Love of a Spouse
As a child we never think we will ever enjoy the company of the opposite sex, but as we grow older and wiser we finally see the need for each other. throughout my life I have had girlfriends come and go without recorse or significant feelings toward them; granted, I was very fond of them and did not want them to leave me, but they never filled the void that was missing in my heart. As I recollect on what love means to me and what love should be i think of 5 basic characteristics that make the love of a spouse sincere and without flaw. the characteristics i believe to be important are trust, personal value, value for others, mutual respect, and equal use of mind and heart. these 5 characteristics have got me were I am today and after 4 years I still feel the same way I did the first day we met and more.
the first characteristic that i will talk about is trust. To some people this is a basic virtue of all relationships and stems from generation to generation of good advice brought by our parents. Trust is important in relationships not only for the obvious reason that without it a person is miserable, but it also enhances the things in life that are waiting to happen. The biggest problem with jealousy and mistrust is that it blocks your vision of what things can be and what future you want. If only people new the truth about there partner everything would be alright, but in reallity this will never be the case we will always be searching for answers that are hard to find and the only way to find these answeers will be by asking our partners what they are feeling and how this is affecting them. People do not seem to understand what the other person in a relationship is thinking and before aking t...
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...at this hapens because those two weeks enclose some of the best times a person has ever had. In love a person has to have value for others fealings, opinions, and ideas or the relationship will not work out. As I talk about my wife and the love we have for eachother I find myself being reminded of the respect I have for her and the way we both value eachothers presence. Without our love for eachother we know we woulld be miserable and without a piece of our hearts.
My fourth characteristic is mutual respect. mutual respect is something that happens when true love is attained. Mutual respect is vital in love because without it a person feels as if they are unapreciated and unwanted. I do not believe that attaining mutual respect is hard for a lot of couples, but I do believe it is hard to let your partner know how much you respect their opinions and ideas.
respect for each partner. My idea of love is one that combines aspects from each
There is no real love without intrinsic characteristics because the two traits are mutually exclusive. However, if one does not love based on characteristics, then the person receiving love receives on empty grounds. Concerning Nozick definition, true romantic love includes loving someone simply for his or her being or for his or her existence. However, I see no reason why a relationship would continue based on loving your partner personality. Nozick notes that when you love based on character, the partner might change his or her character while in the relationship or marriage and the relationship might break or
“In any relationship, there will be frightening spells in which your feelings of love dry up. And when that happens you must remember that the essence of marriage is that it is a covenant, a commitment, a promise of future love. So what do you do? You do the acts of love, despite your lack of feeling. You may not feel tender, sympathetic, and eager to please, but in your actions you must BE tender, understanding, forgiving and helpful. And, if you do that, as time goes on you will not only get through the dry spells, but they will become less frequent and deep, and you will become more constant in your feelings. This is what can happen if you decide to love.”
When most people think of love, they imagine a beautiful concept, one of which is and should be a part of life. Some will imagine the unconditional love of God, others will picture a spouse or family members, and some may even think about materialistic things. While there are many ways in which love can be defined as, it usually has positive connotations. This is not necessarily the case in Lewis’ novel Till We Have Faces, at least through the character Orual. Love is a major theme in the novel and is portrayed in both a humanly and a divine way. The humanly love which Lewis displays is mainly shown through Orual and is demonstrated as a perverse love. The divine love is presented through Psyche and is portrayed as selfless. In Till We Have Faces, C.S. Lewis differentiates perverse love and selfless
The first trait, extraversion, is a positive emotionality. It is associated with enthusiasm, assertiveness and sociability. Neuroticism is a negative emotionality. It is often labeled together with anxiety and negative emotional pain. The third trait, agreeableness is what defines characteristics such as compassion (or lack of), politeness, and traits surrounding people caring about others before caring about themselves. People who fall more towards agreeableness are more cooperative whereas those who are on the opposite spectrum are more competitive by nature. Conscientiousness is all about order and industriousness. Someone who falls towards being more conscientious are orderly and well-kept. Whereas those who are lower on the scale for conscientiousness are less orderly, more freely built, and not as organized. The last trait on the Big 5 Personality Model is openness to experience. This is often known as intellect, and can also represent creativeness, belief in the world, and can be closely related to how oneself views the world and
For many years, love has been argued as to whether it is a feeling or a choice. We experience love in all shapes in forms through family, friends, or significant others. But what is the true, desirable definition of love? You would be surprised with how much this four letter word means to the world and how much it could affect your life. I believe love is something unique and special that most people cannot live without. If you feel as if these characteristics don't exist in your life, then what will you have in the end? (Odo 66) But then again love isn't just about the “magic” you have for someone, but about how to make it work and to keep that meaning alive, and about learning to love yourself before you love others.
What Christian characteristics should a spouse possess to maintain this loving, lifelong relationship known as marriage? The three most important attributes that a spouse must have are trust, kindness, and forgiveness. If a married couple plans to live life together and work with each other, trust is essential. For instance, a husband must trust that his wife will not commit adultery, and vice versa.
A few characteristics that I find admiring about myself and individuals that I associate myself with is being active because time never waits for no one, second aspiring other to do better, third being confident in yourself because an individual that think positive have a positive outlook and last is disciplined because sometime you have to be humble and work for that moment that will change your life forever. The undesirable characteristics that stop me from talking to individuals are belligerent, big headed, aggressive, impatient, nasty, and patronizing. I knew so many people like this but I had to cut them off because I knew individual with these characteristics do not amount to nothing in life. For example, a few of my high school classmates with these futures are in jell or dead. This made me apprehend that I only have one chance to make everyone I care about contented. The only way to do that is to make more money because like I said at the beginning my family and I was not the richest people on the block. Richness is at the top of my value list, people may say money is not everything and that is true but it will help cause less stress on my family and that is just reality. Then I would have family as my second most important and last
In my personal relationship with my wife I feel that I thought about expressing my love prior to her thinking. Ultimately I did express my love to her with the three simple words of I love you. I thought for the longest time that I was the exception to the rule as in society everyone hears about the woman that falls for the man and he just cannot see the forest for the trees. This journal showed new light into the fact that males in general may have deeper thought and understanding into the concept of love than previously thought.
The Definition of Love Love by definition is an emotion explored in philosophy, religion, and literature, often as either romantic love, the fraternal love of others, or the love of God based on the definition found in The Encarta Encyclopedia. As I explored the definitions through the Internet, books, and articles, I noticed the definitions changed quite a bit, but yet had the same basic understanding. The definition I found in The Encarta Encyclopedia is probably the most simple and most basic. It refers to love in the whole aspect, which is Godly, fraternal, and romantic. All of which can only be defined by one word and that is love.
There is nothing better than having good characteristics. Everyone has different kinds of characteristics. Understanding our characteristics is extremely useful. It helps us to avoid the bad ones and to develop the good ones. We can take active steps to become the person we want to be, and we can make positive changes in our characteristics. Most of characteristics can be learned with practice. Because nobody likes to be around a person who has bad characteristics, it can affect our daily life and friendships. Likewise, lack of good characteristics such as self-confidence can hinder us from achieving our goals. To become effective in our life, we need to develop some good personal characteristics. I know some
Love is the ubiquitous force that drives all people in life. If people did not want, give, or receive love, they would never experience life because it is the force that completes a person. People rely on this seemingly absent force although it is ever-present. Elizabeth Barrett Browning is an influential poet who describes the necessity of love in her poems from her book Sonnets from the Portuguese. She writes about love based on her relationship with her husband. Her life is dependent on him, and she expresses this same reliance of love in her poetry. She uses literary devices to strengthen her argument for the necessity of love. The necessity of love is a major theme in Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s “Sonnet 14,” “Sonnet 43,” and “Sonnet 29.”
Characteristics a feature or quality belonging to a person, place or thing and serving to identify it. There are many personal characteristics that can define a person as an individual; some characteristics determined if a person is nice, disrespectful, intelligent, or not intelligent but it determines how a person interprets you. I believe that every individual has integrity as one of their characteristics, but my top three characteristics are Integrity, Compassion, and hard-working and for the person who carried me throughout my whole life “my brother” his characteristics would be his responsibility.
For a healthy relationship, one needs to be able to function without total dependence on their mate. There are three main aspects of love. According to the triangular theory of love, these three components include intimacy, passion, and decision/commitment. Intimacy is the feeling of being connected and close to another person. It is getting to know the person beyond the friendship level and understanding them on a romantic level.
All of the above points apply to all relationships be it social, romantic or even family relationships.