When I hear the word participation trophy the image of my little league team and I walking off the field with trophies after not having won a single game the season immediately comes to my mind. I couldn't articulate the feeling then, but know I can confidently say I felt mocked it was patronizing and more humiliating than actually losing. I say this because being honest I knew we didn't deserve a trophy. There was not a single practice that my entire team showed too and when people did nobody, maybe excluding one or two kids, took practice seriously. In the end, many of those kid including myself lost out on learning valuable life lessons from our failure. It is my opinion that only handing out participation trophies for little leagues is …show more content…
Believe me with I say losing suck and is not fun, but it happens and for children, I believe it can be an experience that can hurt and damage a person or it can be an experience that can motivate them to do better in the future. Adversity is a part of life and as people get older it becomes more and more difficult to avoid. If we choose to protect our children from all unpleasant experiences it will only hurt them later in life and rob them from. For instance, after I joined a different league that didn't do participation trophies every time I lost had a choice to confront failures and push thru or quiet because I lost and it was difficult, I, of course, chose to keep playing, and in the end I feel like I am better off for it. Now when I’m faced with adversity in my life, like a difficult class in college, I now know and can push thru because I have developed the mental aptitude to push thru and succeed and not give up even though I may want to …show more content…
Let's be honest everyone likes to be right and we all love to doing well. In real life though, no one ever is perfect all the time and we all mess up and have people critique our actions and beliefs. But it's important to learn from these critics. It's important for children to learn from their failures. If a child loses a game and then gets participating trophy what did he learn. Participation trophies rob children of chances to learn how and experience criticism from many time someone who will be constructive and show them it can be good for a coach or a parent. Without these opportunities, children lose out on chances to learn how to learn from their failures rather than let their failure conquer them or stunt their growth. Criticism can be a powerful tool in life used to succeed but I can be crippling to children if they are don't know how to take it use it and apply it in their
About one year ago, I played on a Pburg Liners basketball team. It was the championship game and we really wanted to win, but we did not play well, so as a result, we lost. After the game, our coach gave us all trophies. On the other hand , I was thinking, did we actually deserve them. Apparently, some people think that everyone should get a participation trophy. However, people strongly believe not everyone should get a trophy. People believe this because kids who only show up to some practices and do not try hard should definitely not get the same recognition as a person who shows up to all of the practices and works really hard. It teaches kids that young kids have to
Over the years, many sports leagues have given out participation trophies to young athletes. Today, a lot of leagues are no longer giving out trophies to everyone. Leagues should not give out participation trophies because it teaches kids that you don’t need to earn anything, ruins getting an award by not making it a special thing, and teaches young athletes that you will always win.
Our society has shifted its beliefs in how we should treat competition in young people. The question is asked, should all kids get a participation trophy? As it may seem to be an unanswerable question, it honestly isn’t. Thought that the participation trophies may send the message that “coaches” value the kids’ efforts despite their abilities, trophies do not need to be given out. Your words mean just as much when you remind an athlete that you value them in more ways than one. Some may think trophies are a great idea because it shows that everyone’s a “winner.” However, I disagree with that idea. I believe that kids should know that they need to work their hardest in order to be rewarded and understand that not
Every kid on the football field has a trophy. Even the kids who are on the losing team. Kids’ and parents’ faces are bright with smiles, and laughter echoes throughout the field. Kids are showing off their miny trophies, each with a bronze football on them. No one is paying attention to the two feet tall, gold, first place trophy that is in the winning team’s coach’s hand. Everybody is focused on the miniature trophies. Why are these trophies so special? These are participation trophies. Every kid gets one just for participatcuing in a game. Kids started getting participation trophies in the 20th Century. They got the trophies to feel more confident about themselves. Trophies should not be given to every kid because of narcissism increase,
It is ok for children to lose and for them to learn from it. Merryman says, “It’s teaching them it can take a long time to get good at something and that’s alright” (Merryman). Children learn from failure, it teaches them that it takes time and patience to get good at something. Merryman also says, “It’s through hard work and mistakes that we learn the most. We must focus on process and progress, not results and rewards” (Merryman). It takes hard work to win, Children should focus on getting better, not on rewards. Children need to learn that to win it takes hard work and time, they should focus on improving, not on getting participation trophies.
A solution could be improved by only handing out trophies to those who have earned them. There have been many studies to show the harms of participation trophies and how they can affect a child’s future. One study has shown that “if coaches use trophy presentations as a way to acknowledge each player’s unique effort or contribution, that message can be powerful” (Ross), but the fact is that many coaches will not do this and for that reason participation trophies must be banned from youth athletics. When coaches hand out these trophies they are sending the message that they don’t care and just want the children to always be acknowledged as “winners.” Participation trophies have also diminished the value of true awards, and can make the children who have put in the effort and hard work not feel the reward they should. “In the kid’s movie The Incredibles, the evil villain tries to give everybody superpowers. His theory is that if everyone is special, then no one is special” (Krumrie). This is very true in our society and needs to be implemented by regulations and rules to make sure this does not happen. These rules and regulations would be set by athletic associations across the country to ensure the use of participation trophies are not used in sports. The directors will come
A participation trophy can help a child's drive to improve. When a child plays a game and loses, but then watches the other team get a trophy they feel that they suck and won't try to improve. Once they get a participation trophy they make the child feel like they did good and that next time if they get better they will get a bigger trophy for winning and not losing. For instance, “Further, studies also tell us that children who participate in sports get better…”(Huffington 1). This exemplifies that children who participate feel the drive to get better at the sport. When inferring that since they participated they are getting an award if makes them feel like they did good, and then they want to get even better to get a better reward. Thus making the kids get better at the sport showing that participation trophies are beneficial to children, but there are more opportunities to show how they are
The general argument made by author Merryman in her work, “Forget Trophies, Let Kids know It’s O.K. to Lose,” is that Kids need to learn to lose. More specifically, Merryman argues that kids need to know that it is O.K. to lose. She writes, “ Kids need to know they don’t have to win every time. It’s O.K. to lose, to make a mistake. (In a study of Gold Medal Olympians, they said a previous loss was key to their championships.).” In this passage, Merryman is suggesting that without learning to lose kids won't learn important life skills. Moreover, she argues that students will learn the most through mistakes. She writes, “Research has found that the best way to improve kids’ self image is to help them develop their abilities. Once they master a skill, they won’t need manufactured praise to tell them they’ve done well. They’ll know it. And they’ll be thrilled. Like the child who just learned to tie her shoes. That sense of accomplishment is worth more than any trophy.” In this passage, Merryman is suggesting that kids need to develop their skills not be rewarded with a trophy they may not deserve. In conclusion, Merryman’s belief is that kids
Opponents argue that participation trophies are fair solution in youth sports. However, if both teams received a trophy it would not be fair to the winning team. The team that wins is the team that put forth the proper effort in preparing for the game. Children need to learn that they cannot win everything in life, it is impossible to always win. But at the same time, children also need to learn that it is okay to lose at times. Losing is a great too...
Imagine that you just got done sitting on the bench during your basketball tournement. You sat the whole game and your team just lost. After you shake hands with the other team the anouncer calls both teams onto the center of the court. Your coach hands you and all of your other teammates a trophy that says "Good job! At least you tried." You cannot believe that you just got a trophy for sitting on the bench the whole game, not doing anything. All you had to do was show up and you get a trophy weather you win or lose. Although some people argue that participation trophies are good for your self-esteem, I believe that they are useless and a waste of money.
Why do we get participation trophies. If you are in a sport and your team loses all of its games, but you still get a trophy than deep down you will not be proud of that trophy, it will just bring back bad memories. If you do not feel like you earned the trophy than you will not get any sense of success and accomplishment when you look at it because you would know that you did not deserve it. When someone is given a prize for failing they will not be ready for they real world because they will be used to being a winner even though they really were a loser. In the real world everyone is trying to be top dog, they do not care if you fail as long as they succeed. Everyone has to be prepared to lose and to bounce back from it, because they will
When people give out participation trophies it takes away from the accomplishments of the winners. “When awards are handed out like candy to every child who participates, they diminish in value” (Betty Berden). If everyone is getting a trophy then it makes winning and trying your best not mean a lot. It can make the people that won not try as hard next season because they know that they will get a trophy any way. There is also a lot of harm done to kid’s mindsets when coaches or recreational officials give out
according to “Losing Is Good for You” by Ashley Merryman. Instead of encouraging kids by just participating, actually push them to do better and their reward will be getting better at the task. Merryman also states, “Once they master a skill, they won’t need manufactured praise to tell them they’ve done well.” They won’t even need a trophy to know they have done good and gotten
How would you feel if you saw someone get the same trophy as you, for simply showing up, while you tried your hardest? According to the "Trophies for All" policy, youth athletes are being awarded with participation trophies. It's time youth athletes realize, not everyone is a winner. The more trophies we give out, the less each one means. Furthermore, the premise behind these awards is a false one.
The trophies support extremely bad habits and stall the proper maturity and growth of entire generations that receive them. Cedric Moxey’s debate over the use of trophies reveals that football league officials in Keller, Texas actually felt that participation trophies “... send the wrong message and create bad habits” (Moxey 1). The point that is supposed to come of this is that in the “real world,” where competition decides and defines survival, just participating is not enough to be able to support a family or a lifestyle. The solution to this lies within the youth sports and competitions. Frank Fitzpatrick says that it is important that kids and young competitors accept a loss and see room to grow from it. By opening a young kid up to the feelings of both a win and a loss, they learn how to handle the feelings and how to build on any negative attitudes or outcomes. Life skills such as these are crucial to a child who wants to be able to live on their own in the future. Participation trophies make this sort of growth impossible for the current generations (Stein 1). Ashley Merryman, an author and journalist, said “... when children make mistakes, our job should not be to spin those losses into decorated victories” (qtd. in Fitzpatrick 1). Participation trophies do exactly this. They make a kid who did not win (and needs to accept that) feel as if everything did, in fact, go their way when it did