Why Men Need To Apologize Essay

I think that heterosexual men are less likely to perceive the need to apologize because that is something that they weren't really taught while growing up. There wasn't someone saying "boys don't apologize"... But there also wasn't someone in their lives pushing them to be sympathetic or to show their feelings. Boys are taught at a young age to be the strong ones and to never cry, while girls are taught the exact opposite. Girls are allowed to cry and to be emotional, no one questions that. Although, as soon as a boy or a man shows their feelings or is sympathetic they are automatically deemed as "gay" or weak? I think that if Bernstein were to redo their research and studies years down the road from now, there might be different results. I feel as though children are being brought up differently now, they have more freedom to be who they want to be and not so much of what society wants them to behave an act like. The reason men are less likely to perceive the need to apologize is based off of how they were broughtt up, unfortunately arrogance also plays a role in this situation. Men are more likely to have more confidence than a woman, women think about things more in depth than a man and are usually in the position of feeling as though they are at fault. (Even when they aren't) If a woman in a

relationship is the one who is constantly apologizing, whether it is her fault or not, that will become a normal thing for the relationship. The heterosexual man in that relationship might soon believe that he is never at fault, mostly because his wife is the one doing all of the apologizing. I believe that women look more into detail when an argument is at play as well, when in most cases the heterosexual male brushes it off soon after.

In most of my relationships, I have been the one to apologize more.

I think I apologize more often because after I think about the situation long enough, I somehow put the blame on myself. I am a semi-confident person and I have learned to not put so much blame on myself, no matter the situation or who it may be with. I do think that to end a diagreement, an apology might be thrown out to stop it all. But, it doesn't really stop it all, does it? It may be one of the worst things you do, because more than likely the other person can tell you're really not sorry and the disagreement never got fully resolved (which means it will just pop back up again later down the

road).

Overall, apologies should be given out when they are meant, if not.. They simply mean nothing.