Looking back on my life I have so much to be thankful for. After graduating high school I tried going to college right away, but wasn’t quite ready. I worked in banking for a few years until I had my son at 23. My son brought me so much love and joy and changed my life for the better. Being a single mother was one of my biggest life challenges, but the love and bond I have with my son is worth all the struggles. I worked hard to make sure that my son didn’t go without. After working for many years and living paycheck to paycheck, I decided to go back to school for Nursing. I knew that it wouldn’t be easy going back to school at 34 years old, but I knew that I wanted more for my life. I met my husband in 2012 and we got married on April 11, …show more content…
Vincent hospital as a labor and delivery nurse. I loved being there and watching miracles happen every day. It wasn’t the job I initially thought I would want, but after doing my clinicals in school I fell in love with working in that department. My husband and I tried starting to expand our family right away. Unfortunately we were left with much heartache as we suffered the loss of three pregnancies and I had to have my right fallopian tube removed in 2014. My doctor diagnosed me with Infertility due to premature egg failure, which usually doesn't happen to women until they are over 40. We began infertility treatments, but after 5 failed cycles I decided that I had put my body and my heart through enough and that hopefully there was more out there for me besides expanding our family. Going through these hard times with my husband actually grew our bond even stronger. We bought a home and saved up money for …show more content…
I knew how hard it was for these families that were going through infertility issues and wanted to be there as someone who genuinely understood the struggle and could offer my support. We also decided to become foster parents. When I was younger I knew mentally that it would be too hard for me, but as I got older I realized that everything happens for a reason and financially I’m in the place where I can help kids that need a good home and support from loving parents. Some of these kids are still a part of my family now and have filled my heart with more joy than I ever knew
And it’s all thanks to my mother that I turned out the way I did. I wouldn’t have survived my younger years, both physically and mentally without her unwavering support and love. These situations have taught me more than I would have thought as a child. Even with the absence of a father for virtually all of my life, I would be confident in my abilities to provide everything I could to my children. I know from experience what is missing when there’s no father figure, and I would put my all into giving them everything that was missing from my life.
Becoming a teen mom was more than a challenge in so many different ways, but surprisingly for me meeting my husband and having my children saved my life. Before I got pregnant I lived in a lower class environment with my mother, step farther and two little sisters. I grew up without knowing my biological father. There was violence and abuse (mentally, and physically) but we were known for the primary group of a perfect little church
...child. I had no choice but to shape up and make a way for the both of us. Having a child made me realize that life is not all fun and games as my mother would say. I learned that in life there are responsibilities. I truly believe that had I not had a child at an early age, I would still be a wild absentminded party girl and who knows what else may have happened.
Motherhood has taught me many life lessons. Before becoming a mother, I was a self centered child. I had no motivation to succeed. All I was worried about was where the next party was. At that time I had no want to try because I was so scared to fail. I was slowly progressing to go nowhere and do nothing with my life. That has all changed now. I no longer party or use drugs. I work full time, attend college full time and devote my all to my children. Without them I would probably be in a jail cell not where I am today.
In 2011, I became an aunt to an amazing little girl. My sister was just sixteen years old when she found out she was pregnant, a junior in high school. She was already into her second trimester and it was too late for her to even think about aborting the pregnancy. So her decision to keep the baby was the only decision she could make. She had my niece and struggled to finish her senior year in high school. It took special privileges and her taking classes outside the school for her to graduate with her class. She knew that her whole life was going to change the moment she decided to have the baby. There were ten other girls in her grade that got pregnant that year and six decided to abort their pregnancies, four decided to have their babies.
My interest in nursing began at age 18 at Bridgeport Hospital in Connecticut where I was trained as a Certified Care Partner, then as a Phlebotomist, followed by a two year surgical floor assignment and a one year burn unit stint.
When I found out I was pregnant I could never have imagined how hard my life was going to be as a teen mom. I remember my dad sitting me down and telling me he respected my decision to keep my daughter, but that I had no idea how hard I just made my life, I don’t think that in that moment I really realized what he meant, but I would soon find out. I was just starting my 11th grade year when my daughter was born so I still had two years of school left. I also had to work so I could take care of my daughter, so trying to do both seemed impossible, at one point my school wanted me to go to school during the day and at night so I could graduate. There was no way I could work and go to school during the day and at night. I had to think long and hard about what I needed to do, my daughter and I needed to be able to survive so I definitely needed my job, so I did
I was emotionally unstable to leave my child with someone I did not know. The costs of daycare were so much that, I went to work and never really brought home additional money. I had to leave the job I loved, to work for a Corporation that provided benefits. Thankfully, during this transition my mother helped with free daycare until we could get on our feet again. I carried a lot of guilt to not be able to provide her the love and attention she needed but happy that grandma could help balance us.
I accepted returning to school as a challenge and promptly organized my life into what I thought would be a simplified, manageable existence. Like all of you, I restructured my home budget and explained to my husband that life as we knew it was over ... my roles as wife, nurse, employee, friend, student, cook, housekeeper, daughter, daughter-in-law, sister, sister-in-law, aunt, cousin, niece and granddaughter -- all at once -- became impossible. For once in my life, I was glad to NOT be a parent!
I still can’t get over the fact I am a mother it’s not an easy job to do. I have had my fair share of struggles emotionally and physically. I worked dead end jobs and it just wasn’t enough to get by we couldn’t live. This is what gave me that push to go and get my nursing assistant certification it was a stable way to live. I had to put school on hold because I had to work and to raise him at the same time. It gets tough sometimes and I just want to scream because I never knew what my son would do next. Even though it gets stressful and there is a lot of the unknown I wouldn’t change it for the world.
I had to mature quickly and learn how to take care of someone else besides myself. I am now a mother to four children. They have taught me how to have patience. This has become something I value very much. I have learned that in life you must wait for things. I now know that there was a reason why I had my son so early and wasn’t able to go to college upon graduating high school. I am so thankful that I had patience and waited for the right time to enter. It has been 14 years since I graduated high school, and I’m attending college and know exactly what I want to become. I had patience and took care of my babies at home before I decided to go to school. It hasn’t always been easy, but I’m so glad I
I am grateful for my life in many ways and for many reason, I was born 5 weeks premature and one of twins. Though my twin did not survive long enough for me to know him it gave me a purpose to try new things. Whenever I am scared of a new experience such as snow-boarding I think about how lucky I am to be alive and well. This thought helps me to spread my wings and embrace the unknown. Even simple things make me feel thankful, such as running in the rain or taking a walk with my dog or just a lazy Sunday afternoon with myself makes me think how great it is to be alive and here. I have always delight in the small moments in life and to think that they could never exist for me is depressing. Furthermore, being able to share my thoughts and feeling with people I love is something that brings me great joy.
Is being a single mother a the most inspiring, difficult, demanding, and rewarding job in the that a person can have? I always looked up to my mother as a loving and caring inspiration to me and others who she came in contact with. Even though I always looked at my mother as a role model she is not perfect, I watched her make mistakes such as abusing prescription medication she received due to an injury, spend money irresponsibly, and procrastinate time and time again. My family has battled hardship, adversity, and lack from the time I was old enough to realize what was happening in the world around me. A mother’s actions in life can leave permanent impressions on her children. I have adopted good and bad habits from my mother. I also learned from her mistakes which made me the person I am today. When I was young she was my inspiration because of the good moral character she possessed. Now that I have seen some of the negative and bad decisions that she made affect her life and everyone that lives with her I strive to do the opposite and make good life changing decisions such as eliminating procrastination and staying away from drugs. A person, especially a mother can be defined by their actions during these tough times. My mother has always been the most
I divorced my husband and began attending college full time. Working 2 jobs, raising 3 children and attending the nursing program full time was the hardest task I had ever done. It also gave me a great sense of achievement and self worth. After completing school and obtaining my nursing license, I realized that if I was able to withstand that period of time and succeed, I was strong enough to accomplish anything I chose to do and would never allow anything or anyone to stand in my way again.
But through it all, I am glad i developed through life the way I am, getting my first real job really help me but my best foot forward into the working world of being in adult. I learned a lot of new things, especially the darker and brighter parts of it all. It really helped push me to do other things that I was afraid to do, like getting my license and my car. I thank my father and my mother for being an influence even if it was negative a lot more than I would have liked. All of these events changed me and made me the man i am today, and I would never go back and change any of