Conflict: The Values Of Conflict In High School

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Conflict is something everyone experiences in their daily lives; it can happen amongst person’s and their friends, family, and coworkers. Conflict occurs when individuals have a disagreement on a person’s values and beliefs, which could relate to religious or political views. Each person handles conflict differently depending on their personal values, interpretation, and the environment If I had the opportunity to go back and manage a conflict that I dealt with in high school, I would. I like to think I am a very compromising person when it comes to a disput and understands that everyone has different values and views on several things that happen in today’s society. Back in high school, I was the type of person to be over accommodating because …show more content…

Everyone has their opinions on everything that happens in society; we are taught to be opened minded about people and their values, but truth is not many people are. Society makes people believe if you do not fit into what they constrict as the social norm, you either are not valued for your opinion, or you fit the stigma they put around being different. Personal values are one of the biggest clashes we have because not everyone sees eye to eye on things, and this where the conflict starts. “Conflict often implies a moral assessment, because at least one party is seen as pursuing ends that deny the legitimacy of another 's ends.” (Homer-Dixon, 1989). If the conflict that I had, I feel that my personal values were criticized because I use to make people believe that I had the noncaring attitude but when it comes to personal issues, I keep to myself. I was brought up by the quote “ better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie.” (Hosseini, 2003). I felt that my friends were trying to diminish my values with all of them confronting me in such a harsh environment, and having them in a sense ganging up on me. Looking back on this I can understand why they were frustrated with me because the way I went about things I often had that noncaring attitude, and I would say whatever is on my mind, and not care who’s feelings got hurt. Also at the fact that I did not tell them about my personal issues that were going on in my life because it gave them the impression that I did not trust them. Being the person, I am today; I would have told them that everyone has different coping mechanisms for things, and if they could not handle mine then that would be a means to an end of the friendship. I would not change my personal values and mannerism for anyone; it was the way I was brought up, and it is who I am, and if someone cannot accept that they

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