Four Styles Of Conflict

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Throughout life we all experience different types of conflicts, and typically what comes to mind when thinking of conflict is “arguments” and “negativity”. However, conflict can also be a good thing and there are a variety of styles. Conflict styles can range from being someone who cooperates, directs, compromises, avoids, or harmonizes. It can be a great resource to develop an understanding of each conflict style because we can learn to bring a balance with each individual. My good friend, who for the purpose of this assignment will be called “Rose”, and I, took a “conflict styles inventory test” in order to determine which styles of conflict we lean towards the most, and found it very surprising that my friend came out “calm” on all conflict …show more content…

As stated earlier, she scored highest on being calm in the ‘cooperative style’, while scoring highest on the storm section of the ‘directing style’. She is very understanding and will take no for an answer if given the right explanation. She tends to feel responsible for others and in the “Hot Tips” it said that people in the directing conflict style like focusing on their tasks and can forget the feelings or need of others, but will also feel deeply responsible for those around them and even worse if they hurt them in some way. A past example with Rose, was that they wanted me to create a social media account and follow a certain person. I asked for more context on why they desired this and what the point of it was. She failed to give me a reasonable excuse and still persisted to direct me to do it and that she would only use it at times. In return I told them no and she stopped insisting once I told her how I felt about that. This is where I see the ‘hot tips’ come back into play, she was so tasked into wanting me to do it, that she didn’t realize she was making me feel annoyed and upset. We have also had good moments when we both cooperate with each other, which is what we both scored highest on. We both tend to hear each other out and share our point of view on subjects in a calm and collective manner. We try to see the good and bad in a …show more content…

We both admired that we scored high numbers on remaining calm in a ‘cooperative style conflict’, because it takes two to resolve a conflict, and there is nothing better than cooperating with the other person to try and make things better quickly. Now that I realized that Rose scored storm on the ‘directing conflict style’ I will try to work on adding productive activities whenever we hang out because she could get anxiety or anger when not given the opportunity to deal with something as soon as possible. In addition, I read that people in the ‘compromising style’ do not like debating for long periods of time, which I would say I do not. Then it says having a ‘directing style’ partner or friend could help persuade a person like me that I have “won” the debate, to make it end it more swiftly. Which is how my friend Rose is, she does tend to make me feel like the option I chose or said is right. We are both normally calm personalities and the one different conflict style we differ in helps bring our friendship to a

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