In “Women and Honor: Some Notes on Lying”, Adrienne Rich specifically talks about why women lie, the reason lying began, and also what happens to not only the person being lied to but also the person telling the lie. Rich uses examples to show what happens to a person when they lie, what is the cause for someone to begin lying and also compares a women’s need to lie to many different things. Adrienne Rich’s main point is that all women lie to portray an image about themselves. The author’s secondary points are that women lie to others and themselves to be convincing, but also that women have been required to lie. Adrienne Rich first states that the notes are “concerned with relationships between and among women.” in order to show that women …show more content…
“The woman who tells lies in her personal relationship may or may not plan or invent her lying.”(413) This statement is implying that the person lying doesn’t even think about when they are lying that the lie just comes out of their mouth before it is even comprehended in their mind.Rich says that when people lie that they suffer from amnesia and describes amnesia as “the silence of the unconscious.”(413) implying that when someone lies that they don't really think that their mind just goes blank when a lie is being told. Rich expands on this idea by saying when a person lies they “lose contact with the unconscious” (414) Adrienne clearly states that when someone lies all the time that they really don’t know the difference. Rich says that it is like “taking sleeping pills” (414) this analogy is used to show a comparison to how lying avoids the possibilities of what could happen when telling the truth, like taking sleeping pills helps people sleep but the don’t dream. When going into the state of unconscious, that the person lying, “denies the importance of an event, or a person”(414) this example is used to imply that the liar at the same time is lying to themselves about just how important something really …show more content…
Women’s honor was never concerned about her moral compass but rather what she can do to benefit a man and his image. The harmful implications that this author has is that women and honor now has changed to lying about their life and changing their looks to persuade people into thinking that they have their life in order and also how they make the man in their life look based on how she handles things and the way she presents herself. Most people who read these notes will not realize that it actually has gotten worse for women there are going to be many people that continue to lie to themselves as Rich said that their not actually lying because they don’t think about when they lie they consider it a normal occurrence and they do not see what could happen if they actually told the
In their essays both Buckley and Ericsson analyze the different ways we use lies to help and hurt our self in our every day lives, and how this effects American culture. Ericsson shows the way lies can , as she puts it, “ lubricate the daily machinery of living”(128). Buckley, on the other hand uses examples of lies as a way to deny himself; and do exactly the opposite of Ericsson. But they both show how we as Americans use lies these ways and others so much that most of us may not realize it.
Anna Julia Cooper’s, Womanhood a Vital Element in the Regeneration and Progress, an excerpt from A Voice from the South, discusses the state of race and gender in America with an emphasis on African American women of the south. She contributes a number of things to the destitute state African American woman became accustom to and believe education and elevation of the black woman would change not only the state of the African American community but the nation as well. Cooper’s analysis is based around three concepts, the merging of the Barbaric with Christianity, the Feudal system, and the regeneration of the black woman.
Honor can be defined by how one holds them in the public eye. Others may say that honor is how you live your life when none can see your actions. However defined honor can play major roles in how a person will act in a given situation. The Crucible by Arthur Miller has excellent examples of how honor can manipulate people’s decisions in times of importance. John proctor holds his moral standpoint and does not falter into the temptations of selfishness, while Elizabeth would describe honor as how a person lives their lives. Some can even describe honor as what is most important in life; family. Giles believed that his life was the ultimate object he could sacrifice to maintain his family’s happiness. However honor can be defined, one thing is certain; Everyone has some degree of honor in their lives.
The novel is set in a cultural background wherein women had every reasonable freedom to talk about their marriage and children, but could not carry on what they found it to be good and reasonable because they were restraint by social constructs. Women were bound to their husbands and children and religiously they were conditioned to lots of dos and don'ts. However, a critical look reveals that women were construed to be mere objects of amusement, possessions cared for and displayed. They were expected to be subordinated to their husbands and children (Wyatt, 1995).
Another issue that the writer seemed to have swept below the carpet is the morality of women. First, women seemed to have been despised until they started excelling in mass advertising. Also, the author seems to peg the success of the modern woman to clothing and design. This means that women and cloths are but the same thing. In fact, it seems that a woman’s sex appeal determine her future endeavours, according to the author. It is through this that I believe that the author would have used other good virtues of women to explain
Further , it was also due to a small truth that would cover a big lie. An instance, is that a woman could say that a muffin looks pretty. These lies women tell could be risky ´, but they are used in order to not hurt the person who is receiving the lie. This was also noticed in Meyer's ted talk when she mentioned when there were two patterns of deceptions. The first one was an interview that was conducted with Bill clinton . The tell tales of his interview showed that he used a non contacted denial and a distanced language. The second deception is that liars are known to freeze their upper
When initially asked about the morality of lying, it is easy for one to condemn it for being wrong or even corrupt. However, those asked are generally guilty of the crime on a daily basis. Lying is, unfortunately, a normal aspect of everyday life. In the essay “The Ways We Lie,” author Stephanie Ericsson makes note of the most common types of lies along with their consequences. By ordering the categories from least to most severe, she expresses the idea that lies enshroud our daily lives to the extent that we can no longer between fact and fiction. To fully bring this argument into perspective, Ericsson utilizes metaphor, rhetorical questions, and allusion.
As insinuated through her poem’s title, “A Double Standard,” Frances Harper examines a double standard imposed by societal norms during the 19th and 20th centuries, as well as the different effects this standard foisted upon those of different genders. Harper’s poem is narrated by a woman who has been derided by society for her involvement in a sexual scandal, all while her male counterpart experiences no repercussions. By describing how her situation involving the scandal advances, delineating the backlash she receives for her participation, and reflecting on the ludicrously hypocritical nature of the situation, the speaker discloses the lack of control women had over their lives, and allows for the reader to ponder the inequity of female oppression at the turn of the 19th century.
Richard Gunderman asks the question, "Isn 't there something inherently wrong with lying, and “in his article” Is Lying Bad for Us?" Similarly, Stephanie Ericsson states, "Sure I lie, but it doesn 't hurt anything. Or does it?" in her essay, "The Ways We Lie.” Both Gunderman and Ericsson hold strong opinions in regards to lying and they appeal to their audience by incorporating personal experiences as well as references to answer the questions that so many long to confirm.
Men would strut their honour by doing dangerous and possible life threatening activities. This goes all the way back to Ancient Rome times when there was gladiators. Gladiators were armed combatant men who entertained the Roman audiences in violent confrontations with other gladiators, wild animals, and condemned criminals. This was a cruel victory, but they were treated like heroes and considered honourable for their bravery. The women weren’t allowed to be part of those events, but honour still pops up throughout ancient times and literature like “the epic poems of Homer are primarily about honor and man’s quest to achieve and maintain it” (The Art of Manliness). Old stories would describe men being honourable, never hear anything about a woman.
In “The Ways We Lie,” by Stephanie Ericsson, she defines various types of lying and uses quotations at the beginning of each description as a rhetorical strategy. Throughout the reading she uses similar references or discussion points at the beginning and ending of each paragraph. Most believe lying is wrong, however, I believe lying is acceptable in some situations and not others when Stephanie Ericsson is asked, “how was your day.” In “The Ways We Lie,” she lies to protect her husband’s feelings, therefore, I think people lie because they are afraid of the consequences that come with telling the truth.
Telling the truth can have some consequences, but a lie can cause more damage in a relationship once it has been figured out. People believe that by just lying, a problem is solved, but problems start when lies are told. Lying destroys relationships and truth builds honest relationships which, can last forever. In both F. Scott Fitzgerald’s The Great Gatsby and Rob Marshall’s Chicago, characters lie because they feel that it is easier. However, lying leads to a downward- spiral. The society we live in can either lead us to a complicated relationship with the truth or easygoing. The problem with constantly telling lies is that it starts off with one, then leads to another until everything you say is a lie. Being truthful
Objectivity towards women has always been rooted to sexuality. Men and women are distinctly different in many aspects not just sexually, however knowing this has placed objectivity on both sexes more specifically women. The knowledge of differences can be transferred into further opinions and judgments which can lead to discrimination, sexual bias, and inequality against women.
As we all know, women and men are different in their own distinctive ways. But together they make for a great partnership in the work field. Equality among men and women for the rights to coexist has moved our country in a new direction for women within the last century. The feminist movement was widely needed between 1848 and the 1920’s because women lacked the right to vote, among other things. Since women have been able to get to where they have been going within the movement, success for them has been greater than ever in modern times. But, there is always room for improvement in other aspects of equality. While we may never achieve perfect gender equality, there is still some injustices should not be overlooked. Women may be able to be
the culture of patriarchal and gender equality stereotypes. Often the freedom of women was seen as freedom from marital bonds. It can be noted that already in the second half of the 19th century, the idea of the liberation of women by labour was generally supported by society. But there was a problem - women did not have sufficient skills for work. Thus, an urgent need was created for women to receive a special education. The women’s movement for emancipation in the nineteenth century was dedicated to the fight for higher education.