A life where you don’t get to be the one to make your own mistakes is a life spent wondering how it would’ve turned out differently if you were the one in charge. Arranged marriages have innately been a part of certain cultures, but, moving forward, it is likely much healthier to leave this idea behind. Though parents might know what’s best for their children, a decision as big as a life partner should be made by the individual. If an arranged marriage isn’t adequately thought out, the relationship could become unhealthy or abusive. Planned marriages can indeed work out well, just like standard marriages, but people’s lives should be theirs to create, and this right shouldn’t be oppressed.
The idea of parents and family planning and arranging
When they select someone for you to marry or meet, and you don’t like them, it is very likely that you are not in a safe position to express your disagreement with your parents. In Romeo & Juliet, Juliet expresses how she does not wish to marry Paris, and her father replies, “Hang thee, young baggage! Disobedient wretch! I tell thee what: get thee to church o' Thursday, or never after look me in the face … My fingers itch” (III.5.160). Parents often move forward with any stage of this process without the explicit agreement of the child, as seen in Malik’s story, “my Indian parents … had set up a meeting for me … Problem was, I wasn’t consenting.” These assumptions regarding who you’ll be compatible with are made by people who don’t know you entirely (because they aren’t you), and each only multiplies the probability of you never meeting your true
The particular cultures that practice this 3rd party planning of arrangements could certainly benefit by leaving this custom behind; Tania Malik saw elements of this custom “arbitrarily consigned by our society and culture” to make little sense. People who aren’t you, don’t know what’s best for you, so having people such as your parents isn’t likely the best for such a large decision as marriage. Due to the lack of emphasis placed on love in this whole ordeal (as seen with Juliet and Paris’ proposed relationship), it is very simple for relationships done in this way to grow unhealthy. Arranged marriages have the ability to turn out amiably, but the odds are stacked against them to be less than ideal, and it’s not fair for this to be blamed on choices that you didn’t make
With the economic support, the adoption rates rising, and the equality same-sex couples deserve, gay marriage deserves to be legalized throughout the nation and the world. Rejecting the right of marriage to these couples hurts them and the way they are able to live their lives. Everyone deserves marriage and life equality despite the person they love because we have equality rights based on us as an individual, not on who we decide to love.
No one should be forced to do things that they are not comfortable with. The whole marriage thing brought a negative effect on women during the western period.
Juliet’s attitude towards marriage changes throughout Romeo and Juliet due to her defiance, Romeo’s persistence, and her newly discovered romantic personality. “It is an honor I do not dream of.” That was Juliet’s original view on love and marriage; she did not want to get married to Count Paris, even though that was what her mother wished. (1.3. 65-101)
Arranged marriages are typically not practiced in the United States, however, they are still a part of other cultures. While arranged marriages are often seen as a barbaric or outdated practice, they can still be successful. It may not seem important to study arranged marriages since they are not widely practiced in modern America or other western cultures but some benefits of arranged marriages found could be used to lessen the negative image western civilizations have about cultures that continue the practice of arranged marriages. There are definitely drawbacks in the practice of arranged marriage but there are also benefits that are often overlooked.
Arranged Marriages have been around since time can remember. An arranged marriage is a marital union between a man and a woman who were selected to be wedded together by a third party. Historically, arrange marriages were the main way to marry. In certain parts of the world, it is still the primary approach. There are two types of arrange marriages. The first is a traditional marriage where the children can, with strong objections, refuse to marry their soon to be spouse. In a forced marriage, the children have no say in the matter. Bread Givers shows an excellent representation of the pressures on children from their parents to be married against their will.
Paris is talking with Capulet, and saying that Juliet’s age should not stop her father from being married off, “Younger than she are happy mothers made” (1.2.12). Paris's argument to not wait for his and Juliet’s marriage is that there are many girls who are even younger than Juliet who are married and have already started a family. Juliet’s age puts her in a place where she is expected to contribute a child. This may be why she was in such a rush to get married to Romeo. Marriage of her choosing to Romeo prevents the marriage against her will to Paris. The influence placed on Juliet by her family is itself shaped by expectations of Juliet’s age group. When Juliet tells her father she does not wish to marry Paris, her father replies harshly commenting on her reasoning being due to her age, “A whining mammot, in her fortune’s tender/To answer I’ll not wed, I cannot love,/I am too young, I pray you pardon me” (3.5.185-187). Juliet’s father lacks empathy for Juliet’s position, and so continues to hold the high expectations that are required of her because of her age. Juliet never told her father she would not wed because of her age or her inability to love, so perhaps her father is projecting his guilt as he knows it is unreasonable to expect marriage and children from her when she is still so young and innocent. Juliet’s young age affects her maturity, which consequently influence the drastic and impulsive choices she made. When the Nurse agrees with Juliet’s parents about her marrying Paris, Juliet loses the one confidant she had. She depended heavily on the Nurse’s advice, as she herself lacked such wisdom. Her lack of maturity led her to make hasty decisions-choosing death as the easier way out, “Thou and my bosom henceforth shall be twain/I’ll too the friar, to know his remedy:/If all else fail, myself have power to die”
In a scene the film Ravi goes to a wedding in India where a family member is being wedded. Ravi asked if he was happily marrying his wife, in love, and not having second doubts, all his family member expressed was no remorse, but it seemed as if it was something casual for him, it was necessary to marry, and that the bride he had chosen was approved from his parents, and the community of Patels. It seemed that throughout the film arrange marriage is viewed as normal in India, they don’t seem to ask their children if they’re happy about being arrangbeds into a marriage, it something that when you come of age you have to do. However in Indians living in America are challenging their parents and their cultures religion of arranged marriage. In America they are looking at the diverse cultures and falling love with people outside their culture, and making work, while others are still in the biodata and probably decided to marry into a Patel or other Indian name, yet still experienced dating other men before deciding. What was weird is that some Indian women don’t date until later in their college years when they are away because of the strict household their parents had and from fear of disappointing their family, and being
In this essay I am going to examine love and marriage and the way it
to be a quite romantic person, as, to start with, he is in love with
In basic human nature, when they are forced to do something, they tend to not want to do it and often rebel against those who force it. Many laws are very simple and are almost nonexistent because of how easy it is to follow them. However, due to the fact that it is something that is trying to be pressed upon them without their approval, they rebel. Even despite the rebellion that would be caused, none of the relationships would be organic. Like the rules, these relationships being forced is what ruins them. In many countries, people hate marriage because they are set up with a random person by their parents. Likewise, this would be the case here. Not only would the relationships be ruined by being forced, but they would lack the basic “glue” that holds relationships together. A bond. Without a bond, there cannot be love, affection, or any sense of trust or loyalty. You could not communicate or rely on the other effectively. In no way would a law forcing to you hoe around to find “the one” work. It is counterintuitive by
Do you ever think about marriage? If so, where, when, how, and who do you want to marry? Do any of those things even matter to you? Everyone regardless of age, gender, background, or culture will contemplate about marriage at least once in their lifetime, in fact some even plan their dream wedding since they were a kid. However, in reality, marriage is more than just a fairytale-like, dreamy concept as some cliche Hollywood films would portrait. Marriage requires countless serious negotiations and decisions, that couples would soon realize deciding on a marriage was only a tip of an iceberg of decision-making. Couples will have to decide on where to live, how to split the work at home, if they want to expand the family, have children, and etc,
In this essay, I will be examining Shakespeare’s treatment of relationships in Romeo and Juliet. As a poet and playwright, he wrote 154 sonnets, 2 long narrative poems and 38 plays, one of his most famous plays being Romeo and Juliet. There are many different types of relationships between characters, and these are essential to the play. The prologue tells us that the play is about two star-crossed lovers from two feuding families, the Montagues and Capulets. There is hatred between these two families, this explains this, ‘Thou villain Capulet’. This quote suggests because of the hate between their families, the lovers are doomed from the start.
While arranged marriages are still a common practice, and some girls believe that there are benefits from the arranged marriage, some future brides feel uncertain and scared of getting married because it would mean that they would have to leave the comfort of their home. Not only that, but it is not uncommon for the family of the groom to put extra pressure on their new daughter-in-law. Everything, including her behavior, her clothing, and her housework will be under observation. Whether or not arranged marriages are the best way to create families or find love, it is interesting to see how there is not just one way to get married.
In recent years, same-sex marriage has become a more controversial topic on whether it’s right or wrong. People should not feel coerced to agree with something they believe is wrong; clearly, same-sex marriage is immoral and unnatural. Many complications come with same-sex marriages including financial pressures, social pressures, moral pressures, and health risks.
In fact, they are looked down upon. A lot of the love marriages that happened were a result of the people eloping from their own homes. Love marriage are often not considered a mature act and done without the parent’s consent can put the family to shame.