This paper is a brief summery for “Geographies of Marriage and Migration” by Raksha Pande and my response to the article. The article discusses the controversy of arranged marriages, why this culture favors them, the different ways of looking at them other than through a strictly Western view, and expresses the need for new research in this field. It focuses on South Asians in Britain, which include people of Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi origin, East African Sikhs, and Gujaratis, some who migrated there and some who were Britain born. It debates the ways of looking at the arrangement of marriages depending on the viewpoint/generation but also provides other ways of looking at the positives of this structure of marriage. Pande also talks about the reasons why people tend to look down upon those who see to this type of marriage, and transnational arrangements of marriage. She discusses the myths/differences behind arranged …show more content…
For example, the links between migration and marriage that cause suspicion from immigration officials when a spouse is trying to move to Britain. To obtain a spousal visa one must complete a list of questions in determining if the marriage is real and genuine based on Western aspects of what a real marriage is. Pande states, “…government and policymakers see arranged marriage practices as posing a challenge to the very values on which the discourses of national identities in Europe are based” (p. 81). Which also includes Western-like ideals. The article states view points from feminists and postcolonial feminism, but I’ll talk about that later in my response. In her conclusion she believes that new research should be discovered on arranged marriage so that “…we can begin to understand how its various forms are employed by its practitioners to interpret and tailor-make this apparently traditional practice to suit their modern individual and collective identity positions” (p.
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” was said by Mignon McLaughlin. Marriage is made up of components that not everyone can see or understand. Marriage for women between the 19th and 20th centuries has changed in certain aspects, but mostly stayed stagnant. The background of these marriages is supported by public literary works, laws enacted against women, and the overall treatment of women in marriages through the two centuries.
Monogamy is a cultural norm that dominates many modern societies, and when individuals engage in monogamous relationships, they are unconsciously conforming to historical and cultural legacies of what is perceived as love that predate their illusions of personal agency. Although anthropological records indicate that 85% of human societies have tended towards polygamy (Henrich, Boyd and Richerson 2012), the modern culture of monogamy has rapidly risen and spread in the past millennium (Senthilingam 2016). This demonstrates how an individual’s conception of a heterosexual relationship as normatively monogamous has been constructed by social forces. In addition, social forces in the form of state legislation also perpetuate and reinforce an individual’s conception of what a romantic relationship should entail. Monogamous heterosexual marriage remains to be the only form of marriage with legal recognition in many countries. An individual’s belief that a romantic relationship should culminate in marriage is hence not formed through independent thought, but rather through what is considered normative by law. Essentially, “marriage is not an instinct but an institution.” (Berger 1963, 88) because it is enabled and promoted by virtue of the law. In addition, many couples believe in
Feminism is motivated by the need to establish equality between the genders since most feminists attribute women’s problems to inequality between the two genders. Therefore, by way of a collection of political movements and social theories, feminists seek to curb this inequality between men and women. It is important to note that the equality sought after by feminists is not just economic and political, but also social equality. According to Heather Gilmour, The institution of marriage during the pre-modern era or the Victorian era was based on inequality as the roles to be fulfilled by both genders for the success of the marriage were essentially different (Heather 26). As the roles kept changing over time due to different circumstances, so did the expectations of marriage and along with that, the rise of feminist movement. Screwball comedies such as It...
Arranged Marriages have been around since time can remember. An arranged marriage is a marital union between a man and a woman who were selected to be wedded together by a third party. Historically, arrange marriages were the main way to marry. In certain parts of the world, it is still the primary approach. There are two types of arrange marriages. The first is a traditional marriage where the children can, with strong objections, refuse to marry their soon to be spouse. In a forced marriage, the children have no say in the matter. Bread Givers shows an excellent representation of the pressures on children from their parents to be married against their will.
In a scene the film Ravi goes to a wedding in India where a family member is being wedded. Ravi asked if he was happily marrying his wife, in love, and not having second doubts, all his family member expressed was no remorse, but it seemed as if it was something casual for him, it was necessary to marry, and that the bride he had chosen was approved from his parents, and the community of Patels. It seemed that throughout the film arrange marriage is viewed as normal in India, they don’t seem to ask their children if they’re happy about being arrangbeds into a marriage, it something that when you come of age you have to do. However in Indians living in America are challenging their parents and their cultures religion of arranged marriage. In America they are looking at the diverse cultures and falling love with people outside their culture, and making work, while others are still in the biodata and probably decided to marry into a Patel or other Indian name, yet still experienced dating other men before deciding. What was weird is that some Indian women don’t date until later in their college years when they are away because of the strict household their parents had and from fear of disappointing their family, and being
This is, of course, very problematic and shows how legal constraints on marriage and the family can produce social standards that invade spaces where we should feel safe. Ann Stoler (2002), an expert on imperial anthropology, wrote about the literal invasion of peoples and the policing of relations between the colonizers and the colonized in Carnal Knowledge and Imperial Power. Stoler discussed marriage bans on European working men in colonies like those in Deli and Malaya. In Deli, tobacco companies would not hire married men or allow them to marry while employed (29). In Malaya, employees of British banks had to ask permission to marry–and only after at least eight years of employment (52). It was believed that marrying would be too much of a financial burden on working men–and so, could potentially pressure companies to raise wages (30). Further, poor
In the article Arranging a Marriage in India, Serena Nanda, a professor of Anthropology at John Jay College of Criminal Justice, writes about what she learned about arranged marriages in India from interviewing informants and participating in arranging a marriage herself. Nanda brought in some American biases about how marriage and love are “supposed” to work. She initially had trouble accepting why someone would want or let another arrange their marriage instead of seeking a partner themselves. Nanda’s difficulty understanding arranged marriages, is a result of having grown up in a culture that leaves such decisions to the individual. Furthermore, if the quotes given in the article are an indication, Nanda let her biases influence her conduct
Modern arranged marriages are arranged by the child's parents. They choose several possible mates for their child, sometimes with the help of the child (who may indicate which photos, biographic he or she likes). The parents then arrange a meeting with the family of the mate and they will often have short unsupervised meeting (an hour long walk around the neighborhood together for example) (Arrange Marriages). The child will then choose who they w...
Jhumpa Lahiri, the author of the story, “The Third and Final Continent,” grew up being aware of conflicting expectations from two different countries. As Jhumpa mentioned, “I was expected to be Indian by Indians and Americans by Americans (Lahiri, pg 50).” The Third and Final Continent leaves the reader with a positive notion of the immigrant experience in America. The narrator recalls his school days in London, rooming with other foreign Bengalis, and trying to settle in this new world. He talks about how when he was 36 years old when his own marriage was arranged and he first flew to Calcutta, to attend his wedding. This statement is unique because it depicts the differences between an American culture and an Indian culture. At the time of marriage he is 36 years old and he didn’t pick who he wanted to get married to. Marriage in India is something that most parents set compared to other countries where they can marry someone of choice. Indians settle down by an arranged marriage ma...
My fingers itch” (III.5.160). This is because leaving an arranged marriage is seen as an insult to the family, or perhaps because they would not be financially stable on their own. This is due to families presenting the most appealing version of themselves before the wedding, and only after their real traits come out. Overall, arranged marriages have significantly more factors in them that increase the likelihood of it not being a safe and enjoyable experience for all parties concerned.
In Human Geography: people, place and culture, Migration is defined as “A change in residence intended to be permanent (Fouberg et al, 2015, p. 127).” In my family our ancestors migrated to Canada from England, France and Scotland over a 100 years ago. The push and pull factors that influenced them to move to Canada, were to come to the new world to colonize and start a new life as farmers and bakers as they sought the agricultural opportunities. This was a form a voluntary migration as it was there choice to move. Since moving to Canada and settling along the east coast, my family hasn’t migrated as much due to the men in my family for generations having jobs in the military which kept them constrained to the east coast. There has been some
This paper explores and distinguishes different marriage practices across the globe. My goal is for the reader to be able to analyze each culture, and their customs, and be able to distinguish differences between the two. I have compiled a plethora of information from the provided resources. I met the limited requirements by using three of the sixteen provided for my use. I used the three sources to gain further knowledge about the subject at hand. Two of the three articles were used to compare different cultural marriage practices, whilst the third was used to differentiate the two, and show why I think diversity is vital in modern globalization.
The story I have chosen for my assignment is `Everything's Arranged' by Siew Yue Killingley. It is about arranged marriages practised by the Indian communities.The story is centered around Rukumani, a young maiden from the Ceylonese Tamil community whose family has settled in Malaya. Probably her father or grandfather was brought to this land by the British those days. Though Rukumani, is sent to study in the university (`MU' as stated in the story ), the thinking of her parents is just like how it was back in their motherland, Sri Lanka. The Ceylonese, however educated, still hold to their tradition, beliefs and family values so adamantly. Education failed to change their thinking. Social life is a taboo for their young sons what more for a daughter.
Each marriage comes with a different perspective and story, whether it is an arranged marriage or love marriage. Arranged and Love marriages are very similar yet different. Love is the pure feeling of attachment. Arrange marriage is like a blind date in hopes to find love. It could be love at first sight or love after a while so in somewhat way they end up being a love marriage after all because the end result is the same as they get married or find love. In this essay there will be comparison done on love marriage and arrange marriage. Each country has a different perspective on each type of marriage. I will be comparing both marriages in America and India. Love Marriages come with a responsibility of their
Almost every culture around the world have the idea of bringing together households in marriage. In the United States, this a coupling of two people who will start a life on their own. In India, a marriage is more than two people falling and love and getting married. Family, religion and casts play a role for the future bride and groom. The Indian culture’s weddings have different traditions when it comes to proposals, ring traditions and ceremonies not only for the couple but for the families as well.