Although overprotective parenting initially might be intended to raise a successful, well-rounded individual, it often gets taken to another level. In turn, there are many negative effects on a child. Many parents often get carried away as power and control take over. Over time, overprotective parenting turns into a dictatorship with no meaning, and children are broken down mentally and emotionally. Also, parents who strive for perfection in a child eventually tear that child apart by making the child feel that they are not good enough; this leads to anxiety and a lack of self-confidence. A child might succeed and perfect many aspects of life, but it is simply impossible to be perfect all the time. Therefore, once a student enters high school …show more content…
Thirty-two fathers with children between the ages of 2 and 7 were part of this qualitative study, who were asked how they viewed overprotective parents (Brussoni and Olsen). It was found that the majority of the fathers questioned had negative attitudes toward overprotective parenting. Generally, fathers believe that overprotective parenting will set children up for failure in the future. Some concerns that fathers possess include a lack of development and self-confidence if children are not exposed to opportunities (Brussoni, L.L. Olsen). Research was also carried out on college students to determine the effects of helicopter parenting on the students. It was proven that college students who perceive their parents as “warm and encouraging of autonomy” are likely to develop healthy peer attachments, whereas college students who perceive their parents as “cold and controlling” are likely to develop unhealthy peer attachments (van Ingen). “The quality of peer attachment has been linked to self-esteem, general self-concept, locus of control, empathy, prosocial behavior, optimism, life satisfaction, and scholastic competence” (van Ingen). In addition, adolescents who had healthy relationships with their peers but were not as attached to parents had “more sympathy and less depression and aggression” than did adolescents who were severely attached to parents but unhealthily attached to peers (van Ingen). Therefore, attempting to protect a child from minor injuries and holding them back by the fear of failure will ruin a child’s
Parents these days seem to over praise their children, seeing that it is their job to building self-esteem. Thus, either influencing a positive or negative impact onto the child. And whatever effect it causes, it defines a child’s self-esteem when he/she is growing up and later
In “Helicopter Parents – Stop Hovering!” Diether H. Haenicke makes a proposition that parents who hover for their children are not helping them; on the other hand, they are more likely affecting them negatively. Haenicke points out that some parents would attend classes in the university and take notes for their son or daughter if they were sick. He also states that parents would even go with their kids to a job interview. According to Haenicke, most companies will never hire a person who goes for a job interview with his or her parents. According to Haenicke, some students have low self-esteem because they rely less and less on their own abilities as they have learned to be dependent on their parents. The extreme dependence denies them the opportunity to learn by experience, which is the best teacher. All of these factors play a major role in the development of some mental problems by these students. It is therefore the highest time that college students should be left to lead their own lives and experience life in totality.
Many parents believe they have little influence on their children’s lives. This is simply not true. At the ages of 10 -12 if the child does not have a strong bond with at least one parent, he or she might start to find that bond elsewhere, which can be negative. Studies show that securely attached adolescents are less likely to be involved in drinking, drugs and sexual behavior. Also, attachment relates to the belief bond. If the child is in a situation where he or she is tempted to commit a delinquent act, even though his or her parent is not physically there, the parent will psychologically be there is the belief bond is strong. This causes the child to question the activities he or she is faced with. So having strong attachments with parents will motivate children to making the right
Telling a child they have to be number one in every subject, leads them to believe anything less is unsatisfactory. These children who are disciplined too harshly will become insecure adolescents and anxious adults (Extreme Parenting). Kwan Lee is the father of a student who attends OCT. He says, “The children of ‘Tiger Moms’ are too programmed. They get into a good college, but they don’t know what to do next,” (Yi). Such children lack initiative because their decisions have been made for them by their parents (Extreme Parenting). This leads to feelings of unsureness during the college
Fathers have the tendency to have a greater influence on the child than the mother. When children know that they have someone that genuinely loves them, they tend to be happier and more easily satisfied in life. When children do not feel the love from their parents, they become aggressive and unstable emotionally. Without parents or their support, children begin to feel as if they are not good enough and that nobody wants them. But when it comes to rejection from a father, “Delinquency, depression, and substance abuse are all more closely linked to dad’s rejection”(Pappas), which shows how much more a father is needed in a child’s life. Research shows that “fathers who are most effective are those who listen to their children, have a close relationship, set appropriate rules, but also grant appropriate freedom”(Pappas), which was lacked in Fences and The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn. A father’s presence is important because, if someone has a son or daughter and is not there for his children or if they are there and they are doing bad things in front of them, that makes the son believe it is fine to have children and not come around or it is all right to abuse
Toro focuses on the significance of the relationship between parent and child and how parent styles are important in the developments of future romantic relationships. The author emphasizes to the general audience the importance of understanding parent-child attachments and the influences it has on potential future relationships because it demonstrates how significant a parents role is in influencing the welfare in their children’s future relationships. Toro attempts to convince that by understanding the importance of parent-child attachments and its influences, the knowledge gained could be used to counseling settings. A study is performed to demonstrate there is a correlation between the two and the absence of attachment anxiety. Within this study, author assumes that there is a relationship between parenting styles and parent-child attachment, it was predicted that when a child is raised with a healthy parenting style and a secure parent-child attachment, attachment anxiety would be absent within a relationship. Evidence, when study performed, clearly supported that secure parenting styles and authoritative parenting styles did account for an absence of attachment anxiety within a relationship. However, study performed was limited in having a variety of culture; attachment varies in each culture and due to this, study may have a limiting result and may not apply to a general population.
In this study, another relationship between parenting styles and child development is presented. Participants were 7,836 adolescents enrolled in six high schools in San Francisco. They were provided with a questionnaire that included student background information, self-reported grades, parental attitudes and behaviors, and family commutation information. The study included three parenting styles, which were authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative. Each one of the styles were described in the students’ questionnaire. The authoritarian style included the idea that as a response to a bad grade, parents tend to get upset, and when good grades are achieved, parents tell the student to do even better than what they have done. On the other hand, permissive parenting style was described as parents no caring about the students’ grade, and that hard work in school is not important for them. Then, they included authoritative parenting style as supportive parents that praise the student when good grades are achieved and more freedom to make decisions is given, but when poor grades are obtained, freedom is taken away and students are encouraged to try harder and some source of help is
The most apparent social and environmental factors are manifested in where children are raised and the style of parenting they are subjected to as explained by the Attachment Theory. Although there are various definitions of attachment, they all communicate its critical role in human development. Emotional well-being is a critical part of psychological development and parents and caregivers should act as stress buffers for their children rather than sources of stress (Immordino-Yang & Damasio, 2011). The direct implication is that parents bear the greatest responsibility in terms of how children develop psychologically and are accountable to a significant extent of their future lives. Hence, this program is informed by the knowledge that an individual’s behavior, emotional intelligence, academic achievements, social relationships and life outcomes are influenced by the relationships they had with their parents. An effective way to ensure that children grow up while developing positively psychologically is to encourage parents and caregivers to be involved as much as possible in their lives from an early stage. While children can also be encouraged to be close to their parents, the parents’ responses to their needs may not always be appropriate or positive. Therefore, it is more beneficial when efforts target
In this day and age, the media labels overbearing parents as helicopter parents, and the label itself has taken on a negative light due to the guilt by association. The ‘popular’ definition of helicopter parenting come from the ‘extreme’ cases (Jayson 5). The extreme cases in the news are just that, extreme cases; they do not depict helicopter parenting in general, and have been given the name Blackhawks (“Liftoff for ‘Helicopter’ Parents”). The idea of helicoptering has become a misguided ‘negative portrait’ by media using the term and ‘over parenting synonymously’, but the two terms should be used so. They are very different; over parenting is when a parent does not let the child think for themselves (Aucoin). Over parenting and helicopter parenting are not synonyms, but they are not quite antonyms. Helicoptering can become oppressive parents quite easily. Another side of over parenting is the side that ‘expects… immediate compliance’ to orders without giving reasoning. This style can cause below average ‘self-esteem… self-reliance and… social skills’ (McDevitt and Ormrod). The regular helicopter parenting is more common than what would be assumed as a study shows ‘60 to 70 percent’ of college parents have ‘some helicoptering behavior...
In secure attachment, infants use the caregiver, usually the mother, as a secure base from which to explore the environment. Secure attachment is theorized to be an important foundation for psychological development later in childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. In insecure attachment, infants either avoid the caregiver or show considerable resistance or ambivalence toward the caregiver. Insecure attachment is theorized to be related to difficulties in relationships and problems in later development. Developmentalists have begun to explore the role of secure attachment and related concepts, such as connectedness to parents, in adolescent development. They believe the attachment to parents in adolescence may facilitate the adolescent’s social competence and well-being, as reflected in such characteristics as self- esteem, emotional adjustment, and physical health (Allen & Kuperminc ; Armden & Greenberg; Black & McCartney; Blain, Thompson,
In depth analysis has revealed the structure of people and who they grow up to be. Whether the parenting style is prosperous or poor, it has significant impacts on how one sees the world, how one sees themself and has influence on one's levels of achievement throughout a lifetime. Until the child can recognize their own ability and goals, parenting style is the largest determining factor in the child's success in social and academic circumstances. Children are the final product, or a reflection of culture and a family's values. No matter what events or people cause turmoil in a child's life, the true impact of the negative outside forces lays in the parents hands. If the child is raised correctly, negativity will not take a toll on them as opposed to a child raised in a 'broken home.'
In the modern world of ours today, parents have many ways to bring up their kids. A good example is that parents can search online for better ways to teach their children. With the internet, anything is possible today. However, bad parenting is common around us. To raise a child is a hard job to be done. As children grows, their assumptions and aspirations will be altered. It is not easy to anticipate what will happen next. Due to family problem, National Runaway Switchboard also have statistic about 14.3 percent of the teenagers between the ages of 10 to 18 had the thought of running away from home.The two major problem is that parents are constantly comparing their children with others and not attentive listening to their kids but both can be solved by doing the exact opposite.Paragraph 2:Poor parenting root from parents trying to compare their children with others and not giving attention to their kids. Why is comparing their children considered bad parenting? Radwan (n.d) explained that parents that compare will raise children with jealousy and furthermore diminish their self-est...
This paper will explore the strict parenting whether it has positive effects or negative effects on children. Before I begin my discussion, I want to ask you a question. How do you define an authoritarian parent? In response to this question, you can think about someone who has a complete control over his or her children. According to Kendra Cherry, the author of “What Is Authoritarian Parenting?”, she explains that, “Authoritarian Parenting is a style characterized by high demands and low responsiveness.” In this sentence, authoritarian parenting, also known as helicopter parenting, is parents who force their children to follow their needs without any explanations, so their children must be under their regulations even though children do not
The role of the father, a male figure in a child’s life is a very crucial role that has been diminishing over the years. An absent father can be defined in two ways; the father is physically not present, or the father is physically present, but emotionally present. To an adolescent, a father is an idolized figure, someone they look up to (Feud, 1921), thus when such a figure is an absent one, it can and will negatively affect a child’s development. Many of the problems we face in society today, such as crime and delinquency, poor academic achievement, divorce, drug use, early pregnancy and sexual activity can be attributed to fathers being absent during adolescent development (Popenoe, 1996; Whitehead, 1993). The percentage of adolescents growing up fatherless has risen from 17% to 36% in just three decades between 1960 and 1990 (Popenoe, 1996). Dr. Popenoe estimates this number will increase to approximately 50% by the turn of the century (Popenoe, 1996). The US Census Bureau reported out of population of 24 million children, 1 out 3 live in a home without a father (US Census Bureau, 2009).
(Baumrind 1971, 1991 as cited in Kopko) that, “positive parenting is warm but firm.” Youth should be given a certain degree of freedom but need to be encouraged to exercise this freedom within the accepted social norms and limits. The reason for setting such limits is to educate and inculcate a sense of self-discipline and positive values in the child. The more a child learns to control their behavior the better their self-esteem, as they know that they have achieved certain positive values. As a result, they feel more positive about other people as well as themselves known how to interact and conduct themselves appropriately when dealing or interacting with other people. (Heinsler,