Laura Kipnis Against Love Essay

Mature Love

In Laura Kipnis Against Love, what I believe love to be is uniquely questioned and probed in every manner. Kipnis yanks at every part of a relationship that is, according to her, inevitably bound to fail. Unfortunately I believe she mostly writes about the negatives of marriage and infidelity rather than love. It is troubling to agree with her uncomfortable views on marriage and coupledom becoming a sort of renunciation of personal desires, but I think Kipnis is brave in creating this polemic suggesting the way love has been programmed into us by modern society, as an all encompassing, fantasy type of love, all about one person forever. Humans have been wired in a way to look for a meaningful view of life through love, which can

You must become one with your partner, so close that you can tell when they are happy or sad just by one look. Does the library carry a book on How To Read Minds or a Dummies Guide to Becoming a Psychic? She refers to this as mutuality, a way to of understanding your significant other that in turn makes one lovable. The irony in the modern relationship is that we all want someone to understand us, someone for ourselves, but humans are not wired in such a way that we can cut “off other possibilities of romance and sexual attraction for the more muted pleasures of mature love.”(404). There are 7.4 billion people in the world and that means there is an unimaginable amount of people who could be the one. And unnaturally forcing our desires into trying to get all of our needs satisfied by one person turns into an internal turmoil. A turmoil that begins to boil as soon as bank accounts are joined, closets begin to be shared, dishes are left in the wrong side of the sink, toilet seats are left up, meals are complained about instead of appreciated and so on and so on. And in time if we compromise and put up with these new irritants that can cause the mayhem within our souls, Kipnis refers to this a loosing a limb, a way of not being true to thyself for companionship, giving up your pride and beliefs for love. Furthermore, Anna, the woman who Dmitri is having an affair with, is married as well. And when she had began to think

Granted some may have a special circumstance, like people from single parent households, orphans or parents who are divorced. According to www.ofm.wa.gov a study shows that thirty-one percent of families in the year of 2014 were headed by single parents. This means that sixty nine percent of kids are living with both parents. Those parents may have been in love once, be that love long lasting or short lived. And that 69% of kids will grow to want a love and family like their own with a person they can call their own. Kipnis states that fifty percent of marriages end in divorce, which leaves room for the people from the cup-half-full-committee to agree that there is a fifty-fifty chance at a marriage