Fear is never an effective strategy in teaching a child the concept of learning right from wrong (HandinHand, 2017). In my experience, living in a verbally and physically abusive environment is not a pleasant experience for anyone, especially a child. Growing up I was so afraid of my abusive father that on the day my mother decided to leave him, I hid our Greyhound bus tickets in between two books in my backpack. I did not want anything to stop us from moving away from him. I would never want to punish my children the way that I was punished as a child.
As a parent, I have often struggled with what would be the “best” way to discipline my children especially after being raised in an unhealthy environment. Right before the first time
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He defines ‘backup spanking’ as the method of two swats to the rear end only after ineffective non-physical punishment has not stopped the misbehavior (Ogilvie, 2017). I agree with Professor Larzelere; non-physical punishment in the form of a consequence can be an effective tool for punishment. I cannot say that I have never spanked either of my children but I definitely find that giving consequences is far more effective in holding them accountable for their misbehavior. Overall, building an effective strategy that works for your parenting style takes time and patience (Telep, 2009). For example, if you talk to your child ahead of time, you can make sure that you give them a warning about what offenses can led to consequences (Pingleton, 2014). In my opinion, if you decide to spank your child, make it a last resort and make sure the punishment fits the …show more content…
Physical punishment such as spanking may give a parent immediate correction to a misbehavior but it also inserts a non-pleasant memory into a child’s mind. If physical punishment is chosen, it is extremely important that a child know that their parent is using this form of punishment not out of frustration but out of concern for the child’s misbehavior (Ogilvie, 2011). Parents that oppose physical punishment use consequences in place of spanking. These parents feel that giving children the opportunity to learn from their misbehavior is far more effective than damaging a child’s psyche. After all, children that receive spankings may feel that once the spanking has ended they are free to misbehave again (Telep, 2009). Ultimately, what works for some parents may not necessarily work others. The form of punishment you decide to utilize is up to you as a parent. Whether it is spanking (physical), consequences (non-physical), or a combination of the two, children need to be raised in a safe, healthy, and supportive environment (AACAP, 2012). After all, parenting is not easy, no parent is perfect, and children are not born with instructions attached (Pingleton, 2014). The most important lesson in parenting and discipline is that, although it may be tough, you have to be loving in whichever form of punishment you choose (Pingleton,
Spanking is permitted in many U.S. States but it does very by state. I would inform the parents that in the state of South Carolina, it is legal to spank your child for punishment if for sole purpose of restraining or correcting, and the force has is reasonable in manner and moderate in degree. (Kidjacked Spanking Laws, 2014) I have always felt that spanking doesn't work. It can temporarily stop the unwanted behavior, but the most effective forms of discipline are those that teach children how to control their behavior. Spanking could teach your child to be afraid of you when they have done something wrong, but it does not teach the child the real consequences of their behavior.
Spanking doesn’t allow children to learn the reasons why to act appropriately. When parents use physical punishment, such as spanking, to discipline their children, they do so in order to improve their child’s behavior. According to a report composed by a lead researcher in the field of pediatrics, spanking does not teach children the reason for why they are being punished or why their behavior was wrong. Spanking teaches children to act in a desired way only because of fear of being punished. Being a victim of spanking, I only feared the idea of being spanked, and that is why I changed my behavior for the time being. I did not actually understand the reasoning for why I was being punished. Spanked children do not understand the positive and important reasons for acting properly.
Spanking is the most effective form of discipline when a child knows doing something is wrong, but the child does it anyway. A child who is properly disciplined through spanking is being taught how to control her or his impulses and how to deal with all types of authorities in future environments. Parents can control their child’s future
...ginning of humanity. It worked then, and it works now. Critics have decided to re-define spanking as abuse. They would like for everyone to believe the propaganda. The truth is, however that spanking has its benefits. A little pain has positive long term results. Parents can expect a well mannered respectful adult to be the result. Parents should decide if they want to spank their children; not society. One parent’s choice of discipline has no value over another’s. The key thing to remember when it comes to discipline is to discipline out of love for the child. Never spank a child while angry. Explain to the child why the spanking has to be given. Afterwards, show some affection. This way the child will feel loved and understand reconciliation (Dobson). The child will have no feelings of resentment. When parents follow these steps, discipline will never be abuse.
Childhood discipline determines how the child will act at home and in social settings and instills habits and different values that will stick with a child for its whole life. There are many different methods of discipline, however some are more beneficial than others. A generally calm and consistent attitude is best when trying to discipline a child because increased frustrations do not teach the child anything except that aggression is the answer. Corporal punishment is another non-beneficial method of parenting although it is still used today. When looking at discipline from a teacher's perspective, it seems extremely difficult to be able to maintain several children at one time. This is true, however, there is a special teaching program that simplifies the process of disciplining children.
From helping them read and write, to teaching them right from wrong, parenting is a huge job and adds a lot of pressure on parents because they want their child to succeed. However, different parenting styles brings on different characteristics and reactions out of their children, which is why when it comes to parenting, one is entitled to their own opinion on how to discipline their children accordingly. When it comes to disciplining, it can be done by taking away television time, phone time, or even taking away a favorite snack, but what about spanking as a form of discipline? Spanking by far, is considered the biggest controversy when discipline is being discussed, and there are many opinions on if spanking helps or hurts the child. With
...important that we teach our children a system of values, and the difference between right and wrong. Where do we draw the line when it comes to disciplining our children? Spanking isn't necessarily something a parent consciously chooses. Most often, it happens when parents lose their cool, gets worked up, or feels desperate. Spanking is commonly used as a last resort of discipline. This is a controversial and emotional issue that has been debated about for years. There are other positive ways that a child can be taught without using violence as the answer. A parent’s main goal should be to help our children to become responsible, loving, self-disciplined adults, with whatever means necessary. This can be done without the use of violence. Spanking is not so much a question about right or wrong, but more about if it is an effective or ineffective form of discipline.
I don’t believe giving your child a spanking or “whipping them” for what they did wrong is wrong. Discipline is a Latin word that means “teaching” or “learning” and I believe spanking a child for serious, harmful, or uncontrolled bad behavior is appropriate. Spankings are usually given by a parent, legal guardian, teacher, or other person in authority over a minor. Generally, spanking is given when a child displays unacceptable behavior such as being rude, foul language, stealing, fighting, and other acts of disobedience. Wikipedia states that in most societies, “parents are regarded as those having the duty of disciplining their children and the right to spank them is appropriate” even though this is changing in many countries.
In recent studies, researchers have found that ninety percent of parents spank their children; yet, seventy-three percent of mothers report that their child will continue to repeat their behavior they were disciplined for (Ogilvie). Based of this information, the effectiveness of this form of discipline seems to be incredibly low. Now consider another fact: how harmful is this to children physically and mentally? Would this affect them as they grow up and even continue to affect them into their adulthood? If it fails to do anything beneficial, obviously, unforeseen consequences will be the result. Spanking children is not effective as a punishment and should be replaced with different methods to punish with lesser negative effects on young children.
Simply reasoning and taking things away from them such as their privileges will not work with young children because they are not at the age range where they can fully understand. Merely taking away a child’s privileges or toys will only cause them to behave when they want something. When children learn to live without the privileges their parents are holding them hostage to, they will eventually stop listening and obeying them. Spanking allows children an opportunity to learn and change because they will discover that any negative behavior that they do will always have repercussions. When they are spanked, they will know not to ever repeat the action again. As a result, they are more likely to steer away from being disobedient and rebellious. Spanking when combined with reasoning will result in a higher chance of changing a child’s bad behavior. According to Robert Larzerle, a professor in the Department of Human Development and Family Science, when spanking is used correctly, it “leads to lower defiance and lower aggression than 10 or 13 other disciplinary alternatives with which it has been compared.” (LA
To commence, parents should avoid spanking their children because of the physiological consequences. Sufficient evidence exists in proving that spanking slows the cognitive development of children (Straus, 2011). Spanked children tend to do far worse on achievement tests than those whose parents used other forms of punishment (Straus, 2011). Because of the retardation in the cognitive development, spanked children must spend their entire lives catching up to their counterparts who did not receive such harsh punishment and cannot enjoy a quality childhood. Hitting children can cause back problems (Hunt, 2011). Shock waves travel up the spine and cause nerve damage (Hunt, 2011). If a parent disciplined his/her child out of love, it would not be with an expensive medical bill later on in life.
Spanking has been a form of punishment used by many parents for years. Parents view spanking as an effective form of punishment that gets the point across to the child that they should not do the bad things that they received that punishment for. Most children are spanked from age two until almost ten years old. However, many studies have shown that spanking has led to many emotional and physical diseases. Spanking is a violent punishment that should not be used to punish children. The line between spanking and child abuse is very thin, and a parent could go too far.
I personally do not advocate spanking. I could not imagine losing my temper to a point where I thought I needed to spank my child. While I do anticipate that having children will be a real test of patience, I do not expect that I will lose my patience so much that I will spank my children. I find spanking to be a real contradiction to what most parents tell their children. Most parents do not allow their children to hit, whether they are angry or not. Even when kids think another kid did something wrong, or bad, they are still not allowed to hit. If a parent tells a kid this, and then turns around and spanks the kid when they do something wrong, how will the kid ever learn that hitting is wrong? In my opinion, there has to be a better way to discipline children. I think that sending a child to a room where they cannot interact with anyone else, and then taking away a privilege would be a better way of handling discipline. Also, when I was a child, I can remember that when I was angry, my dad would come in to my room after I had time to cool down and talk to me about why I was angry. I can remember these as really fond times with my dad. It helped me identify why I was so angry, and most of the time it was at my mom for not letting me have my way. When I could identify why I was angry, my dad and I could come up with a solution to solve the problem. I think that rather than spanking, this is a good way to discipline children.
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Physical punishment has been a problem in hitting their children so they can have discipline or not hitting them because it is not right, so what can parents do and what can they not do? Should the parents hit them to learn discipline, or should they not hit them and figure out another way to make them learn what discipline is?