The Importance Of Being Judged By Women

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As I watch another fat, ugly guy walk by with a beautiful woman, I can't help but think about the fact that women are constantly judged by their appearance and - even though men seem to think they are judged all the time by appearance - they have MUCH more wiggle room in the appearance department.

I know that to be true. You know that to be true. You only have to look out your window and see how many conventionally unattractive guys get conventionally attract women.

Women are judged so much on their appearance that most of them develop horrible body image issues that stick with them for life. For instance, they think they are fat, even when they are not, and then they spend all their time dieting, working out, and obsessing …show more content…

The first impression you make, as well as the second, third, and even fourth impression, can have a lot of weight on whether or not a woman will want you.

Think Of It Like An Attraction Point System

Women will judge on your car, clothes, haircut, body art, wallet, the way you talk, and even how you carry yourself. All of these things equate to one point up or one point down in her attraction scale, and if you get enough points down - she IS going to drive away.

For instance, I once met a guy who was dressed like a complete nerd, had a horrible haircut, and wore some pretty crazy jewelry. Instantly he had more points off than points added to my attraction scale, and I moved on to find another guy that I was actually attracted to. Funny thing was, the next time I saw him he was dressed well, had a sexy haircut, and lost the ridiculous jewelry. He earned back the points he lost and even gained some points because I took a deeper look into who he was.

In other words, you can lose points in attraction, but with some small changes you can gain them back (and then some).

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