Many things have shaped me into the person I am today. Some of them are so insignificant I can't even place them, but others I will remember until I take my very last breath. I will never forget what happened to me and my family since the time my mom was diagnosed with cancer. Because my mom had cancer for a good portion of my childhood, I became very mature, gained a new respect for people, and I have developed a new outlook on life.
I had to become very mature very quickly after my mom got sick. My mom was diagnosed with stage three colon cancer in 2008. I was only eleven years old. It was shocking to me because I was still a little girl, and I was worry free and happy. Having her so sick changed me because I didn't have the time to be a little girl anymore. I had to take care of my younger siblings because there was nobody else able to. I hated seeing my mom so sick; it tore me apart. I was always left alone with my two little sisters. I had no time to do anything for myself, and at the time I felt it was very unfair. My dad made me stop all of my after school activities, so that I could be at home with my younger sisters. I grew to hate my parents because I desperately wanted their attention, but they were always too busy. Things that were important to me weren't important to them, and I was furious. I had to grow up faster than most kids.
I had to take on a lot of responsibility when my mom got sick; my new responsibilities also helped me become more mature. I learned a lot of valuable things when my mom was sick. Having her too sick to do anything forced me into taking charge. So, when she became sick again in 2010 I was prepared. It really was not a shock to me because somehow I knew she would not stay well for long. I...
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...ered. My mom missed a good portion of my childhood, and now she remains more of a friend than she is my mother. I am very independent with my choices today because of having to make adult decisions so young. I would not be as smart, polite, and put together as I am today if my mom would have never been diagnosed with cancer. At sixteen I understand things about the value of life that most people don't understand until much later.
I will always be headstrong and brave because of the things I have learned during the time my mom has been sick. The memories, thoughts, values, and fears I have formed while my mom has had cancer will stay with me forever. I hope that the negative experiences I have had continue to change me for the better. Over the time my mom has been sick, I have become very mature, I have a new respect for people, and I have a new outlook on life.
God tells his children, “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away” (Revelation). Death is one of the most frightening and confusing times a person can go through. Watching a loved one pass away is also one of the hardest trials a person can experience. Many people assume that death is a time of pain and the only thing that they can do is mourn and watch their loved one fade away from the earth. This is wrong. There are ways that people can turn a bad situation to good. Dying doesn’t have to be painful and full of suffering. The County Hospice staff makes sure of this. The Hospice staff not only takes care of passing patients physically, but they also take care of the patients emotionally and spiritually. Hospice staff also plays a key role in helping families during the grieving process.
On February 14th I spent a day doing something I never thought I would do in a million years, I went to hospice. I always thought I would hate hospice, but I actually didn’t mind it too much, it isn’t a job I see myself doing in the future but it is a job that I understand why people do it and why they enjoy it. During this observation I was touched by how much these nurses really seem to care for each of the patients that they have.
Hospice focuses on end of life care. When patients are facing terminal illness and have an expected life sentence of days to six months or less of life. Care can take place in different milieu including at home, hospice care center, hospital, and skilled nursing facility. Hospice provides patients and family the tool and resources of how to come to the acceptance of death. The goal of care is to help people who are dying have peace, comfort, and dignity. A team of health care providers and volunteers are responsible for providing care. A primary care doctor and a hospice doctor or medical director will patients care. The patient is allowed to decide who their primary doctor will be while receiving hospice care. It may be a primary care physician or a hospice physician. Nurses provide care at home by vising patient at home or in a hospital setting facility. Nurses are responsible for coordination of the hospice care team. Home health aides provide support for daily and routine care ( dressing, bathing, eating and etc). Spiritual counselors, Chaplains, priests, lay ministers or other spiritual counselors can provide spiritual care and guidance for the entire family. Social workers provide counseling and support. They can also provide referrals to other support systems. Pharmacists provide medication oversight and suggestions regarding the most effective
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