Communication Problems in Relationships

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Communication

One of the major problems that affect couples is

communication. It is hard to listen to the other person

when you think you are right. Couples seen to blame,

criticize, and give the silent treatment among other

things. There are struggles over power and lots of

conflict. With so many things to fight about it’s good to

be able to know how to fight in a way that’s healthy.

Some of the things couples may fight about are gender

roles, fidelity, sex, money, and power. With so many women

working there is a conflict of who does everything at home

and since they both have incomes then there is a struggle

of who makes financial decisions. Fidelity is a big issue

along with violations of trust and commitment. If the

relationship is not going well, women seem not to want

sex. This is because they tie emotional feeling with sex.

Men don’t seem to do this.

Next, couples cope with these conflicts in many different

ways. One may finally give over to the other person. They

can compromise, witch is the best method. They may agree

to disagree or just stop talking about the issue. Denying

conflict can ruin a relationship. Some Couples yell,

humiliate, embarrass, and demoralize each other.

These are not affective ways of fighting.

There are ways to improve your communication skills. When

your partner is upset don’t be defensive. A lot of the

time its not a right wrong situation. It’s a different

perspective that ur partner is coming from. Being caring

and supportive increases the desire to talk. An important

thing is to be honest with each other. Lying will make the

conflict worse. Listening is probley the most important

thing you can do.

Lastly, there are rules for fighting fair. You should

never attack your partner. It will only make them

defensive. No one likes to be backed into a corner. Like I

wrote before, be honest. Do not belittle or threaten your

partner. Its better to focus on the problem not the

person. Avoid fighting dirty, its not fair to your

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