Analysis: My Soulmate Of Friendship

In order to develop internally and externally, human beings form relationships. Everyone desires love from either a lover, family member, friend, or even pets. However, while some relationships prosper and stay for a life time, others are demolished. Before entering college, there were two relationships that stood out to me. One of them was painful, but the other one made me realize that the most important people in my life is my family.

Since third grade, there was one person whom I considered my true sister. My soulmate of friendship: Stephanie Marie Velazquez-Mendoza, Stephy for short. Well, what can’t I tell you about this girl. She is amazing, funny, a great singer, and just the best person I know. Happily, Stephy is still there for me

In order to form bonds with someone, we communicate with other people. In this chapter, I learned how important it is being able to communicate properly with a person. One mistake can lead to the loss of trust or a termination of a relationship. In this chapter, there were three concepts that stood out to me: self-disclosure, miscommunication, and active listening. Self-disclosure is the amount of personal information one gives to another person. If one wants to make new friends, there is a certain amount of information one must disclose for them to gain some trust from the other person. This is linked into my personal life in how I always self-disclose some of my own personal information before someone tells me theirs. By talking about who I am, other people feel like they can relate to some of the hardships or positive times in my life. People also gain trust in me when I tell them who I am first so they do not feel obligated to tell me who they are also. On the other hand, miscommunication is one of the fastest ways to lose a relationship. Miscommunication can be as easy as saying something in the wrong way or not interpreting what the other person said correctly. Personally, I experienced this first hand that led me to lose several friends. At times I did not take what they said well and saw it offensive and other times I have said things in the wrong way. I can’t take back stupid. There was a time when I accidently told a person that gay

Having friends is a must. As someone who was previously called a loner throughout my life, I can personally say that even though I liked being alone at times, I hated being lonely. I wanted someone with whom I can be alone together. Someone with who I can be reading a book or watching an anime episode and know that they are in the same room as me or better, joining in. The attributes and rules of friendship and shyness were the three main points in this chapter that stuck out to me the most. The attributes of friendships are a must. In order for a friendship to be successful, one needs affection, communion, and companionship. Affection does not necessarily mean for you to be in love with your friend, but you want to and enjoy spending time with them. When I want to spend time with my friends, I always feel a sense of comfort and understanding. I like being in their company and respect who they are as an individual. When I thought of communion, the first thought that came to mind was in fact first communion. I was terribly wrong. Communion is about how significant is the received and given “self-disclosure, emotional support, and practical assistance.” Since I use these attributes with my friendship with Stephy, I am closer with her than any other person I know. However, another reason why we are still friends is because we set rules and boundaries in our friendship. We openly communicated about topics and situation in where we felt both