that how much parents fight, how it is done, how it is resolved, and what precautions are taken to protect the children from it's effects are the most important predictors of child adjustment (Kelly, 2000). Meaning that if children are exposed to fights about custody, money, or the failing marriage they could feel the repercussions of their parents conflict. Next, divorce can cause children to have heightened fear...
Children can suffer from, fear, grief, anger, depression, shame, sadness, anxiety, embarrassment, self-blame, abandonment, and many other things. (Borden, 2015). There is no guarantee that if a child goes through a divorce that they will experience any or all of these things and there is no guarantee that they would not experience these things if a divorce did not happen as well. A divorce definitely would not help the child in this area and it would be in the best interest of the parents for a divorce to not happen if children were
Divorce, in history, has always been considered as a deviance of society. However, in the modern world, where people have senses of individualism, divorce has become a phenomenon. There are numerous reasons for divorce, from not knowing each other well enough before marriage, lack of money, long distance relationships, frequent disagreements to partners...
Marriage is no longer taken seriously; commitment and monogamy are no longer an essential ingredient. For most couples today, it’s not even considered a part of marriage. The negative effects that divorce has on children should be the number one consideration when a couple hits that hard time in their relationship. Children are psychologically and socially affected by divorce and may need counseling either at the time of their parent’s divorce or in the future. They may react instantly by getting lower grades or becoming depressed or anxious.
Over 60 percent of couples seeking a divorce have children still living at home. ( 6) What some parents don’t realize when they file for a divorce is the great impact that it will have on their kids. Divorce affects children in many ways. It affects kids emotionally and causes them to experience feelings such as fear, loss, anger and confusion. Divorce also hurts a child’s academic achievement. Children whose parents divorce generally have poorer scores on tests and a higher dropout rate. (3)
In the world we live in today, divorce has unfortunately become a normal thing in our lives. Many married couples are getting divorced for many reasons; problems in the marriage, either a spouse having an affair, a loss of feelings, and many other types of complications. Many divorces involve children who are young and due to their age do not understand what is really going on. We all know someone who has dealt with divorce. Children are the ones who are typically affected the most by the divorce and they will have to learn to cope with their parent’s divorce at such a young age, affecting them in positive or negative ways.
Divorce implies many things on a personal and a societal nature. Divorce basically dissolves the basic structuring of a society. Family forms the basic structure of a society and the society almost exclusively relies on the same for survival, without families, there are no societies. While the final choice, if a person wants to get a divorce or is a matter of many conviction and the result is normally the cumulative effort of all these factors pooled up together. One of these