Although I don't want certain moments in my life to define my life and who I am, I have no control over that happening. Most of these moments were like a shot in my heart, but the others helped heal those wounds. I abhor having pity on myself, but there comes a time when I need to look back and remember each and every event that has impacted my life. I am not ashamed or mad about anything that has happened in my life. These events are what have structured the wonderful personality and life that I have today. Even the worst times in my life have changed things for the better. My mother and father split up when I was very young. I don't even have a memory of what happened or when I noticed we were no longer together. This made my life different from others. I had to adapt to being away from my father and being away from my mother because she had to work. I had to mature at a young age because of the lack of children in my household. My mother and I are a team and I had to learn how to be independent and help her out by understanding she is always doing her best. This made me realize that our imperfect household and lifestyle was just a speed bump in to road leading us to an amazing destination. …show more content…
Many times, I have felt sorry for myself because my family was not like the rest. I wanted to be the family with a happy mother and father. I wanted to be the daughter that had help from her parents on math problems or sat at a table every night for a family meal. After time went on, I knew that this was no setback. I was not the only one going through a situation like this. There was no way I would let this hamper with my future any longer. Through my independence, excellent grades, and hard work in dance, I received remuneration in the form of self-satisfactory for everything I could accomplish on my
When I was younger, I remember feeling as though I lived in a bubble; my life was perfect. I had an extremely caring and compassionate mother, two older siblings to look out for me, a loving grandmother who would bake never ending sweets and more toys than any child could ever realistically play with. But as I grew up my world started to change. My sister developed asthma, my mother became sick with cancer and at the age of five, my disabled brother developed ear tumors and became deaf. As more and more problems were piled upon my single mother’s plate, I, the sweet, quiet, perfectly healthy child, was placed on the back burner. It was not as though my family did not love me; it was just that I was simply, not a priority.
Feeling responsible for situations out of my control was difficult. My grades were awful, it was impossible to focus on anything. I could hardly sleep at night with the amounts of stress I was under. Knowing that my father was an alcoholic with bi-polar disorder opened me up to a new world. I was exposed to so much more than the average kid, especially when he would bring me to the Alcoholic Anonyms meetings. I met so many interesting people threw my father. My entire view of the world and its inhabitants has been altered. Growing up was very difficult but the experiences that I had has shaped the person I am today.
One of my favorit quotes by Desmond Tutu is, "You don't choose your family. They are God's gift to you, as you are to them." With that being said, one of the hardest situations in my life was finding out I was no longer the only child. As an eight year old girl who is happy the onl child the last thing yo want you parents to tell you is that you are getting a sister for Christmas. I remember gooing through the five stages of grief. DENIAL,ANGER,BARGAINING, DEPRESSION, and finally ACCEPTANCE wich was the hardest one for me.
The main event that has changed me and shaped me into the person I am today is my 3 older sisters who struggle with drug addiction; things got so bad with my oldest sister this summer that she lost custody of her kids and now my parents have all 3 of them. Last year my whole life basically got turned up side down... and things really took a turn for the worst this summer. Both my parents are fishermen so when they left this summer they took my 2 nephews and left me, a 16 year old, alone in town with no money, no car, and my 1 year old nephew that they couldn't take with them- which was completely out of their control and there was nothing else they could do, so I definitely don't blame them; but it was a serious life changing event. It was one of the worst summers I've ever had, but I feel like it was a good life lesson; I feel like I really grew up because of it. I lost my oldest sister, not literally, but she's not the same person anymore.
For example, when my mother and my father were separated, this influence their behavior towards each other as well as my own behavior towards both parents. Despite the fact that I was still very young, I knew what was happening and this event certainly affected my life.
I matured much faster than the people around me. When I was younger it was hard for me to understand why other kids didn’t understand what I was thinking and feeling. This made it difficult for me to make friends, and when I did they tried to change me. They would try to change me by telling me what I can and cannot do, if I didn’t conform to their ways they would ignore and exclude me.
Those challenges during my childhood is what shaped the person I am today. I have learned to live with them and accept them. I could not let that get to me, so I have moved on. Always doing my best in school, trying to keep a smile on my mother's face. My siblings and I were always helping around the house, because we were independent then.
For me, driving a car, going to Europe, graduating, and having a job have all contributed to my maturity. I have to make life and death choices every day while driving, and my choices affect other’s lives- and that bring a lot of maturity. I went to Europe basically by myself, with no parent there to hold my hand. I had to make good choices, be safe and be mature while I was half way across the world from my parents. I am graduating this year as well. After this summer I am going to college, being a real “adult” and I will be able to make my own choices. Maturity will help me keep my head on straight while I am being my own boss. For the past two years I have held the same job. This job has taught me responsibility, how to deal with money and people and basic life skills. If I were not mature I would not be able to hold a job for that long.
When I was 11 I watched my mother abruptly become a single parent responsible for four daughters, two of which were still in diapers. I became the full time babysitter and raised my two younger sisters for years, despite being a child myself, while my mom worked several jobs at a time.
For me, a life changing experience has been becoming a babysitter. While being a babysitter I’ve learned self-control, the impact each of has on others’ lives, and what it means to grow up. Before getting my first babysitting gig, I thought almost nothing of what my mom meant when she said, “Patience is a virtue,” And while yes I am by no means a mother, but dealing with other kids has taught me a lot about what being a mom, or just growing up really means. I know now it means self-control, which has always been a struggle of mine. Often times, I found myself getting angry at literally anyone I could get my hands on, sometimes even myself.
I had to stop being the selfish teenager that I was and become a selfless mother to this child who completely relied on me. Having my son at such a young age taught me the power of change. I became a selfless young woman, as opposed to the selfish teenage girl that I was not long
Things became slightly more difficult, school was harder to focus on, I couldn’t go out as much, and had to take on more responsibilities. No matter what happened however, I took it on. I persevered for my mother and for myself. I became stronger, wiser, and more mature. This event was a major point in my growth, it changed who I was completely.
I had to mature quickly and learn how to take care of someone else besides myself. I am now a mother to four children. They have taught me how to have patience. This has become something I value very much. I have learned that in life you must wait for things. I now know that there was a reason why I had my son so early and wasn’t able to go to college upon graduating high school. I am so thankful that I had patience and waited for the right time to enter. It has been 14 years since I graduated high school, and I’m attending college and know exactly what I want to become. I had patience and took care of my babies at home before I decided to go to school. It hasn’t always been easy, but I’m so glad I
Many changes for the good and some were bad but, there were some learning experiences that help make me a better person. The events in my life, was dealing with the Birth and The Death of my first daughter.
But through it all, I am glad i developed through life the way I am, getting my first real job really help me but my best foot forward into the working world of being in adult. I learned a lot of new things, especially the darker and brighter parts of it all. It really helped push me to do other things that I was afraid to do, like getting my license and my car. I thank my father and my mother for being an influence even if it was negative a lot more than I would have liked. All of these events changed me and made me the man i am today, and I would never go back and change any of