Gender Roles and Marriage Among the !Kung
Although we have yet to discover complete equality among the sexes in any pre-existing or presently existing society, the !Kung people are among the closest to reach such equality. The !Kung are an egalitarian society, meaning everyone has access to the valued resources. While the amount of access does vary, just the fact that everyone is includedat least on some levelwhen it comes to meeting the essential needs of living is significant.
Much of !Kung life consists of caring for one another and there is a strong effort put forth to keep everyone relatively on the same status level. A great example of this exists in the traditions of hunting. When a man returns to the village after killing a large animal, there is a certain role-playing he is expected to participate in. As people approach him about what happened, he pretends that nothing worth mentioning took place. This signifies to the rest of the !Kung that the hunt was a success as they continue to inquire for further detail. The successful hunter continues to tell his story, however, if he appears to be too proud the people will not hesitate to make jokes as a means of humbling him. The credit for the hunt invariably goes to the one who made the arrow (which, although rare, can be a woman as well as a man) and it is his (or her) duty to divide the meat fairly between everyone in the village. One way or another, either directly or indirectly, everyone will be given a part of the animal.
For example, When one of Nisa’s husbands died, she was pressured into marrying a man who worked in the villages because this was the only way to ensure her financial stability. She married this man, Besa, even though neither she, nor her parents approved, and she was in love with someone else. When women stopped providing most of the food for their families, they lost their economic independence. When Nisa’s daughter, Nai, was killed by her husband, the headman appointed to lead the bush tribes did nothing but call Nai’s husband “foolish” and he told him to bring Nisa five goats in compensation. If the headman had not existed, then the !Kung could have exacted their own justice on Nai’s husband by beating or killing him, instead of letting him go free, only having to give five goats in exchange for taking a woman’s life. If Nisa’s stories are true, then there is evidence to suggest that the women in !Kung society are losing some of the high status they enjoyed before their society was forced to
Marjorie Shostak, an anthropologist who had written this book had studies the !Kung tribe for two years. Shostak had spent the two years interviewing the women in the society. The !Kung tribe resided n the Dobe area of Northwest Botswana, that’s infused with a series of clicks, represented on paper by exclamation points and slashes. Shostak had studied that the people of the tribe relied mostly on nuts of the mongongo, which is from an indigenous tree that’s part of their diet.