Being A Twin

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People always say that they want a twin because of the curiosity of what it would be like to always have someone there and the idea of being able to play tricks on other people. Few people don’t have the experience of having a close bond with another individual. So it is nice to be a twin the thought of having your own personal buddy and someone you can share your clothes with. I get asked this question a lot what is it like being a twin? I cannot answer that question appropriately because I don’t know what it is like not to have a twin. Being a twin certainly has its perks, but it also comes with a unique set of emotional and physical challenges.
Being a twin it can be hard to be your on individual, because you are constantly being paired …show more content…

My parents dressed me and my sister equivalent when we were babies until we were in 3rd grade. It’s adorable and all but when it is done routinely it becomes parental reinforcement of the idea that two people, with separate personalities and separate core beings are seen as a single. When younger children around the ages 3-5 they start the “I” stage to distinguish themselves from people around them. Twins mostly identical twins experience this stage differently from kids that do not have a twin; they begin the “we” stage instead of the “I” stage where twins learn to distinguish only as far as “us” and “them” creating a unit style identification. When my sister and I where younger we always thought of each other as one, we did not think of each other as two separate individuals. Our parents would refer to us as one individual. For example if one twin is punished the other twin is punished as well. My mom didn’t separate the discipline between me and my sister instead of disciplining the one that got in trouble she would discipline both of us. So it was hard to see are self as “I” because we both would get in trouble for the other ones actions. Also having to share everything we thought instead of “mines” we thought of it as “ours”. So when we got older it was hard to differentiate us from one another and to tell apart what was ours and what was not ours. Even though were older now we still relate to …show more content…

They may express that they love each other beyond anyone else in the world and identify each others as “ideal” companion or soul mates. However twins also wants to find another companion so when they begin to date they find it hard, because when one twin has a boyfriend they feel that there being abandon. When I and my sister entered the dating world we did not know how difficult it would be to find someone who would want to be with us for us. When I was 16 I was dating a guy for awhile I thought he knew me and my sister apart because we dated for about a year until one day when me and my sister where walking in the halls he came up and admired her and kissed her while I was standing right there! My sister shock she pulled away and said “I’m not Briana” he then laugh I clearly new he thought it was funny and didn’t think it was a big deal and didn’t care about my feelings. I was awfully upset and annoyed how he didn’t see anything wrong with what he did. It is also hard to date someone because we would have to divide our time so that the other twin want feel

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