Throughout life we all experience different types of conflicts, and typically what comes to mind when thinking of conflict is “arguments” and “negativity”. However, conflict can also be a good thing and there are a variety of styles. Conflict styles can range from being someone who cooperates, directs, compromises, avoids, or harmonizes. It can be a great resource to develop an understanding of each conflict style because we can learn to bring a balance with each individual. My good friend, who for the purpose of this assignment will be called “Rose”, and I, took a “conflict styles inventory test” in order to determine which styles of conflict we lean towards the most, and found it very surprising that my friend came out “calm” on all conflict …show more content…
As stated earlier, she scored highest on being calm in the ‘cooperative style’, while scoring highest on the storm section of the ‘directing style’. She is very understanding and will take no for an answer if given the right explanation. She tends to feel responsible for others and in the “Hot Tips” it said that people in the directing conflict style like focusing on their tasks and can forget the feelings or need of others, but will also feel deeply responsible for those around them and even worse if they hurt them in some way. A past example with Rose, was that they wanted me to create a social media account and follow a certain person. I asked for more context on why they desired this and what the point of it was. She failed to give me a reasonable excuse and still persisted to direct me to do it and that she would only use it at times. In return I told them no and she stopped insisting once I told her how I felt about that. This is where I see the ‘hot tips’ come back into play, she was so tasked into wanting me to do it, that she didn’t realize she was making me feel annoyed and upset. We have also had good moments when we both cooperate with each other, which is what we both scored highest on. We both tend to hear each other out and share our point of view on subjects in a calm and collective manner. We try to see the good and bad in a …show more content…
We both admired that we scored high numbers on remaining calm in a ‘cooperative style conflict’, because it takes two to resolve a conflict, and there is nothing better than cooperating with the other person to try and make things better quickly. Now that I realized that Rose scored storm on the ‘directing conflict style’ I will try to work on adding productive activities whenever we hang out because she could get anxiety or anger when not given the opportunity to deal with something as soon as possible. In addition, I read that people in the ‘compromising style’ do not like debating for long periods of time, which I would say I do not. Then it says having a ‘directing style’ partner or friend could help persuade a person like me that I have “won” the debate, to make it end it more swiftly. Which is how my friend Rose is, she does tend to make me feel like the option I chose or said is right. We are both normally calm personalities and the one different conflict style we differ in helps bring our friendship to a
This approach directly addresses the conflict and is often viewed as “might makes right” (Robin, 2002). A confrontational style usually involves high emotional levels, clear clarity of goals, weak relationship, and low concern for formalities or fear of punishment, moderate concerns for traditions, and a moderate self-concept.
Did you know that in 2014, shoplifting and worker’s theft cost the retail industry a loss of thirty-two billion dollars (Wahba, 2015)? According Wahba “a common misperception about shoplifting is that retailers can ‘afford’ the loss of a candy bar or a pair of jeans” (2015). This type of reasoning certainly does make more sense when explained through the context of a criminological theory. For example according to the Rational Choice theory individuals weigh the costs and benefits associated with a criminal and or deviant act and then make a conscious choice. Other criminological theories explain criminal and deviant behavior using a biological, psychological, social, conflict, or multifactor component. Taking that into consideration in this
We all go thru different phases and life changes in our lives creating more needs and solutions to our problems. Many of us handle conflict negatively and think conflict is bad. Therefore, the best way to resolve conflict is learning how to handle things in a better way. This means understanding the person and understanding what has created the conflict and miscommunication. The book, “Difficult Conversations,” helps us learn different perspectives and needs to our conflicts and learning how to resolve conflict and what has created people to have different standards in their personal culture.
In the study of theories of criminology that emphasizes the role of social conflict as it underlies criminality and of social change is critical for the understanding of the interplay between social order and law. The conflict perspective, the pluralist perspective, and the consensus perspective are three analytical perspectives that shed light on this subject. Another type of social conflict theory is radical criminology that comes with its own tenants and shortcomings. Peacemaking criminology, left-realist criminology, convict criminology, postmodern criminology, and feminist criminology, are emerging social conflict theories that where associated with the radical ideas of mid-twentieth Marxist criminology.
Walmart can be studied using structure functional theory and social conflict theories. Social functional theory is the relationships among parts of society and how these parts are functional(have beneficial consequences) or dysfunctional (have negative consequences. Most Americans today love to shop at Walmart because they continue to give consumers the best prices on over 120,000 products and are one stop shopping.
Simple conflict initiates on differences in ideas, definitions, perceptions, or goals. Ricky got home from a long day. He feels tired and immediately goes to bed. On the other hand, Lucy might have planned something. She sees it unfair waiting on him all day for nothing. Now we will analyze how Ricky and Lucy manage the conflict applying theories and concepts we learned during the course. The interesting detail that we observe is the methods she used to win in a conflict. Lucy is trying to get Ricky to lose his temper in the scene solely by nonverbal communication. NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION is behavior other than written or spoken language that creates meaning for someone. In the scene Lucy is turning the music up loud, chewing her crackers, and cracking nuts in an attempt to interfere with Ricky's sleep. During the scene, Lucy is also engaging in face-threating. FACE THREATENING ACT is the communication that undermines or challenges someone’s positive face. She is trying to challenge Ricky's positive face by being facetious. We think that Ricky made the right choice in this situation. He selected avoiding as the most appropriate conflict management style. Ricky also applies corrective facework strategy. CORRECTIVE FACEWORK is an effort to correct what one perceives as a negative of oneself on the part of others. In response to Lucy's face threatening act Ricky tries to save his face by
According to the survey that I completed in “The Conflict Style Assessment” found in the Conerly article my style is that of Confronting. I will agree in some degree with the style because I do place a high value on relationship goals and I am assertive and cooperative (Conerly, 2004).
Four sources of conflict presented by Lamberton & Minor (2014) are content, values, negotiation-of-selves and institutionalized will be discussed. Awareness of and knowing what causes conflict is important in strategizing ideas and plans to resolve them. Explanations and examples of these four sources will follow. The outcome and process of resolving conflict can affect what direction and success we achieve personally and
Interpersonal conflict is very common with many relationships. It occurs when two people can not meet in the middle or agree on a discussion. Cooperation is key to maintaining a healthy debate. More frequently; when dealing with members of your own family, issues arise that include conflict and resolution. During this process our true conflict management style appears “out of thin air”. (Steve A. Beebe, 2008, p. 191).
Many people enjoy working or participating in a group or team, but when a group of people work together chances are that conflicts will occur. Hazleton describes conflict as the discrepancy between what is the perceived reality and what is seen as ideal (2007). “We enter into conflicts reluctantly, cautiously, angrily, nervously, confidently- and emerge from them battered, exhausted, sad, satisfied, triumphant. And still many of us underestimate or overlook the merits of conflict- the opportunity conflict offers every time it occurs” (Schilling, nd.). Conflict does not have to lead to a hostile environment or to broken relationships. Conflict if resolved effectively can lead to a positive experience for everyone involved. First, there must be an understanding of the reasons why conflicts occur. The conflict must be approached with an open mind. Using specific strategies can lead to a successful resolution for all parties involved. The Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument states “there are five general approaches to dealing with conflict. The five approaches are avoidance, accommodation, competition, compromise, and collaboration. Conflict resolution is situational and no one approach provides the best or right approach for all circumstances” (Thomas, 2000).
Before understanding how to deal with conflict, one must understand what conflict is. Conflict can be defined as, “any situation in which incompatible goals, cognitions, or emotions within or between individuals or groups lead to opposition or antagonistic interaction” (Learning Team Toolkit, 2004, pp 242-243). Does the idea of conflict always have to carry a negative connotation? The growth and development of society would be a great deal slower if people never challenged each other’s ideas. The Learning Team Toolkit discusses three different views of conflict: traditiona...
According to McShane and Von Glinow, conflict is “a process in which one party perceives that his or her interests are being opposed or negatively affected by another party” (328). The Conflict Process Model begins with the different sources of conflict; these sources lead one or more parties to perceive that a conflict exists. These perceptions interact with emotions and manifest themselves in the behavior towards other parties. The arrows in the figure illustrate the series of conflict episodes that cycle into conflict escalation (McShane and Von Glinow 331-332).
Conflict is energy, conflict is excitement, conflict is often driven by a passion that is necessary to progression. In other words, we need many of the characteristics that might cause conflict and conflict itself isn’t necessarily a bad thing. The important thing is learning how to manage
... understand the other side’s point of view. All parties are able to identify areas of agreement and disagreement, creatively explore and evaluate alternatives, and select solutions to which they are all committed. Though collaborating is the only win-win approach preferred to resolving conflicts in many situations, there is time and place for the other styles as they may better meet the needs of the situation.
Conflicts can arouse from simple, insignificant things such as, reading a text message wrong, using the wrong tone of voice, or from just simply not being in a upright mood. There are different types of forms to handle a conflict. As DeVito notes in Messages, “Compromising- style is in the middle: There’s some concern for your own needs and some concern for the other’s needs” (p. 246). I am very persuasive when it comes to deciding on what to do this is known as power. According to DeVito, “Power-is the ability of one person to influence what another person thinks or does” (p. 313). For example, when it comes to going out to watch a movie Jorge always wants to watch a different one than I do. I always say, “Okay, you can go watch that one while I watch the one I want to see.” He argues and doesn’t want to, but at the end of it all I always attain what I want. Like every other relationship we are not a perfect couple. Of course, we have our ups and downs and have problems. I believe that some of the problems that we need to fix in our relationship is that when we argue to watch the way we say things. I also think that we need to start getting used to having less communication. This won’t be easy by any means because both coming from a Mexican background communication is very important. What I would like to change about me personally is that I can find more time to spend with him, because I know it’s tough on him that