A shattered mirror makes a thousand tiny daggers. Mirrors show us exact reflections. We get an accurate measure of how we physically appear to others. Looking inward, however, is not as easy. It requires time, thought, and honesty. Without these we form assumptions and are unable to accurately evaluate ourselves. Sometimes we are prompted to evaluate from external sources, and sometimes from internal sources. Whatever the cause, it is a necessary step in our betterment. For many, the seven years of bad luck from breaking a mirror would be much preferred over honestly looking at it’s reflection. We can be comfortable with a bit of bad luck while having the crutch that we are “doing just fine”. Alternatively, self-evaluation can be difficult. Often we believe that we have little to improve, but more commonly, we believe that we can make improvements but have no concrete goals or traits to improve. We will explore some tools that will present us with solutions to this conundrum. We often look at ourselves through our built in psychological mirror and lie. Honest self-evaluation can hurt, but in this game, there is no gain without pain. Belief and fact are often victims of convenient substitution. We like label our beliefs as facts when it fits our wants or needs. Our inner dialogue is a strange juxtaposition of persuasiveness and gullibility, and we often fall prey to the effects of this dynamic. I once had a friend that continually complained that no one was as optimistic as he was. Without true self-evaluation, we will only sink deeper into the comfortable quicksand of our illusions. Sometimes we are compelled to evaluation through feedback from others, other times by our own observation. Evaluation set on by interaction with o... ... middle of paper ... ...ng that each step is separate and builds on the others shows us one additional point to consider: detail. Da Vinci and Einstein did not become renowned for their disregard for detail. Without embracing detail, they would not have had the advancements they did. When proving a theory, if a scientist finds that his hypothesis fails once, they must abandon it and devise a new plan. Our development depends on our embracement of detail. If we find that our success recipe fails under a certain set of circumstances, we must return to our evaluation and find the detail we missed. This is an unending process that will yield continual results with continual effort. Take a look in the internal mirror and observe. Leave your assumptions somewhere you can’t get to. Be honest with yourself. The fastest way to failure is to reject reality. Find reality, accept it, and change it.
Steven Gregory’s book entitled The Devil Behind The Mirror is an ethnographical study of the Dominican Republic. The Dominican Republic is in the Caribbean, it occupies the Western half of an island, while Haiti makes up the Eastern portion. Gregory attempts to study and analyze the political, social and cultural aspects of this nation by interviewing and observing both the tourists and locals of two towns Boca Chica and Andres. Gregory’s research centers on globalization and the transnational processes which affect the political and socio-economics of the Dominican Republic. He focuses on the social culture, gender roles, economy, individual and nation identity, also authority and power relations. Several of the major relevant issues facing Dominican society include racism, sexism, and discrimination, economy of resort tourism, sex tourism and the informal economy. The objective of Gregory’s ethnographic research is to decipher exclusionary practices incorporated by resort tourism, how it has affected locals by division of class, gender, and race, increasing poverty and reliance on an informal economy.
...vercome, there is more of a chance to capture such great discoveries. People need to realize that if they never take the time to stop and look around, appreciate the small things in life, they might miss out on important details and or moments that the world has to offer. Scientist didn’t obtain their greatest discoveries by looking at the world with a closed mind. During the months of September through Novemeber, the leaves start to fall off the trees. It is obvious its fall, but what else is occurring? Gravity. Albert Einstein discovered gravity by watching and ordinary object fall. At that moment he became a scientific unscrupulous observer.
When we look in the mirror, we see a distorted version of ourselves, usually in a negative light. The society in which we live in tends to compare and rate us against other people. Trying to get a complete, precise picture of ourselves seems to be impossible, but it does provide us with the opportunity of self-discovery. “The Me I Really Am” describes that the better we know ourselves, the better we can understand others, because knowledge about ourselves gives us the understanding of our place in the world. In this chapter, Weber describes BGI, Blinding Glimpse of Insight, which occurs when we stop to take a good, hard look of ourselves (Pg. 40). Although this may deliver negative insight, it can bring about positive changes in ourselves and our relationships with
What does sense of self-mean? It means what that person sees when they look in a mirror. Whether it is a decent, awful or an indifferent image. Everyone’s self-image is different, and that’s acceptable; normal even. No one person is exactly the same. The authors explain how a sense of self is like internal conflicts and the decision to lie in order to gain approval.
Kluckhohn explains the differences and similarities among people of the world as culture. Culture, in this instance, spans a variety of areas. To begin with, culture is the way a person was raised. In addition, it's the values a person was taught. Finally, culture is related to man's biological needs. Habits that a person is taught as a youngster will influence the rest of his life.
how we imaged others have judged us. The result of this process is negative or
"The perfect man uses his mind as a mirror./ It grasps nothing. It regrets nothing./ It receives but does not keep."- Chuang Tzu. For the majority of this play, Richard the Third is the embodiment of this quote. He has no regrets and does not show any remorse for the terrible things he does. Yet he is revered and becomes king. How? Richard is capable of presenting different faces to the outside world. He shows people what they want to see. He is able to reflect people back onto themselves; he is a mirror. This is the charm that allows him to manipulate the people and the situations he is around.
Human beings, myself included, usually tend to look outside of themselves instead of within, due to the fact it can be painful to see our own behavior and defects. Everything outside of us is a mirror to reflect what is within; we either like or dislike the reflection. I always like this simple saying that illustrates this point – if you spot it, you got it.
As a collective group of peers, we perceive things in a certain light without necessarily knowing the background information. We judge ourselves, and we judge others constantly, and often based only on perception. The outcome of perceiving things a certain way can be positive or negative. This depends on how we do it, when, and how often. After reading and carefully examining this chapter, I have gained some very useful knowledge. This information helped me break down, and analyze things about myself as well as others. I have constructed an ideal concept of myself, about who I am, and who the people I surround myself with are. I slowly became more self-aware, realizing who I really am as an individual, and that I am much more than what people perceive me to be. One of the methods I used to this was the Johari Method concept .I have also come to the realization that perception is one of the most important aspects of communication, and if used effectively the world would be a better place.
Cooley’s theory of the looking glass self says that we have a sense of who we are that is defined by incorporating the reflected appraisals of others.
Given this minimal evaluation baseline, the impact of the potential for self-evaluation can be studied by manipulating a participant's ac...
Success and failure seem to be pretty distinct opposites, but many times the differences between success and failure aren’t as obvious as we may think them to be. Sometimes a failure can be turned into a success if you are willing to look back at them, and are open to learning from them. Many times, one’s attitude toward a failure can determine whether or not anything is learned from it. Those who remain upbeat and positive after a failure may be able to get something out of it, but those who just don’t think about it and ignore it won’t get anything from it.
In the short story Mirror Image the author addresses a great deal of self realization, defining the protagonist Alice throughout the story. An important theme about this character is focusing on how experiences change the views and perceptions we make of ourselves. Within the first few paragraphs the writer distinguishes the significance for the sunglasses Alice wears constantly throughout the story. “Alice took to wearing sunglasses all the time, to remind herself, to keep something constantly in front of her eyes that would remind her she looked different.” (pg.1) This quote implies Alice does not know who she is yet, and she uses the sunglasses to shield herself from her fears and sense of self. Another experience
Since failure is truly more common than success, one’s question for life should not be if you have problems, but how you are going to deal with your problems. Philosophically speaking, there is no achievement without failure. To even imply that it might be possible to achieve anything without failure, gives people the wrong impression. The person construct theory introduced by George Kelly, Psychologist, says that in order to know success and its definition we must also know failure and its definition (INSERT CITATION). One can’t have proper perspective without the other. That theory goes hand-in-hand with the concept of failure and success - navigating/conducting individual behavioral situations test our perceptions and interpretations. If we do not like the results or “how we handled it”, we can change - albeit not always easily. (INSERT
“No matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always change, become a better version of yourself.” - Madonna. When you read this quote, you think of one word, “Self-improvement.” Just with this one topic, you may ponder and ask yourself, “Who needs Self-improvement?” ,“ When do we need to start changing and How do we begin?”,” What will we get from it?” , and the most important question of all, “Why do we need self-improvement?” Self improvement comes from experiences. Experiences that were either blessings, mistakes, regrets, and overall a lesson each time. Self-improvement is a wake up call but will we ever take the chance to self-improve or just let it pass it by?