Interviewer: How would describe your identity as an individual.
Interviewee: I love caring and sympathy. I always think of other needs before mines. This sometimes works against me but I can handle it. I am also very proud. I have 3 children and a lovely dog that just makes me joyful. I would also describe my identity as being very strong willed. Ive had been through so much heartache in my lifetime. I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, my daughter was diagnosed with Lupus and I lost my husband to cancer. Throughout everything I am so blessed to be who I am today.
Interviewer: How do you feel about abuse in general?
Interviewee: I am against it! No one should have to go through being abused. Abuse can affect you socially. It can cause trust issues with other. But I am for punishment.
Interviewer: Can you exaggerate what you mean by “punishment”.
Interviewee: I believe in whippings’. But I never over do a spanking so you can’t consider it as physical abuse. My momma used to discipline my siblings and me. She used beat us with shoes, belts, extension cords, basically anything she could get her hands own. I remember one time I used to ask her why she always whoops us when we do something wrong. She told me “If I talked to you it would go through one ear and go out the other, and I know what best for you stop
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questioning me.. I’m the momma. “ Interviewer: So would you say your mother’s form of punishment help set the foundation to your identity? Interviewee: Yes, because every mother shows there love in different ways.
And the way my mother showed her love, it made me not want to do wrong, it encouraged me to stay in the right path. Now since I’m thinking about it I wonder if I wasn’t punished, would I be the person I am today. When I was younger would I be the girl who was always in trouble because my mother didn’t care about what I did. Would I be the woman on the corner selling drugs or even in and out of jail? Because of my moderate punishments that I received I have always been afraid, I’m not saying that I am perfect. I did make mistakes along the way, but they were minor
mistakes. Interviewer: For those who are trying to recover their identity from abuse what encouraging words will you say to them? Interviewee: I would tell them child, hold your head up high, and don’t you let no one discourage you. Before you came out you mother womb, God already knew you were going to be. You are much greater than your struggle.
Spanking is an important aspect of a child’s social development and should not be considered an evil form of abuse. In her argument, Debra Saunders says that there is an obvious difference between beating a child and spanking a child, and parents know the boundary. Spanking is the most effective form of discipline when a child knows doing something is wrong, but the child does it anyway. A child who is properly disciplined through spanking is being taught how to control her or his impulses and how to deal with all types of authorities in future environments. Parents can control their child’s future behavior by using spanking in early childhood, because if...
The use of spanking is one of the most controversial parenting practices and also one of the oldest, spanning throughout many generations. Spanking is a discipline method in which a supervising adult deliberately inflicts pain upon a child in response to a child’s unacceptable behaviour. Although spanking exists in nearly every country and family, its expression is heterogeneous. First of all the act of administering a spanking varies between families and cultures. As Gershoff (2002) pointed out, some parents plan when a spanking would be the most effective discipline whereas some parents spank impulsively (Holden, 2002). Parents also differ in their moods when delivering this controversial punishment, some parents are livid and others try and be loving and reason with the child. Another source of variation is the fact that spanking is often paired with other parenting behaviours such as, scolding, yelling, or perhaps raging and subsequently reasoning. A third source of variation concerns parental characteristics. Darling and Steinberg (1993) distinguished between the content of parental acts and the style in which it was administered (Holden, 2002). With all this variation researchers cannot definitively isolate the singular effects of spanking.
Identity, an ambiguous idea, plays an important part in today’s world. To me identity can be defined as who a person is or what differentiates one person from another. Identity would be a person’s name, age, height, ethnicity, personality, and more. A quote by Anne Sexton states “It doesn't matter who my father was; it matters who I remember he was”(Anne Sexton). This quote helps me define identity because I believe it is saying that identity is what people are remembered by. When some people think of identity, words such as, uniqueness, distinctiveness, or individuality may come to mind. However, I disagree with this because when I think of identity I think of mimicry, self-consciousness, or opinions.
Swat! The entire store tries not to stare at the overwhelmed mother spanking her three-year-old whaling son. As if the screaming tantrum wasn't enough of a side show at the supermarket. This method, or technique perhaps, has been around for decades, even centuries. Generations have sat on grandpa’s lap and listened to the stories of picking their own switch or getting the belt after pulling off a devilish trick. So why then has it become a major controversy in the past few decades? The newest claim is that spanking and other forms of physical punishment can lead to increased aggression, antisocial behavior, physical injury and mental health problems for children. Brendan L. Smith uses many case studies and psychologists findings in his article “The Case Against Spanking” to suggest that parents refrain from physically punishing their children due to lasting harmful effects.
I am afraid that this is more a long question rather than an answer. What exactly does it mean to be an individual? Or are we even individuals? I suppose what is meant when we say we are individual is that we have individual thoughts, as really our actions throughout our life are far from individual or unique. They may seem to be but really they are not. If this is true though then we rarely get our individualism out, if what is seen is not individual.
Many people don’t know exactly what child abuse is. Child abuse is physical maltreatment or sexual molestation of a child. Child abuse consists of three categories, physical, emotional, sexual and neglect. Some Americans even view spanking unacceptable act and others see it as an appropriate form of discipline. Well, spanking varies on a thin line. If you leave a mark and/ or aggravated and take it out on the child, that is considered abuse. When you spank after the child misbehaves and doesn’t leave a mark it isn’t abuse. Some facts about child abuse are that approximately 5 children die every day because of child abuse, most children become victims of abuse and neglect at 18 months or younger, and 14 percent of all men and 36 percent of all women in prison were abused as children. Children of all sorts of ages and races that get abused every day; some children have disorders and long term effects and sometimes these children die. Then some of these children will never feel safe in their lifetime because they know the one who abuse them are somewhere out there.
The quest to find one’s identity and have a sense of individuality is rampant in Kazuo Ishiguro’s Never Let Me Go. The humanistic urge to have purpose is embodied in the characters of Kathy, Tommy and Ruth very differently. They each know that their life’s purpose is to donate until “completion,” yet on the way there they explore themselves and find out there is more to each of them than their vital organs, even if that is how society has labeled them.
As a young child, I knew my mother as strict and consistent. The house was orderly. Rules were clear and expected to be followed. Of course, I was compelled to always test this side of my mother--I can’t tell you how many hours I spent sitting on a chair in the corner of the kitchen, staring at our yellow tile!! Even then, my mother did not believe in spankings and corporal punishment as such, but she did use the occasional “wap” on the arm or behind when she felt it was necessary. If you watch the old family movies, you will see me in many scenes pouting and rubbing my arm (Testing those limits again!!).
“Our identity is a specific marker of how we define ourselves at any particular moment in life” (Kirk 1). I was completely lost for words when I read this quote, and that is because I always lived thinking that my identity was the little bit of information that was put on my Identification Card. Therefore, it seemed surreal to think that my identity could be changing from time to time, possibly even constantly. The aspects of my life that have molded me into the man I am today are forever growing due to my social location, which includes everyone and everything that has ever been in my life. It seems to be that the depth of my existence is never ending.
These are common questions, which elderly individuals may consider when reflecting on their identity. Understanding who they are, what their feelings and opinions are, and what they like and do not like. What characteristics and factors make them, them, a unique human being. Identity refers to the understanding an individual has of himself or herself (Habibis & Walter, 2015, p. 9). While many individuals within society will have a positive sense of self, others may struggle to understand their identity and self. Identity can be affected by a range of factors and has a close relationship with wellbeing. For the purpose of this essay the identity of elderly individuals that live
A person’s identity is shaped by many different aspects. Family, culture, friends, personal interests and surrounding environments are all factors that tend to help shape a person’s identity. Some factors may have more of an influence than others and some may not have any influence at all. As a person grows up in a family, they are influenced by many aspects of their life. Family and culture may influence a person’s sense of responsibilities, ethics and morals, tastes in music, humor and sports, and many other aspects of life. Friends and surrounding environments may influence a person’s taste in clothing, music, speech, and social activities. Personal interests are what truly set individuals apart. An individual is not a puppet on the string of their puppet-master, nor a chess piece on their master’s game board, individuals choose their own paths in life. They accomplish, or strive to accomplish, goals that they have set for themselves throughout their lifetime. Individuals are different from any other individual in the world because they live their own life rather than following a crowd of puppets. A person’s identity is defined by what shaped it in the first place, why they chose to be who they are, and what makes them different from everybody else in the world. I feel that I have developed most of my identity from my own dreams, fantasies, friends, and idols.
In contrast to TP’s focus on individuals, CP holds a different ontological position as it is based on relativism and critical theory through critical examination of society and culture (Rogers, 2003). The aim of CP is to promote social change by being inquiry based and start with the problem rather than focusing solely on the individual (Fletcher, 1996). This is because it is believed that the individual is always and already located in society where we can’t separate from the social world, and social embeddedness of thinking and behaviour. CP approach contributes a qualitative different critical space and alternative research that breaks from the traditional positivist approach by the critiques of psychology and the politics of research raised
Walking into a room full of people I have known all of my life, I find
My past, present, and aspirations for the future, all contribute to who I am as an individual. In other words, it embodies my identity by defining who I used to be, who I am now, and who I seek to become. As a result, my experiences paved the path for my life to follow. Furthermore, I am proud to accept my history, for every aspect of it has brought me to where I am now, by molding my character along the way.
Sometimes a person may feel that they have no purpose in life. Finding out who you are just takes the time of sitting down and thinking of the importance in your life. Who am I? I am Mercedes Kimberly Kingston, and I am a person with different personalities, characteristics, and identities. The many ways, in which I identify myself, in fact, are the ways that define who I am. My Identity is something only I can fully define. I have a little brother, which makes me a sister; I have two loving parents, which makes me a daughter; I am in college studying medicine, which makes me a student; and I have wonderful friends in desperate need of support, which makes me a wonderful best friend.