In this piece, I am a wife that is abused and cheated on. I reach out for help from seeing my mother abused. The person that, eventually, comes to help is my husband’s mistress, which is portrayed by Alisha. In this role, I like that I can show emotion and push my partners to their full potential. I dislike that I have to be abused, but then again, I came up with that part. I connected closely to this role because I have seen some of my family members, who have been victim to domestic violence. They have been very open with their experiences and emotions. My biggest challenge with this piece was to turn my family’s words into movement. I also had to research a lot of domestic violence pieces, in order to make it look realistic and really tell …show more content…
the story. One of my greatest accomplishments was being successful in choreographing a dance, with the help of Alisha. She and I worked hard on this dance to make it suitable for all three of us, since we have different dance styles. Our technical structure shows different levels of movement, rond de jambe, chaine turns, developpe, battement, and etc. The tone of my piece goes from sad and painful, to free and glad. In this piece, my name is Jordan.
I grew up in an abusive household that was prone to infidelity. I would cry in my room, afraid of all the screaming and yelling. The lifestyle was normal to me. I would pray that God help me through the pain. I thought the fighting and cheating meant love because after my parents would do it, they said, “I love you”. When I met my husband, he treated me like my father never did. He bought me gifts, and told me I was beautiful. Then things started to change. When my husband, the man that I “loved” began to beat me, I thought we had finally had “real love”. Unfortunately, I was glad when he beat me. It hurt, but I believed in tough love. Things started to change when he cheated. I began to feel the pain that my mother never showed. I knew I wasn’t the cause of his anger because I’ve never complained when my nose bled, or when he broke my jaw. He had his own demons that he needed to fight. I started to break free and seek help the best I knew how. Then, I’d seen this woman in front of my home, but my husband was not there. When she asked for him, I knew exactly who she was. She was his mistress. I told her who I was to Josiah. She pleaded how she didn’t know, and how sorry she was. She’d seen the bruises on my face and arms; as a result, she asked to help me. I was reluctant at first, but I knew she was my only hope. I am now free, and ,ironically, her and I are good friends. We have worked together to forgive Josiah of his wrongdoings to the …show more content…
both of us. The message we are trying to bring with our piece is that it’s okay to go through struggle, for it always gets better.
Life motivated us in creating this piece. We knew that real people go through these things, so it would be only right that we positively portray their struggle. The emotion that moved us was the suffering that people go through daily, and their voices aren’t heard. We tried to build this emotion up in creating this piece. We used rhythmic patterns to show to show the patterns of abuse in the world today. It’s like a cycle in fatherless families. Young girls look for their fathers in the wrong kind of men. The main choreographers were me and Alisha, Josiah came up with a couple moves also. A change I would make to the dance is our level of emotion, considering this happens to real people. I also would try to switch the roles and show the other side on how men could be abused too. The successful part of making this piece was making new friends and working with people I don’t usually work with. I got to see my partners use techniques that I’d never seen them use on their own. We would work on the piece and they’d do a move, and I would think wow. Being the person that I am, I love to see others succeed in different things. I wanted to come up with a story and message that they had no choice but to give it their all. Dance Panel in everything that it is has taught me about myself. I’ve learned that you don’t have to stick with what you know. You can step
outside the box, and still be the same person you were yesterday. Change is good, as long as you stay true to who you were before.
In Queen’s “Being Emotionally Abuse: A Phenomenological Study of Adult Women’s Experience of Emotionally Abusive Intimate Partner Relationship”, she focused on a total of 15 women, who have been emotionally abused from an intimate partner relationship and wanted the women to describe, “What is it like to live the life of a woman who is emotionally abused by her intimate partner?” When experiencing emotional abuse, it can be expressed as “not easily detected; it is non-transparent in that there are no physical markers.” (Bornstein 2007, Campbell 2000). The. The emotional abuse can be very hurtful towards the women at times because while in the cycle of the relationship, the woman cannot tell when something bad or good will happen.
Spousal Abuse in today’s society is extremely prevalent. All across the world, cases of spousal and domestic abuse are happening. In Khaled Hosseni’s A Thousand Splendid Suns, Spousal abuse plays an imperative role as development to the character’s emotions.
This story shares the extreme abusive behaviors, and how easy it is for domestic violence to be hidden. This book is an example of many individuals who are physically abused every day. This story also reveals the horrible aspects of their lives and gives a voice to those who struggle domestic abuse. Even though Pelzer got away from his mother, in the end he was still mentally affected from his mother’s violence. Pelzer’s mother was someone who showed mental problems because no person who’s mentally right would physically abuse their child. In the end, Pelzer was lucky to overcome his abusive life, and share the untold stories from child
This is an alarming statistic that shows just how common and prevalent domestic violence is in the United States, particularly in women. In a previous class discussion, we studied the Power and Control Wheel, a tool for individuals to be able to pinpoint traits in their romantic partner that may be potential warning signs that they should be aware of that may cause physical or mental harm. The traits from the Power Control Wheel displayed in the film were emotional abuse, isolation, male privilege and economic abuse. Despite the presence of these traits, the film was a combination of realistic traits of domestic violence relationships and a Hollywood dramatization. Within the Power and Control Wheel, it describes potential warning signs of the use of emotional abuse would include putting her down, making her feel bad about herself, calling her names, making her think she’s crazy, playing mind games, humiliating her and making her feel guilty. In Queen’s “Being Emotionally Abuse: A Phenomenological Study of Adult Women’s Experience
I fell for a con man, I was brainwashed and an I guess you can say I was in his spell, I was in the cult of my abusive relationship. I was six-teen when I met him, he was twenty-one. We had nothing in common. What did I have that he could possibly want? Just like in a cult he wanted someone that he could manipulate, control, be taking care of financially. I believed that marriage was forever, you know for better or for worse. I didn’t even want to divorce my husband at first. It took me six months after I finally left him to file. I am an old school catholic women. You just don’t leave your husband. So with that being said, I hide the abuse from all of my friends and family. W. An abusive relationship is like a leaking faucet that starts with a slow drip and over time the slow drip has become a flooded house because the pipe has finally broken. First comes the fight, then comes the violent episode, then the honeymoon phase after the violent episode. The make-up sex was so intense. He would love to hit me then make me have sex with him. He would say it is such a turn on. He would always say I cannot believe I did that. I am so sorry it will never happen again. Sometimes months would go buy even years, but it would always start back up. I will say that the emotional abuse I suffered was far worse than the physical abuse. I would rather my ex hit me
Mary Margaret Farren was the wife of a successful husband. Among other things, at one point J. Michael Farren served as Deputy White House Counsel under President George W. Bush. Mary’s husband didn’t only exude power in his public life, although that is certainly one thing he was known for prior to January 2010. At home, the Farren household was troubled with fear and intimidation. Mary never thought Michael would go as far as it took to physically assault her. He lived a life about ethics. At first, the abuse was verbal and emotional. “I was careful never to not to trigger it,” Mary said when discussing the “rage” that Michael had (ABC News 2015). On January 6th, 2010, the physical assault peaked. Michael attacked Mary in their bedroom,
Since time immemorial, women have borne the brunt of abuse in relationships. Katherine Minola’s monologue from act four, scene three of William Shakespeare’s “The Taming of the Shrew”, as well as Brooke Axtell’s 2015 Grammy speech, explore this same topic in different ways. Although both are personal narratives about abusive relationships, the context of broader awareness of the narrators’ experiences, as well as a larger cultural context, inform the similarities as well as differences between these two speeches.
...in being successful in my counseling. The final area in which I identified is obtaining more knowledge on the effects of abuse. This is critical when reaching out to others in their time of need. In order to provide a comfortable environment for someone to share freely, one must truly feel safe and free. My previous preconceived notions no longer obstruct my ability to reason and understand. Domestic violence is an unspoken epidemic where countless women live in silence because they have been faced with people who just don’t understand. To put it more accurately people who just don’t want to understand. As before mentioned often it is through someone else’s pain that we can subtly begin to see the good. My own personal pains have offorded me such an opportunity. With my continued growth I can only remain optimistic about the counseling which is yet to come.
“Tell Jade, I’m gonna kill her next time I see her”. This was the last thing Douglas Deacon said to the guards and nurses taking care of former girlfriend Jade McDonald, before being taken to jail. In this article about the domestic violence survivor Deacon is represented as an abusive man who mistreated his girlfriend in an exceedingly violent manner. The features of the article and the video which included the facts about how Deacon treated McDonald contributes to the representation of Douglas Deacon along with the emotive and descriptive language in the article and the video.
Domestic violence is a serious problem, which occurs in many countries. In recent years, domestic violence or family violence has been recognized as a serious problem globally. Domestic violence is control by one partner over another in a dating, marital or live-in relationship. The means of control include physical, sexual, emotional and economic abuse, threats and isolation. Survivors face many obstacles in trying to end the abuse in their lives such as psychological and economic entrapment, physical isolation and lack of social support, religious and cultural values, fear of social judgment, threats and intimidation over custody or separation, immigration status or disabilities and lack of viable alternatives. Increased public, legal and
Domestic violence might seem like a foreign subject to most. Maybe we are familiar with the victims through television or movies. The all to real truth is domestic violence is still gathering victims. In Somebody Must Say These Things: An Essay for My Mother, Melody Graulich explores her own experiences. Graulich tells of a man’s man, her grandfather. A self-identified pioneer whom on opposing days is comparable to “Geronimo” and “Sitting Bull” (Graulich, 202), both icons of the American West. What initially appears as a folk hero, quickly becomes a violent tragedy. A man who has married four times and consistently beats his wives. The only reprieve was when his wife was pregnant and he moved his attention to his elder daughter (Graulich, 204). Graulich explores how she identifies with her folk hero grandfather and is ashamed by the thought of her mother or grandmother. Her feminist views won’t allow her to appear weak or submissive.
Domestic violence is a serious issue in our community that cannot be tolerated. Although domestic violence should be reported, women do not want to expose their partners because of the fear that it would destroy their family. As a result, they give the abusers the opportunity to take control over them just to keep their relationship same as before. The story, “Sweat,” by Zora Neale Hurston took place during 1930, where Hurston represents African American women’s lives of that time. During the time, men used to mistreat women and women faced inequality. The story is about a couple who are Delia and Sykes. Hurston shows many parts of abuse in the story through use of symbols that represent the complexity of abuse that there are many different
According to Statistics, “86% reported emotional and psychological abuse, 49% reported physical violence, and 35 % reported financial abuse.” So why does a person stay in an abusive relationship? A question so natural to ask, yet difficult to comprehend. Abuse does not see race, gender, or stature; yet, it happens every day especially in a close - knit relationship. Sometimes abuse can be so subtle that it slowly chips away a person’s identity and the person does not even realize that they are in an abusive relationship. In James Joyce’s, “Eveline” Eveline exhibits the classical signs of a victim to abuse. She lacks self-confidence due to her father’s verbal, emotional, and financial abuse.
Racial and sexual slurs cover every inch of the ground, while disturbing images of men and children ravish the walls beside it. There is no sense of security within this room; instead, guilt and terror capture the viewer, making them feel powerless and weak. Kruger’s installation was meant to evoke fear in men; it forces them to visualize gender inequalities and makes them directly face the horror that women experience. In this manner, Kruger connects these inequalities to violence and shows men the effect that an abusive male has on the female emotionally, mentally, and physically. Ultimately, Kruger’s work, as well as many other feminists’, challenged another concept of domestic violence: the continuation of a man’s power and use of violence in heteronormative constructions (Kosmala
Kennedy, Bernice R. Domestic Violence: A.k.a. Intimate Partner Violence (ipv). New York: iUniverse, 2013. Print.