Betsy Thoughtless Essay

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When people think about the social situation of women in the eighteenth century, they immediately jump to the conclusion that women had no autonomy over themselves and that they were all only able to listen to the men in their lives. However, in Betsy Thoughtless by Eliza Haywood, she is able to show us that that notion was untrue and did not represent every women. Haywood shows the reader how women had a great deal more of choice in how their life was to play out, than is generally understood. In the novel, the reader is able to see how women had choices, even in situations where it might have seemed they had none.
Haywood’s character, Betsy Thoughtless was a young woman who lived life vivaciously and is a touchstone example of showing …show more content…

An early instance of Betsy exerting control over her choices and life is when she demanded that her dress she had gotten from the dressmaker, be exchanged for something she was satisfied with. Flora and her mother, Lady Mellasin, were trying to convince her that she should wear the dress, but she was having none of it. When Flora tries to say that Lady Mellasin was wiser than Betsy, she told her “I do not know what you mean, Miss Flora; Mr. Goodman is one of my guardians indeed, but I don’t know why that should entitle his lady to direct me in what I shall wear” (61). In this instance, we can see Betsy starting to assert herself and her control. She knew that the adults in her life had some control over her life, but she also knew that not everything had to be approved by them. The …show more content…

The men would write her an endless amount of letters professing their love for her and how they wanted her to marry them. Betsy was never truly interested in any of the men and preferred to use them as entertainment. The adults in her life tried to push Betsy and have her commit to one of these men, but she refused to do so. While this may of been looked at as being unmannerly, this was another instance of Betsey exercising her control over herself. At one point in the novel, Betsy is talking to three men at the same time. To her, this is nothing more than a way to boost her ego and pass the time by. But to her trustees, this should be a time when she is trying to marry someone. On page 123, her brother Francis writes a letter to her introducing another prospective suitor, Sir Ralph Trusty. In the letter, he states that he trusts her judgement but says that he was confident that “very little time will convince you that he is deserving all the esteem in your power to regard him: in the mean time doubt not, but you will receive him as a person whose success, in every thing, is much desired by him, who is, [...] Your most affectionate brother”. He assumes that Betsy will choose Sir Trusty not just because she likes him but because he knows Trusty and is fond of

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