Social interactions are some of the most complex and emotionally driven occurrences we face. These interactions are essential to how we display ourselves to others, and our intended perception in the minds of our fellow acquaintances, friends, and family. Although a large part of our communication is nonverbal, it cannot be forgotten that what you say and how you say it, dictates a significant portion of the direction of these interactions. Whether you aim to assert yourself in a group setting, appear indifferent and non-opinionated towards an idea or proposal, or any other position during an interaction, it is crucial that you understand how the phrasing of a few words can reveal your feeling in a certain setting. In today’s world we have …show more content…
Usage of just and “uptalk” by women come under fire according to the author, and display a notion that women talk in a more submissive manner that gives an almost inferiority to their male counterparts. In my honest opinion the theme of this article was rather peculiar, the way in which I was raised I never regretted my use of the word just in asking another for a favor or deed. I fully agree with the author when she states that “leaving it out doesn’t make you sound clearer and more confident, it makes you sound like an inconsiderate jerk.” While one like a boss, professor, or any other superior may have the ability to command and direct the actions you do, I still appreciate when the command is structured with the decency of a question as if I had the ability and given respect to make the decision myself. Obviously if a superior asks you to do something you comply and answer the question with an unwavering positive yes, but it still shows a relationship of respect and dignity to not be barking orders and belittling others with flexing of superiority over the ones you manage. This all ties back to the simple message that the way in which we structure our phrases is essential to exhibiting esteem towards the people we encounter and interact with on a daily basis. Another interesting point of the article is the aforementioned “uptalk.” It seems somewhat silly to me that one would be criticized for the pitch and tone in which they talk, for that matter why don’t those same people criticize others for having foreign accents or slight impediments like a lisp or other speech disorder. Such slight nuances in the way we deliver words should have no bearing on the reception of the substance in which the words contain, beating the same drum over and over throughout this essay, I restate once again the simple fact that all people
Deborah Tannen brings up the issue of how women are often labeled bossy when is positions of authority in her article. ““Bossy” Is More Than a Word to Women”. She explains the everyday struggle that these women go through and the on going patriarchy in the work force. From their diction down to minute ways that women present themselves it seems that they are scrutinized in every way possible. Deborah faces these issues head on with a woman’s perspective allowing those unaware and men a small glimpse into the difficult life of women everywhere. She falls a little short on some of her theories for why this may be because of the lack of research. Besides that it is a very passionate and informative article because these issues continue to happen, whether or not she is correct about the source of these issues. Deborah makes sure to have her points come across clearly by using buzz words, writing with a passionate tone, and falls short with some of her theories by having insignificant research.
Deborah Tannen’s, “Fighting For Our Lives,” explores the ideas and concepts behind human sociology. She delves into the sociolinguistic relationship between women and men in conversation. Tannen amplifies the importance between language and gender and how they affect interpersonal relationships. Tannen showcases her analytical thinking processes by using rhetorical strategies to support her claim on conflicted communication within the argument culture. Specifically, focusing on politics, the law, education, spousal relationships, the media and within work environments. She gives many examples to support her claim by using figurative language and literary devices such as metaphors and logic and reasoning to accurately convey her message.
Tannen, Deborah. “His Politeness Is Her Powerlessness.” You Just Don’t Understand: women and men in conversation. New York: HarperCollins, 1990. 203-5. Print.
The film, The Breakfast Club, is an impressive work of art, addressing almost every aspect of interpersonal communication. This is easily seen here, as I’ve gone through and shown how all these principles of interpersonal communication apply to real-life, using only two short interpersonal interactions from the movie. I’ve explained aspects of interpersonal communication, nonverbal communication, verbal misunderstandings, communication styles, gender issues, and self-disclosures. With that said, I believe I have demonstrated my ability to apply principles of interpersonal communication with simulated real-life examples.
How important is it to keep an open mind when communicating in the workplace? Distortions can mess with people’s perceptions of coworkers today more than ever. People work with people all over the world and a simple wave of the hand or making eye contact can be misinterpreted as an insult. Even people in the same region might have different methods of communicating. One business in town might be in little cubicles and can make announcements on the floor or in another business people have their own offices and email each other. Other’s distortions in of competitiveness, enthusiasm, and romance, in both verbal and nonverbal communication, help Tom Hank’s character, Josh Baskin, in “Big”.
The speech that was analyzed was “Your Body Language Shape Who You Are” by social psychologist, Amy Cuddy. Amy explained in her speech that other people’s and your body language can display how a person can perceive themselves in a power dominance situation. Also, Cuddy described how an individual can change how a room of people views them by simply arranging their posture. Amy Cuddy gave an effective speech by her delivery of the topic, her credibility on the subject, and how she kept the audience engage.
Have you ever been in a room full of strangers and all of a sudden felt so nervous that you were scared to participate in a conversation, so you closed yourself up? Or have you ever been in a room full of people you were acquainted with and felt superior to them? Both of these questions displayed how our nonverbals can have an effect on us and also how they are perceived by others. Our body language shapes who we are and our behavior. Amy Cuddy argued some great points on the statement, “faking it til you make it” and how it can lead to a great chance of success if you come accustomed to it. Manfred F.R. Kets de Vries argued that “faking it til you make it” can actually lead to a successful person damaging their career on the account of not feeling good enough to uphold their responsibilities. Both displayed the fact of our nonverbals controlling our behavior and producing different outcomes. The use of nonverbal communication as positive self talk can lead to an individual being shaped into a successful person because we reveal ourselves through it. Self talk provides individuals a way to develop a high degree of competence
In interpersonal communication there are many theories that are similar yet different in many ways. The theories can be combined to describe people and how those people interact and communicate with each other. Many of these theories help explain how people in society form impressions of others, how they maintain these impressions, why people interact with certain people in society, and how people will use these impressions that they have formed later on in life. These theories also help people to better understand themselves, to better understand interpersonal communication, and to better understand people in general. There are two theories in interpersonal communication that, despite their differences, can go hand in hand. The first is interaction adaptation theory and the second is emotional contagion theory. These two theories’ similarities and differences and their relevance to my everyday life will be discussed in this paper. These two theories are very important in understanding how people interact with others and why people do the things they do sometimes.
Words can be beautiful, destructive, and manipulative. Language is central to all our lives, and arguably the cultural tool that sets humans apart from any other species. Language enables us to express our wishes, feelings, likes, dislikes, and ideas; it can be a symbolic function. Language also plays a role in how we affect other people, and how we make others feel, achieved just by our choice of words. By observing the language and the behavior of other people, one is provided with valuable information about personality type. If one listens closely they can better understand a friend’s temperament. By paying close attention to others, how they speak, how they dress, and facial expressions, we can better understand the wants of those around as and how they function as a person. The play Othello is full of rich dialogue with characters speaking eloquently and exquisitely to one another, “Yet I 'll not shed her blood, Nor scar that whiter skin of hers than snow, And smooth as monumental
“Organized talk is the secret of social success” phatic communion in everyday conversation was described by Malinowski in which “serves to establish bonds of personal union between people brought together by the mere need of companionship and does not serve any purpose of communicating ideas.” (Malinowski) at the same time, he claimed that language in ordinary conversation is not dependent upon what happens at the moment of conversation, but it seems to be more deprived or independent of any context of the situation. Consequently, the meaning of any utterance cannot be related to the speaker’s or hearer’s behavior, or with the purpose of what they are trying to achieve or do yet he mentioned subtly that, there
Have you ever wondered who taught you to talk the way you do? People learn to talk and express themselves everyday of their lives. Starting from the day you were born you used language or some form of it to communicate with those around you. As a baby you usually show your displeasure with your new surroundings by crying, and if you don’t the doctor will make sure you do. Everyday we express our point of view to others in some form of language. Whether it is through verbal communication, written discourse or through body language, you can tell if a person is upset, angry, or happy. We as human beings don’t realize how much language has to do with our lives. How can you determine if one of your friends is angry with you? Is there a different tone to their voice? Do they have a stern look on their face? Of course they do, your friend feels the need to express their anger to you by these different forms of language. Where do we learn to use these different forms of language? How are our uses of these languages shaped? The three main contributing factors to how we express ourselves through language come from our schooling, our friends, and most of all from our families.
Psychologists said that the first impression that people will get from you comes after seven seconds, and the nonverbal communication might help you to give a good impression in the first meeting. They also proved that people will judge the speaker and the speech from the beginning of the speech because verbal communication is not the only important part of communication. Psychologists found that 55% of people impression on you comes from your body language, 38% comes from your voice tone, and only 7% comes from your words. Therefore, when the speaker’s speech doesn’t match their body language, the audience will feel confused and lose interest in the
Clear communication is key in life, in fact, it is essential. Communicating clearly can make the difference between telling someone verbally “I love it!” in a joyous tone when receiving a gift you enjoy or saying, “I…love ...it...” with a look of grimace, when you found out the present was a disappointment. Communication has two main factors: Verbal and Nonverbal. Verbal Communication is messages one uses to relay information to another person through words or language. This type of communication can be a face-to-face interaction or may use channels such as email or written letters to communicate a message. Nonverbal communication are messages that are not spoken but conveyed through one’s body language. Unspoken messages can include: facial expressions, eye contact and hand gestures. Miscommunication is a daily occurrence in our society; it is when a message we are communicating, verbally or nonverbal, are not interpreted correctly. Secondly, miscommunication can also transpire when a phrase or words are ambiguous or may have different meanings in various cultures. In this essay I will discuss four different scenarios I have personally experienced when miscommunication occurred verbally and nonverbal.
Its hard to know what you can say around certain groups of people, or in
Interaction is a significant part of our daily lives. Oral communication with others is inevitable, and therefore it is crucial for us to acquire the skills to do so correctly. Aside from simply stating words or expressing ideas, oral communication serves various purposes. Oral communication allows an individual to express emotions, ideas, and feelings; it gives people the ability to empower, inspire, and motivate those who listen; and it allows people to share knowledge and traditions, as well as build their self-esteem. Oral communication is also useful in leading us to new discoveries, ideas, cultures, and perspectives (O’Neill). Thus, oral communication serves several different purposes in daily life; yet each of these purposes are connected to an even larger purpose. According to the textbook Communication: Making Connections, “Effective communication is critical to living successfully in today’s soc...