Throughout life we all experience different types of conflicts, and typically what comes to mind when thinking of conflict is “arguments” and “negativity”. However, conflict can also be a good thing and there are a variety of styles. Conflict styles can range from being someone who cooperates, directs, compromises, avoids, or harmonizes. It can be a great resource to develop an understanding of each conflict style because we can learn to bring a balance with each individual. My good friend, who for the purpose of this assignment will be called “Rose”, and I, took a “conflict styles inventory test” in order to determine which styles of conflict we lean towards the most, and found it very surprising that my friend came out “calm” on all conflict …show more content…
As stated earlier, she scored highest on being calm in the ‘cooperative style’, while scoring highest on the storm section of the ‘directing style’. She is very understanding and will take no for an answer if given the right explanation. She tends to feel responsible for others and in the “Hot Tips” it said that people in the directing conflict style like focusing on their tasks and can forget the feelings or need of others, but will also feel deeply responsible for those around them and even worse if they hurt them in some way. A past example with Rose, was that they wanted me to create a social media account and follow a certain person. I asked for more context on why they desired this and what the point of it was. She failed to give me a reasonable excuse and still persisted to direct me to do it and that she would only use it at times. In return I told them no and she stopped insisting once I told her how I felt about that. This is where I see the ‘hot tips’ come back into play, she was so tasked into wanting me to do it, that she didn’t realize she was making me feel annoyed and upset. We have also had good moments when we both cooperate with each other, which is what we both scored highest on. We both tend to hear each other out and share our point of view on subjects in a calm and collective manner. We try to see the good and bad in a …show more content…
We both admired that we scored high numbers on remaining calm in a ‘cooperative style conflict’, because it takes two to resolve a conflict, and there is nothing better than cooperating with the other person to try and make things better quickly. Now that I realized that Rose scored storm on the ‘directing conflict style’ I will try to work on adding productive activities whenever we hang out because she could get anxiety or anger when not given the opportunity to deal with something as soon as possible. In addition, I read that people in the ‘compromising style’ do not like debating for long periods of time, which I would say I do not. Then it says having a ‘directing style’ partner or friend could help persuade a person like me that I have “won” the debate, to make it end it more swiftly. Which is how my friend Rose is, she does tend to make me feel like the option I chose or said is right. We are both normally calm personalities and the one different conflict style we differ in helps bring our friendship to a
Walmart can be studied using structure functional theory and social conflict theories. Social functional theory is the relationships among parts of society and how these parts are functional(have beneficial consequences) or dysfunctional (have negative consequences. Most Americans today love to shop at Walmart because they continue to give consumers the best prices on over 120,000 products and are one stop shopping.
The purpose of this paper is to explore conflict and ways to manage it. I chose to explore this topic in depth because conflict touches all of our lives. Whether it is at work or in our personal lives. Like most people when you have a bad day at work; I have a tendency to bring the frustration home. Frustration at work causes me to be in a bad mood; hence that makes me argue with my spouse.
Did you know that in 2014, shoplifting and worker’s theft cost the retail industry a loss of thirty-two billion dollars (Wahba, 2015)? According Wahba “a common misperception about shoplifting is that retailers can ‘afford’ the loss of a candy bar or a pair of jeans” (2015). This type of reasoning certainly does make more sense when explained through the context of a criminological theory. For example according to the Rational Choice theory individuals weigh the costs and benefits associated with a criminal and or deviant act and then make a conscious choice. Other criminological theories explain criminal and deviant behavior using a biological, psychological, social, conflict, or multifactor component. Taking that into consideration in this
Four sources of conflict presented by Lamberton & Minor (2014) are content, values, negotiation-of-selves and institutionalized will be discussed. Awareness of and knowing what causes conflict is important in strategizing ideas and plans to resolve them. Explanations and examples of these four sources will follow. The outcome and process of resolving conflict can affect what direction and success we achieve personally and
In the study of theories of criminology that emphasizes the role of social conflict as it underlies criminality and of social change is critical for the understanding of the interplay between social order and law. The conflict perspective, the pluralist perspective, and the consensus perspective are three analytical perspectives that shed light on this subject. Another type of social conflict theory is radical criminology that comes with its own tenants and shortcomings. Peacemaking criminology, left-realist criminology, convict criminology, postmodern criminology, and feminist criminology, are emerging social conflict theories that where associated with the radical ideas of mid-twentieth Marxist criminology.
We all go thru different phases and life changes in our lives creating more needs and solutions to our problems. Many of us handle conflict negatively and think conflict is bad. Therefore, the best way to resolve conflict is learning how to handle things in a better way. This means understanding the person and understanding what has created the conflict and miscommunication. The book, “Difficult Conversations,” helps us learn different perspectives and needs to our conflicts and learning how to resolve conflict and what has created people to have different standards in their personal culture.
I participated in a conflict management style quiz that was created by Reginald Adkins to see what style I followed. The style that I tend to follow is Harmonizing. I did find this a little surprising because I usually stick to my guns. I will debate with just about anyone, especially if I feel that I am right about something (Steve A. Beebe, 2008, p. 204)
According to the article, An investigation into the relationships between psychological sex role, management experience, and preferred interpersonal conflict style /strategy in the workplace, a suppression conflict strategy “is based on the view that conflict ‘must be brought under control before it becomes unmanageable”’(Eckstat, 2002, p. 10). It is mostly used when a party needs an immediate decision, expects and appreciates a show of force, and the power between the parties are clear. One solution that The Cohesion Group came up with is having Gil try a different conflict strategy when he is reaching out to Gordon. A conflict strategy that Gil can try when talking to Gordon would be compromise. Compromise is “finding a middle ground between two opposed alternatives” where “the final position does not meet the full requirements of either alternative, but it does provide a middle position that people with different positions find better to accept than to retain their own position and to continue the argument” (Eckstat, 2002, p. 10). Compromise is mainly used when both parties stand to gain an advantage. The Cohesion Group came with this solution because Gil used a suppression conflict strategy with Gordon and it did not work. Trying a different one might solve the communication issue between them. To implement this plan, the Cohesion Group would show Gil several other conflict strategies and recommend to him to use the compromise strategy when talking with Gordon. If Gil compromises with Gordon, Gordon would be able to speak his mind freely without feeling overwhelmed by
Before understanding how to deal with conflict, one must understand what conflict is. Conflict can be defined as, “any situation in which incompatible goals, cognitions, or emotions within or between individuals or groups lead to opposition or antagonistic interaction” (Learning Team Toolkit, 2004, pp 242-243). Does the idea of conflict always have to carry a negative connotation? The growth and development of society would be a great deal slower if people never challenged each other’s ideas. The Learning Team Toolkit discusses three different views of conflict: traditiona...
Many people enjoy working or participating in a group or team, but when a group of people work together chances are that conflicts will occur. Hazleton describes conflict as the discrepancy between what is the perceived reality and what is seen as ideal (2007). “We enter into conflicts reluctantly, cautiously, angrily, nervously, confidently- and emerge from them battered, exhausted, sad, satisfied, triumphant. And still many of us underestimate or overlook the merits of conflict- the opportunity conflict offers every time it occurs” (Schilling, nd.). Conflict does not have to lead to a hostile environment or to broken relationships. Conflict if resolved effectively can lead to a positive experience for everyone involved. First, there must be an understanding of the reasons why conflicts occur. The conflict must be approached with an open mind. Using specific strategies can lead to a successful resolution for all parties involved. The Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument states “there are five general approaches to dealing with conflict. The five approaches are avoidance, accommodation, competition, compromise, and collaboration. Conflict resolution is situational and no one approach provides the best or right approach for all circumstances” (Thomas, 2000).
Four of the different theories of deviance, anomie, conflict, interactionist, and labeling, each have their own differences, but some similarities between the four. Conflict theory states that devein can be a sign of oppression, that conflict arises because groups with power dictate that the actions of a minority group are deviant. The presence of deviance in conflict theory suggests that society is in the need of change, and that some social norms have only been constructed to keep a minority down. Similar to conflict theory, anomie suggest that there is a group struggling to meet the expectations of a stronger class, and that serious changes to a society as a hole would need to be made to stop the deviant behavior. However, in
Conflict is energy, conflict is excitement, conflict is often driven by a passion that is necessary to progression. In other words, we need many of the characteristics that might cause conflict and conflict itself isn’t necessarily a bad thing. The important thing is learning how to manage
Conflicts can arouse from simple, insignificant things such as, reading a text message wrong, using the wrong tone of voice, or from just simply not being in a upright mood. There are different types of forms to handle a conflict. As DeVito notes in Messages, “Compromising- style is in the middle: There’s some concern for your own needs and some concern for the other’s needs” (p. 246). I am very persuasive when it comes to deciding on what to do this is known as power. According to DeVito, “Power-is the ability of one person to influence what another person thinks or does” (p. 313). For example, when it comes to going out to watch a movie Jorge always wants to watch a different one than I do. I always say, “Okay, you can go watch that one while I watch the one I want to see.” He argues and doesn’t want to, but at the end of it all I always attain what I want. Like every other relationship we are not a perfect couple. Of course, we have our ups and downs and have problems. I believe that some of the problems that we need to fix in our relationship is that when we argue to watch the way we say things. I also think that we need to start getting used to having less communication. This won’t be easy by any means because both coming from a Mexican background communication is very important. What I would like to change about me personally is that I can find more time to spend with him, because I know it’s tough on him that
According to McShane and Von Glinow, conflict is “a process in which one party perceives that his or her interests are being opposed or negatively affected by another party” (328). The Conflict Process Model begins with the different sources of conflict; these sources lead one or more parties to perceive that a conflict exists. These perceptions interact with emotions and manifest themselves in the behavior towards other parties. The arrows in the figure illustrate the series of conflict episodes that cycle into conflict escalation (McShane and Von Glinow 331-332).
... understand the other side’s point of view. All parties are able to identify areas of agreement and disagreement, creatively explore and evaluate alternatives, and select solutions to which they are all committed. Though collaborating is the only win-win approach preferred to resolving conflicts in many situations, there is time and place for the other styles as they may better meet the needs of the situation.