Today, a very controversial problem in California and other countries is young marriage. This problem is passing the record and something should be done. For this reason, those that care about our teens getting married young they should be able to understand that is getting more and more difficult for them to succeed when it comes to education and employment. One consequence that affects most teens is a growing sense of a lack of freedom. With this problem the opportunity to become something in life is gone. Clearly, young marriage is not always bad, but older people argue that it has created many problems as well. Although young marriage is and will changed our lives for the better or for bad, it has also left some people behind, creating two distinct classes those who agree and those who do not with the law in California. Young marriage should be banned in California because they are not mature enough to know the responsibilities of marriage.
Over 50 countries allow marriage at 16, including the United States. Some states required parental permission while others do not. This law seems ridiculous for many people but even if someone doesn’t like it they can’t do anything about it. Considering that nearly 90 percent of California young people expected to get married or enter into life partnership (Harte). In the 1400s people got married as young as 12, a boy was considered a man, a girl was a woman as soon as she had her first menstrual cycle, something that was extremely common but would be
viewed as scandalous in America today (Markson). In my opinion I think those 50 countries should change this law because teens are losing the opportunity to have a career later in life.
However, the law in California for young marriage say...
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...ortunity to know what is true love and based on this love the possibility to become parents. But, to succeed on young marriage the best thing to do is waiting at least 25 years old or even more. That is why people that disagree want to change the law in California. That way this new law hopefully could have stronger outcomes that affect not only one but both families. I think this would work and that way young people should at least think that their parents would and will be involved with fatal consequences.
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*Markson, Gillian. “Family Marriage Facts and Statistics on Marriage.” Families.com, LLC.
*Klein, Ezra. “The American Prospect.” The American Prospect, Inc. (2010):
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