Debra Fine's The Fine Art Of Small Talk

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The ability to make small talk with your coworkers may seem like just a small thing; or like something that is not that big of a deal. But I would argue that your ability to converse with others is, in fact, something that can make a big impact. In fact, CNN.com reports that Debra Fine, the author of "The Fine Art of Small Talk" states that the ability to make small talk isn't just about schmoozing. It's about developing and exercising an ability to connect with others, which can lead to big things in the business world. Your ability to converse with others has a lot more bearing on your success at your job than, say, your college grade point average or the university you attended. So to fine-tune your own small talk skills at work and at networking functions, use the following tips: Listen more than you talk. Anyone who dominates a conversation tends to appear pushy. Allow your partner to speak. Do not interrupt him or her. Make eye contact. Stay focused on the person to whom you are speaking. Be attentive. Don't glace around the room. …show more content…

Try to make the compliment specific and open ended, such as, "That's a great tie knotyou have. Is it a Four In Hand?" Or, "I like that watch that you have on. Was it a gift?" Also, if you receive a compliment, don't give a self deprecating answer such as, "Oh, I'm so tired today, there's no way I look nice." Instead, thank the person, and use it as a gateway to start a conversation. You can always turn the compliment around back to the person, too. For example: If someone says, "I like your sweater," your response could be, "Thank you. I'm sure you noticed my sweater because you always dress so nicely

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