One Plus One, Not Three The correct mathematical equation is one plus one equals two, not three. A marriage consists of a man and women who vow to be with each other as long as they both shall live. Two wives would make the house cleaning and duties much easier to accomplish, but it is dishonest. The man is requiring the two women to concentrate solely on himself while the two women have one man that splits his attention between them. Having two or more wives is immoral because it is selfish on the man’s part, goes against the Holy Bible, and does not give equal opportunity to the women. A man does not need to have the company of two wives because it creates a self-centered environment as well as in disagreement with the Holy Bible. Harjo argues with Mrs. Roswell about keeping his two wives saying …show more content…
In reality, it is advantageous for the man because the more wives he has, the more work he can spread out to them and less responsibility for himself. For example, Harjo explains the duties of ‘Liza “help me make this little farm” and Jennie for the possibility of “maybe… [we] have children here then” (Oskison 238). There were no obligations tying him to Jennie. Harjo should allow Jennie to marry another man. It is unfortunate especially for the second wife that has never had the sole attention of that husband. It is also unfortunate for the first wife that goes from being the sole women to being one of two options. It is also wrong for a woman to voluntarily choose to be a second wife and for her to choose to have two husbands at one time. Women should be able to do what they want as well as the men to do as they want; taking on two spouses is illegitimate. It needs to be one man and one woman per household. The wives in the situation need to be given the attention from a sole man and have the advantage to run their own
This is ironic because the anti-polygamists believed in the Bible, but not polygamy, one of its teachings. Many of God’s righteous followers in the Old Testament practiced polygamy. Abraham married Hagar, Sarai’s handmaiden (Genesis 16:1-3). Jacob was married to Leah, Rachel, Billah, and Zilpha, all at the same time.
Most American women would shudder at the thought of their husband spending time with another woman. Not Elizabeth Joseph. Joseph chronicles her life in polygamy in an essay that appeared in the New York Times in 1991 entitled “My Husband’s Nine Wives”. Joseph discusses how it is problematic to manipulate her life around her husband Alex, her occupation and her youngster on a daily basis. She argues monogamous relationships are chockfull of “compromises” and “trade-offs”. She mentions how excited the children are when their Father comes to eat once a week. Joseph speaks of making an “appointment” to spend time with him. If it is another wife’s turn, Joseph may interject if she is “longing for intimacy and comfort only he can provide.” (148) Joseph asserts pleural marriage is the only resolution to her problems. Unlike Joseph, most American women are managing a demanding full time job, hyperactive children and their needy husband on a daily basis.
The article Breaking the Cycle Mother, Daughter Find It Can Be Difficult to Leave Polygamy behind Polygamy: It 's Tough to Break the Cycle by Joan O 'Brien is about a mother’s experience leaving a polygamous marriage. This mother, Betsy Barlow of Salt Lake City also inspired her daughter, Ellen to do the same thing. It is explained that Mrs. Barlow felt that being a part of a polygamous marriage was defeating for women and herself. O’Brien states, “Barlow believes that in practice, polygamy ``suppresses ' ' women”. Most women would drop out of High school to raise children for the one husband and Mrs. Barlow was taught that this was the only way to reach the celestial kingdom. Her parents taught her this and she openly admits to teaching her
The wife says that she had five husbands and that’s all thanks to God (1-8). She is trying to make it seem like having five husbands is justifiable in her case and that of her five husbands they were all submissive to her. They may not have obeyed her at first, but eventually they all became submissive at one point in the relationship. She strongly believes that husbands should obey their wives, sort of in a feminist view. She is loyal to this belief and to herself, because this view does not change. Her loyalty is different in that of Beowulf, Gawain, and Lanval in that the loyalty is to the king, but instead herself as well as similar to Gawain in that he was also loyal to
The problem we find in this story, and in puritanism, is that it presents contrasting views of love. Attachment to earthly possessions, to other people in fact, is discouraged, because everything physical leads to temptation and damnation, and ultimately hell, while the road to salvation of the individual wanders through a spiritual discipline, rigour, austerity. A man should not love his wife more than he loves God; in fact, it is recommended that he not derive pleasure from his wife, but rather seek suffering, in order to redeem himself from his earthly condition, his impure state.
Next, is what can be seen as the other extreme of the spectrum of marriage. That is the Wife of Bath's Tale. This tale favors the argument that the wife should have complete control in the marriage. An interesting thing about the Wife of Bath's tale is that her arguments, in the prologue, for having control...
I believe this was surprising for me because I have never encountered families like these. I have never met anyone who had more than one spouse. I attribute this mostly to my religion. I am Catholic and in the Catholic Church we believe that is one man and one woman form a marriage. Another factor that I believe contributes to my astonishment of these types of communities is my culture. My culture and religion are linked and therefore both suggest that a man should not have more than one wife and that a marriage is made of only two people not multiple people.
God uses his relationship with Israel as a comparison for the meaning of biblical marriage as He designed it. As we know from Genesis 2, the first marriage here on earth was between Adam and Eve. God did not think it was good for man (Adam) to be alone and created woman (Eve) to help him. But Adam and Eve disobeyed God and were not only unable to display God’s intent of perfect marriage, but they have also made way for sin and death to enter the world. God decides to create a new picture of marriage between Him and His chose people Israel. The book of Isaiah is a great resource in the Old Testament for a look into the design of marriage.
The flaw that is made hear is the assumption that the reader views the Bible as uninspired by God. Actually, many Christian denominations view the Bible as the inspired word of God. God used imperfect people to create the Bible. Consequently, the previous verse from Genesis is God 's definition of marriage even if the person who wrote those words did not practice
In "The Wife of Bath" one of the first issues the speaker, Alison, addresses' is the idea of double standards. As she begins the prologue she lays the groundwork for her story by defending one's right to marry as often as they are able. While people often believe that it is immoral for a woman to marry more than once, Alison discusses the idea that she should be free to marry as many times as she wishes and that others should hold their judgment (Hieatt & Hieatt, 183, line 34). She claims that she has never heard the specific number of marriages allowed by the bible defined. She sites Solomon as a biblical standard saying that he had many wives and no doubt received pleasure from all of them (183-184, lines 35-45). Within this example Alison claims that it is acceptable not only for her to marry as often as she wishes, but also to receive phys...
A second point raised during the reading which exemplifies gender inequality tendencies of the society includes polygamy. In the story, after Modou and Binetou’s marriage, the guests go to Ramatoulaye’s house for a surprise visit. Tamsir, Modou’s older brother, tells Ramatoulaye that “God intended [Modou] to have a second wife” and that “there is nothing he can do about it” (Bâ, 2008, p. 38). He soon continued by saying that “a wife owes her husband [happiness]”
It is better than cohabitation because unmarried couples react differently towards each other than cohabiting couples, unambiguous/union between families, provides protection for the vulnerable from the start/ offers justice for those that are wronged in the end and strengthens private intentions with public promises.
Polygamy is becoming a part of the question, Is this is an alternative lifestyle that should be allowed? There are television shows and criminal cases about polygamy ( Kiesbye). Some common tv shows about polygamy are Sister Wives and Big Love. Since this is a new upcoming type of marriage the tv shows are showing all the good parts about polygamy ,or “fluffing” it up, rather than show any negatives aspects about it. There are multiple things associated with polygamy not just the side where all the family members are happy. There is a darker side to polygamy that the media has not been showng. Polygamy is deleterious to marriage and society because women are treated horribly unequally and horribly during marriage, children are abused, and
These days, everything is expensive. From buying everyday essential items to clothes and more, it all adds up and can end up costing a lot of money. By having only the person you're married to be the only one you need to purchase things for, it will save you money. Just think of how much money you spend on one person on his or her birthday or Christmas. It is a waste to spend that on multiple people. In the article, “International Business”, it estimates about how much money the average American spends in one day, stating that, “Americans spent an average of almost $94 a day last month in stores, restaurants, gas stations and online”. This is a lot of money for one person to spend in just a day. Having to spend that for more than one other person would total up to even a higher price. Having affairs can lead to divorce, and that can be costly. There is no reason to waste this money when you live a monogamous lifestyle. Truthfully, no one wants to worry about money. Therefore, having only one partner will decrease the amount of money a person will have to make, and ideally spend. By being monogamous and only having to care for one other person, you can save yourself a lot of
Polygamy in Islam serves a strictly religious purpose. Polygamy was a way of life until the Quran was revealed 1400 years ago. When the earth was young and under-populated, polygamy was one way of populating it and bringing in the human beings needed to carry out God's plan. By the time the Quran was revealed, the world had been sufficiently populated, and the Quran put down the first limitations against polygamy. Polygamy has become an established part of traditional Islamic law and practice; Muslims are accustomed to accepting that a man's right to more than one wife is firmly established in the Qur'an and the Hadith. Polygamy (specifically polygyny, the marriage of one man to many women) is thus considered unquestionably moral, even though it is obviously unfair; only men are allowed the privilege of it. However, a close study of the Qur'an can enable one to see that the Islamic ideal of marriage is monogamous, with only husband-wife pairs. In fact, the Qur'anic stance on polygamy is the same as its stance on slavery; both are objectionable on ethical grounds, but tolerated due to the particular circumstances of Muhammad's community.