In this world, everyone wants something. For me, I love getting praise. I never felt like I needed it, but it was definitely something that I wanted. Something that I’d seek out. I began to realize that compliments and flattery were what could turn a good day, into a great day. But through a series of unfortunate events I learned an extremely valuable lesson regarding how far I would go to receive said praise. I learned that vanity and self-absorption can blind one to the true weight of one’s actions, make one oblivious to how his or her actions affect others, and cause one to go against their better judgement and put one’s self into an unfavourable situation. Now, just to be clear, I didn’t really do anything wrong...but at the same time, …show more content…
Against my normally non-adventurous behaviour, I had decided to sign up for an audition for the school play. My former drama teacher had asked me to do this multiple times beforehand, but I usually couldn’t be bothered. I can’t really remember what made this time so different...maybe it was because I was trying to take the role from a classmate, maybe it was because I wanted to make out with a grade 12 girl, but regardless, I tried out. But none of those reasons mattered because I didn’t get the part. That’s right, but don’t worry, because I still got a part. This part was actually bigger, and it put me as a lead as opposed to just being a main character. I was playing a grumpy stage manager trying to salvage a play gone wrong, in a play called Anne-Arky. I had a lot of lines I needed to memorize, but I think I did a good job. Anyway, all in all, even though my performance wasn’t flawless, I think I did quite well all things …show more content…
She kept telling me about how excited she was to see me, and I told her the same. It was on the first day that we found out we had drama together. When she saw me in the class she practically screamed she was so happy. She put me on the spot in front of her two friends, also grade twelve girls, and the rest of the drama class by saying how excited she was that I was in drama with her, and I loved it. I loved that feeling. The feeling of being pointed out from a group and made to feel special. That feeling was truly addicting. Anyway, we began talking more and more, our conversations steering more and more towards actually confronting the way we felt, but never quite reaching. She even began sitting with me when she got to school in the mornings, before school starts. That might sound a bit lame, so let me clarify. SHE SAT BESIDE ME IN THE MORNINGS IN FRONT OF MY WHOLE CLASS. A problem had emerged from this though. I didn’t realize it at the time, but these actions were making my best friend, Scott, very jealous. He didn’t show it, but he secretly envied my ability to talk to older girls and the relationships I had with them, and there I was flaunting Jenn in his face...in everyone’s face. Like she was a trophy. I had completely objectified her, and I didn’t ever realize it. The part about Scott may not seem relevant, but trust me, it’ll become important later
Psychologist, Carol S. Dweck in her well researched essay, “Brainology” analyzes how praise impacts mindset and how a growth mindset leads to greater success. She supports this claim by comparing the two different mindsets and how praise can affect them. She then proceeds to show praise leads to a fixed mindset harming a person by changing their views on effort. Finally, she argues that praise changes how and what people value, which can
In the article, Caution–Praise Can Be Dangerous, Dweck’s objective was to explain that praising students has a huge impact on performance and their way of thinking. Dweck studied fifth grade students and the effects of different messages said to them after a task. There were three responses: praise for intelligence, praise for effort, and praised for performance (with no explanation on why the students were successful). She described that having an understanding of how praising works could lead teachers to set their students on the right path. In Carol’s opinion the Self Esteem Movement did not produce beneficial results, but rather limited students’ achievement.
One of my teacher said he believes one of principalities, “It is better to be stingy than generous. It is better to be cruel than merciful,” from The Prince. People get mad someone to make one mistake even when the person has done nine good things for them. People are happier when someone who is usually mean and cruel does act nicely for once. I assume this works for many people, but not for me. I get a stimulant when someone praises me. Their kudos embolden me to work harder. I am persistently trying to become a person who can feel proud of
I was proud of your active participation in the various dramatic play experiences that you have been involved in lately. Throughout these experiences you listened and responded to your friends’ dialogues and cues, this enabled you to be fully involved in the play. Look at these pictures I captured of you playing with your friends on many different occasions. You look to be
I became interested in becoming a actor. My 8th grade year I joined the drama club with my friend Craig. We auditioned for a play called Isolation. The director stated he was only going to choose 11 good actors because the play is going to be used for the UIL competition. A week later the drama club director posted who all made cuts. I was in such disbelief when I found out that I made the cut to become one of the main characters in the play. I played a character name Tad in the play. The play was about four friends who broke into a school gym in became locked inside of it. While in the gym the one of the characters killed two of his friends and himself. It was an excellent play. I stayed after school daily to ensure I knew my lines out of the script. I would even go home and have my mom to go over the script with me. I felt well prepared about the play. Two days before we performed the play at UIL, we performed it for the school. I was nervous to see so many people in the audience but that didn't stop me from performing well. After the play there were many of my friends and teachers approaching me telling how good I
Don’t let your nerves get to you. It was a Friday afternoon in the hot, muggy, and humid auditorium. It was the opening of our new musical, Little Shop of Horrors. All I could see when I looked through the blue curtains of the stage were all the people talking and carrying on about their children. Of course people are going to brag about their kids, it’s acting. Some kids are good, some, not so much. I’m freaking out because this is the first time I’ve been on stage to act in a musical since I was in elementary. I was all nerved up and persistently telling myself, what are these people going to do if I mess up? What if I look funny? I was getting overwhelmed and agitated.
“A good act does not wash out the bad, nor a bad act the good. Each should have its own reward.” – George R.R. Martin, A Clash of Kings
This happened during one of the many late night conversations on video groups chats with my friends. Josh, Ben, Olivia, and I stayed up until 2 a.m. one night talking about anything under the sun. We talked about things from drama at school to our likes and dislikes and anything in between. That night, we forgot our worries for 5 hours and instead learned about each other and grew closer than ever before. It wasn’t a loud or
If this changed the way others felt about me, then so be it, because I deserved to feel golden all the time. Since then, I have seen myself in a more confident light. I have learned how to trust my instincts and to always do what is right for me, even if it is not what I am being told is
Anywhere she went I was always wrapped around her legs. We always have the best conversations when we were by ourselves shopping. I started asking her if it would be okay if I would stop and look at the electronic by
Doing that will help you understand that what you do to other people, you also do to yourself. In the book Hunger Games, the two tributes from District 12 that have to survive the Hunger Games are Katniss and Peeta. Peeta pretends to be friends with Katniss, but during the Games, turns against her and joins the Careers, the gang of tributes no one likes who have trained their whole life for the Games. Just when Katniss starts really believing Peeta is a traitor, he saves her and shows that he has not changed totally, “‘What are you still doing here?’ he hisses at me.
Oprah Winfrey once said “The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate”. Over generations the amount of praise we give children has gone up and that is not a good thing. When praise increases, kids start believing more actions are admired. Although people think praise is a good way to motivate kids, praise causes children to be less resilient and narcissistic.
Mathilde’s ten years after having paid off the debt were not spent so well and she became very pauper. Causing her much stress, depression, and life loss of her loved ones. Most hadn’t know this but her husband passed away shortly after they had fully paid back their debt. Merely three years went by before his death that they sold most of their assets leaving Mathilde and her husband having to walk to their destination.
I truly believed these stirrings inside me would only ever be for her. Or if this tenderness for her could have been a fluke thing. Until it happened again in the ninth grade, except this time feelings were reciprocated and it went somewhere. Introducing my first girlfriend Miyah Stewart. Having a girlfriend was very strange and hard at first.
My senior prom night became a comedy of errors when I was asked to represent the Drama Club. I expected it to be a night that dreams are made of; instead, I was provided with a less than perfect evening.