Why Open Adoption Is Better For You

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“We should not be asking who this child belongs to, but who belongs to this child.” (Gritter; image) Open Adoption is a form of adoption that lets birth parents stay in contact with the adoptive family in varying forms: from just sending mail and/or photos, to face-to-face visits between birth and adoptive families. The adoptive parents hold all the rights as the birth parents. Even though parents are giving the child up does not mean they do not care for the child, it could mean that they were not able to afford having a baby and instead of abortion they choose adoption. Sometimes parents still want to care for and see the child so they choose open adoption. It allows the birth parents to keep in contact with the adoptive parents and the child throughout their life. When having an open adoption the child will know that they were not abandoned and are cared for more than they would have been.
You should choose Open Adoption because if parents were not able to afford having a baby they put it up for adoption, giving the child a better life but wanting to be apart of it still. Not only can that but the reason for giving the child up, it could be for many other reasons. For example, in doing my research on adoption I came across a mother who was raped and was sent away by her family so she could not “shame” them. She was put into a home for a while and when released they were known as “born again virgins”. Also, she was warned not to tell anyone of what happened to her while she was there.. Many years later she realized why she kept her son a secret for 22 years. The reason for her shame was because she was violated from having something precious taken without her consent and for not being able to not do anything. She was not thrill...

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...rents on your side since the beginning? When you knew what was going on, having two sets of parents. Or would you rather not have any trace of your birth parents? That meaning you would not know any of your history.
So you can see that although you're giving the child up, does not mean you don't love them it shows that you want to give your baby a better life since you were not able to give them that. Instead of abortion you put it up for adoption but still wanted be apart of your baby’s life, so you should choose Open Adoption for two main reasons. First, because you loved your child so much that you wanted to give them a better life and wanted to be there for them. But most importantly, when adoptive parents and birth parents keep in contact with each other the child will see that they weren't abandoned and they will feel loved instead of feeling worthless.

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