Let Go

The amount of difficulty found in a given situation pertains directly to the amount of strength, both physical and mental, a person obtains. What is effortless for one may be excruciatingly challenging for another. Personally, learning to let people go when they no longer belong in my life is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Through situations I’ve been through, help I’ve received when discovering how to let someone go, and learning how to deal with this situation, I believe I’ve become a better person.

Most children go through life with at least one parent. If they’re lucky, they have both. It seems that in our modern day society, divorce has become a more viable option and families have been split. I was in the middle of these circumstances when I was just seven years old. When my parents decided to get a divorce, I was left with my mom. My father moved to Norwalk, Iowa, which was about an hour and forty-five minutes from me. I visited him very rarely, and I came to the belief that he didn’t want anything to do with me. While now I know this isn’t true, as a child I couldn’t fully understand that my father couldn’t control how often he saw me because of his work schedule. While living with my mom, I was deprived of the attention that a seven-year-old needs. She made questionable life choices that have left us with an estranged relationship. We lived with my grandparents at the time, so I became close with my grandmother. She quickly became the motherly figure in my life. When we moved out of my grandparents’ house, I still spent every weekend with her. Then when I was twelve years old, something tragic and unexpected happened. My grandmother suffered an aneurism of the brain and died. I had no time to say goodbye, and we had n...

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...h person to learn to let my grandmother go, not from my memory but from my mindset. I’ve realized that it’s unhealthy for me to constantly wallow in self-pity. I’ve learned to cherish the time I had with her and to let go of the fact that she’s not coming back. Although I still remember her, I also remember what’s best for me. It may be the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but I’ve finally been able to let her go.

The amount of strength I attain is completely different from another person. The situations I’ve been placed in throughout my life have shaped me into the person I am today. While it took me years to move on from the fact that my grandmother is no longer with me, I believe that I learned the most about myself during that time. It took a lot of time and effort, but I know that it was all worth it. I feel as if I’m finally getting that sparkle back in my eye.