Many women have babies every day in life, but I believe having a baby can be the scariest thing you can actually go through being a teenager. There are more teenagers having babies with no guidance or direction in their lives today. I know being pregnant at 17 for me was the scariest moment of me being a teenager. The thought of me becoming a mother made me scared because I had no idea how to prepare, for the pain that my son (Freddrick) and I will have to endure.
During the nine months that I was pregnant, I prepared myself for the arrival of Freddrick. The one thing I did know is that I wouldn’t have any type of financial help with Freddrick because his father had no idea, or clue how to take care of his self, nor less a son that was about to arrive. The first thing I had to do while being pregnant is to get a job, so I would be able to financially take care of Freddrick. Even though I knew it would be a bad idea to work during the pregnancy because of the fact of my low blood count that the doctor had warned me about. Working while I was pregnant was a big risk because I would just pass out for no apparent reason, I would be sick a lot, or just wouldn’t have any energy at all to do anything. I knew I had to work in order, for Freddrick to have a stroller, clothes, diapers, a car seat, and other baby equipment that was needed before his arrival. The nine months also gave me time to get myself together, so that I could stop hanging around the wrong people in my life, I needed to make a decision about being with his father or leaving him once Freddrick arrived, also stop doing some of the things I was doing as teenager that would not be able to do as a mother, and also mentally prepare myself for the arrival of Freddrick.
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...y life different. I knew that I could get through all of my struggles with Freddrick because he kept me going each and every day of my life. At times I wanted to give up then I think about Freddrick and I just knew I could get through all of our tough times. At times nobody knew what we had went through other than me and Freddrick. I didn’t really have the time to go out and meet new friends like everyone else my age, so that I could have someone to talk to about what I was going through. Do I have any regrets of having Freddrick? “No” not all because he is my blessing I wouldn’t be who I am today if it wasn’t for Freddrick. He is the reason why I decided to go back to school to show him he can do anything he puts his mind to. He is now 13 years old very respectable young men, for me I believe I made all the right choices and sacrifices in my life to have Freddrick.
had turned 8 months. My father’s words and the experience of having a child has made my life better than I ever thought it would be. Before, I was working every day; passing off time with family just to get a paycheck. Now, I just want to be there. I want to experience everything with my son. Not like my father who only seen his children an hour a night, and regretted the time he missed out in his family . I resigned from my job and enrolled in school. I was bound and determined to get a job where I can be a part of my child’s life rather than just be the provider and miss out on what life really is. Time feels like it’s passing at breakneck speeds, and if you blink it’ll pass by without a second thought. I live life day by day and make sure to be happy and full of love. Life is too short to waste it . I’ve learned a powerful lesson from my father: Work to live the way you want, but do not live to work. Family all ways comes
I was sixteen years old when I got pregnant. As soon as I saw the plus sign on the pregnancy test, I knew I wasn’t going to be able to experience being a real teenager.
People that lack knowledge tend to make or end up in horrifying situations they can regret their entire life. Teens are easily tricked by their classmates or other people they know, they agree to do anything without thinking it through.Teens take very quick actions without thinking of the consequences, their family, their environment, and not even their religion.These mistakes which I happen to be familiar with, may lead into very serious problems later on.
Being a parent is very demanding and can be hard. The difficulties that come with an unplanned pregnancy in teens can have a profound effect on their life. Their physical, social, mental, and emotional health will all be affected by a sudden change in the course of their life. Teens impacted with an unplanned pregnancy will have to give up many things in order to be a parent. In addition, they will have to take on many more responsibilities that accompany pregnancy and parenthood. All in all, having an unplanned pregnancy and becoming a parent introduce many new responsibilities and difficulties.
I never dreamed of having a child at such a young are. In fact, in high school I was the typical student. I maintained good grades, stayed on the honor roll, participated in extracurricular activities, and even volunteered at local hospitals. Outside of school my friends I were always doing something after the football games or just hanging on Saturday nights, being typical teens. Soon all of that would come to an end. Little did I know for the next few months to come, I would be home to what could be our future president or the person that would make history for finding the cure for cancer. The scariest thing is, I would be forever responsible for a new life, as if trying to be responsible for my own was not enough.
When I found out I was pregnant I could never have imagined how hard my life was going to be as a teen mom. I remember my dad sitting me down and telling me he respected my decision to keep my daughter, but that I had no idea how hard I just made my life, I don’t think that in that moment I really realized what he meant, but I would soon find out. I was just starting my 11th grade year when my daughter was born so I still had two years of school left. I also had to work so I could take care of my daughter, so trying to do both seemed impossible, at one point my school wanted me to go to school during the day and at night so I could graduate. There was no way I could work and go to school during the day and at night. I had to think long and hard about what I needed to do, my daughter and I needed to be able to survive so I definitely needed my job, so I did
Teenagers are still kids. So basically we have a bunch of kids having kids which is insane. Teenagers aren’t ready to be parents until they have grown up themselves. Teens aren’t able to raise a steady family, they don’t have jobs, their children won’t have fathers, and they aren’t responsible enough for that yet. To be a parent you need discipline, education, and finances. Teens have none of that. The teenagers shouldn’t have to have all of that forced onto them at such an early age. What type of teen would give up friends, proms, their education, and their whole life just to change diapers, feed and take care of a baby. Teenagers already don’t like waking up early in the morning for school, so why would they to take care of a baby in the middle of the night? That’s just it, they wouldn’t. Teenagers are just too young to be having kids When their only kids. Teenage...
“Everything is going to be O.K.,” my mother said, before walking into her bedroom and crying her eyes out. Throughout my teenage years I had it made. I had security, support of my family, and everything I could ask for. When I turned 16, I found out something that would change my life forever, I was pregnant. Being pregnant at a young age is a very difficult thing to go through. It can be hard mentally, financially and also physically.
outcome of their health and ability. I remember giving birth to a child for the first time. I was afraid as
What would be your reaction if you had a teenager come home pregnant? Many teenagers fear their parents if they have to bring home a bad report card. Others may have a fear if they get into trouble at school. Although these fears are substantial, young women experience a fear that young men do not. Becoming pregnant is a serious fear for young women that engage in sexual intercourse. Often times a teen mother’s answer to this situation is abortion or an illegal abortion. Teen abortion can be somewhat difficult to get in many states without having parental consent or notification. These laws make it unsafe for the teen mother and unborn child. Teen abortion should be allowed without having to have parental consent. The mortality rate of teen mothers and babies would decrease significantly if this were the case. Sadly, each year in the United States the age of young girls who are sexually active decreases. At this rate there are many unwanted and unplanned pregnancies. “One in three abortions in the U.S. are performed on teens” (Torr 91). That is a very high statistic that young women have created due to their adult decisions.” Teens are sometimes reluctant to practice birth control because it is not romantic” (Emmens 13). Teens tend to believe that they should not use birth control, because they do not think that they will get pregnant. The lack of birth control may result in pregnancy. Once a teenager gets pregnant she may not know what to do next. Teenagers usually become nervous and unsure of whether to tell someone or just keep the pregnancy a secret. When they keep the pregnancy a secret it puts them in danger as well as the unborn child. Planned Parenthood Federation of America is the nation's leading sexual and reproductive health care advocate and provider. “We believe that everyone has the right to choose when or whether to have a child, and that every child should be wanted and loved” (Suarez 2). Planned Parenthood allows a teenager to make safe decisions without including the teen’s parents. In many states where they have Planned Parenthood facilities the teenagers have more options. Teenagers that want birth control and/or an abortion can receive services, as well as information from a doctor. The doctors at this clinic encourage young women to tell their parents of their choice of abortion.
I had to mature quickly and learn how to take care of someone else besides myself. I am now a mother to four children. They have taught me how to have patience. This has become something I value very much. I have learned that in life you must wait for things. I now know that there was a reason why I had my son so early and wasn’t able to go to college upon graduating high school. I am so thankful that I had patience and waited for the right time to enter. It has been 14 years since I graduated high school, and I’m attending college and know exactly what I want to become. I had patience and took care of my babies at home before I decided to go to school. It hasn’t always been easy, but I’m so glad I
While many teens that engage in pre-marital sex never become pregnant, some are not as fortunate. Teen pregnancy has become all too common in this day and age. Some teens think it will not happen to them and do not use necessary precautions to protect against it. There are several causes for teen pregnancy and the effects can be life changing.
Once my mom actually found out she was pregnant, I’m sure a lot of questions and thoughts were running through her mind. For instance,“what am I going to tell my parents” or “how are we going to support this new baby because we’re broke?” She eventually faced all of the facts and decided to keep this precious child, which in my opinion was the right choice because without him our family wouldn’t be complete.
From my personal experience, I feel that anyone can get through it. Not only am I a parent as a teenager, but I am also juggling my college classes and a full time job. It’s hard to accept that I will miss a lot of my baby’s first time experiences, however, I have to focus on what’s best for my child and myself. I feel that is the only way I can give my child a good life. Everyone is capable of doing it as long as they put their mind to
...due to increasing uncertainty about the future. Fears of having the baby are prevalent as the teen becomes confused on the impact of the baby towards her own life and future dreams. In their lifespan development, delaying their education is necessary as they cannot hold on to both the education and the pregnancy. The depression developed is due to lack of effective handling of the emotions created by the pregnancy (Carlson, 2009).