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Different cultures and parenting styles
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Culture and child rearing
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In early modern Europe, various views regarding the role of children in society heavily influenced the manner in which these children were raised. Some Europeans felt that through discipline and somewhat harsh treatment, parents might better prepare their children to succeed. Others perceived love and gentle guidance as the best way by which to form the minds of their children. These altered views were a result of a change in the times and circumstances. Attitudes toward children differed among early Europeans and resulted in various methods of child rearing. Those who saw children as weak and inferior sought to instill stronger characteristics through harsh treatment and discipline – “tough love”. The Domostroi, a Russian manual for household management written in the mid-16th century, says that parents who love their children ought to whip them in order that they might grow up to be a joy rather than a burden. Those who discipline their children and provide them with a good education will reap the benefits (Document 3). Although in the 16th century, Russia was considered “backwards” by most of Western Europe, the same disciplinary principle can be seen in the autobiography of Benvenuto Cellini, an Italian metal sculptor. Cellini recounts a visit to an illegitimate son and how, when he was ready to leave, his son clung to him and began to cry profusely. Rather than console his child, Cellini extricated himself and left the boy crying (Document 4). Similarly, in a letter to his son’s governess, King Henry IV of France called for the regular whipping of his young son. From his own experience, he claims “there is nothing in the world that will be better for him than that” (Document 8). It is in fact true that Henry of Nav... ... middle of paper ... ...a child up for failure, while an approach that features strong discipline and harsh treatment may expose a child to suffering more than is necessary (Document 12). The teachings of such philosophers reflect the various views of Europeans concerning the rearing of children. A variety of different methods concerning the raising of children in early modern Europe can be readily identified. Due to the high mortality rate of children, the view on child rearing emphasized harsh treatment and punishment in order to strengthen children and efficiently correct their mistakes at an early age. In the 17th and 18th centuries, during the period of Enlightenment, ideas were formed about the positive aspects of gently rearing a child. These varying approaches were the result of the progression of different cultural ideas and movements, as well as practical experience.
In modern society, both the abstract and concrete representations of children are intertwined with the themes associated with happiness, innocence, ignorance, gullibility, and the allure of youth. But, if I may for a moment mimic Caroline Vout’s presentation of her arguments by asking, how does today’s current view of children differ from the non-linguistic representations of children in ancient times? If one was to rewind time while focusing solely on the exemplification of children in ancient Greek and Rome, they would discover that presumably there is a degradation of the importance of the child in society. The previously mentioned Caroline Vout supplies the fact that the great philosopher Aristotle believed that “[children were] virtually denied human status on the grounds of their diminished faculty of deliberation.” This thought process is obviously contradictory to the widely accepted opinion of children in today’s modern society. With the assistance of multiple sculptures, frescos, and drawings, Vout utilizes rhetorical questions to engage the reader in her arguments concerning the portrayal of children during the Hellenistic period.
Throughout the decades, parenting has evolved resulting in altered child rearing experiences for adults. It has changed from the 1920s, when children had to work no matter where they lived, to now where you can't discipline your kid and society decides what is right. Punishing your child became customary over time, but today physical punishment is highly frowned upon. Looking into each of the decades since 1920, family life has been focused on the child and influenced by community expectations.
In “Rods to Reasoning” Hays states that during the Middle Ages in Europe, if children were not “being fed, drugged, whipped, or tossed, they were often simple ignored (23). This was hardly the case in Industrial America. The view on children was changed from economically useful to emotionally priceless (Hays 32). When my grandmother and her family moved into the hotel, she believed she was fortunate enough to have the best childhood. She was seldom asked to help around the hotel and would often ask if there was anything she could do to help. Unlike the Puritan children who wanted to obey and please their parents so that they would be in good standing with their father to inherit land, children of the Industrial Era wanted to just please their parents to show their love and gratitude (Hays 31). Due to the new focus on childhood, a lot of literature about how to raise and treat a child was being published around this time. Rousseau declared that children would thrive when they were “treated with love and affection, and protected from the corruption of the larger society,” (qtd. in Hays 26). Protecting children from society and maintaining their innocence differed drastically from the Puritans who believed they had to break their children of their sinful nature (Hays 32). Growing up as my grandmother did, she passed down certain teachings and values to her children
The concept of age by extension was quiet different at pre-1700 from today: an individual was deemed an “infant” or “youth” or an “old person” not by virtue of his chronological age but by his physical appearance and habits(Aries(1960). In child mortality, according to Aries, the high mortality rate in the premodern era caused parents to steel themselves against too emotionally to infants who might be died. Aries claim that the Europeans followed Montaigne in assuming that young children had “neither mental activity nor recognizable body shape”; that they were regarded as merely “neutral” being poised precariously between life and death(Aries 1960,39). Besides, a culture of childhood discuss that Aries argue the rise in the affection and attention paid to children has produced a kind of culture of the childhood. As an example, the seventeenth century brought a newfound interest in children's words, mispronunciations, and expression such as the French word toutou and dada(48).
‘Every child knows what it’s like to be Cinderella because all children feel unappreciated at times and want to be special.’ (Smith, 2007. P.6). While it is unlikely that most parents would abuse their children in the same way as in our fairy stories, or lock them in the cupboard under the stairs like Harry Potter, every child knows what it is like to be ignored, or (in their eyes) unfairly punished for something. ‘Children often feel helpless because they are subject to what they consider the whims of adults.’ (Cleaver, 2004, p.56).
Miller, Alice. For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-rearing and the Roots Of Violence. Farrar, Straus, Giroux, 1983: 197.
The various essays comprising Children in Colonial America look at different characteristics of childhood in the sixteenth and eighteenth centuries. Children coming to the American colonies came from many different nations and through these essays, authors analyze children from every range of social class, race, and ability in order to present a broad picture of childhood in these times. While each essay deals with an individual topic pertaining to childhood, they all combine to provide a strong argument that children were extremely valued in society, were not tiny adults, and were active participants in society.
The text depicts a historical perspective on Middle Childhood, as during the twentieth century, children were viewed primarily as an economic source of income, in terms of providing for the family. According to the text this happens often in European counties and in parts of the United States. Elizabeth D. Hutchinson, Dimensions of Human Behavior The Changing Life Course 3rd, 2008. In this short review we will look at how this historical perspective in itself is not a question to how, but when these individual give.
Compared to people in the twenty-first century, with all their modern conveniences and technological advances, the life of any early-American seems difficult. However, the lives of children were among the most arduous. Linda Pollock states in her book Forgotten Children that between 1660 and 1800 families -and society in general- became more affectionate, child-oriented, and permissive of uniqueness and unstructured time (67). Although this may be true, many other sources depict the lives of children as taxing and oppressive at best. Children of the time were either forced to abandon education for their family contributions, or had to balance school with a full day's work ("Education"). Even when they were not in school or doing manual labor, their day-to-day lives were uncomfortable and harsh (Kids). Social status, as is expected, was a key factor in determining how hard a child's life would be (Murray 9). Although many children at the time had it easier than others they were all asked at an early age to take on adult responsibilities. The lives of all children in 1800 were mundane and difficult due to family and societal expectations for labor, schooling, and maturity.
Childhood is one of the first biological life cycles we encounter. The experience that we go through shape what we will become. Here in America, as we began to industrialize, we began to have a different view of what childhood should be than in other parts of the world. In Taiwan and in Indonesia athletic shoes are made by children who work in factories instead of going to school. About 215 million of the world’s children work typical long hours for low wages. People in America might find this disturbing because we think of childhood as the first 12 years of life a carefree time of learning and play. But according to historian Philippe Aries (1965) explains, the whole idea of childhood is fairly new. During the middle ages, children of 4 and
In 1655 in Plymouth, Massachusetts, a master found guilty of slaying a servant was punished by having his hand burned and all his property taken away. Other early records show brutal masters being warned for abusing young servants. In some cases, the children were freed because of the harsh treatment. Virginia passed laws protecting servants against mistreatment in 1700. (Child Abuse—A History - Overview, n.d.)
In modern culture, children are seen as both innocent and immature. People feel they are innocent in that they have not experienced much of life and are not yet exposed to the reality of life. This characteristic of innocence that is placed upon children is what leads to the immaturity of children. Because people believe the innocence of children not being exposed to the world makes them incapable of handling mature situations and issues, children are rarely granted any form of responsibility. Children are shielded by their parents or other caretakers that take the responsibility of caring for the child, making decisions for the child, and doing much of the work that they feel a child can not do themselves. True and full
There are proponents of the debate that childhood is disappearing which will be discussed in this section which include Postman (1983), Elkind (1981) and Palmer (2006). In considering these points of view which are mostly American, one must firstly set in context what is meant by the disappearance or erosion of childhood. This key debate centres on Postman (1983) who wrote “The disappearance of childhood” which is a contentious book about how childhood as a social category which is separate from adulthood is eroding. He defines a point where childhood came into existence, which was treated as a special phase in the middle ages based on the work of Aries in his book “Centuries of childhood” (1962, cited in Postman 1983). According to Postman, a major influence on how childhood was perceived differently to adulthood was the invention of the printing press and literacy in the mid sixteenth century. That is to say children had to learn to read before the secrets of adulthood in particular sex and violence was available...
The concept of childhood innocence began with the Romantic view of childhood, where children were seen as pure and sin free. The concept was greatly influenced by the eighteenth-century French philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau (1712-1778). Rousseau, (1765) believed that children are born good and guiltless, and through life experiences, they learn badness and guilt. Most parents see their children as innocent and want to protect them from the bad world we live in. This is not always easy, especially when the country they live in is at war and children take part in it, or they live in a poor country. The war and lack of sufficient money are some of the challenges the childhood innocence faces in today's world.
In summation, parents decide how they want to raise their children. In either an authoritarian parenting style or a permissive parenting style or any other way they believe is right because in the end it’s their choice. Even though both have their differences in the end they both want the same response, which is children who listen and respect them. Whether is ethical or not, parents choose the discipline they give. Just like Mr. and Mrs. Harsh-Heart and Mr. and Mrs. Easy-Going we saw that they both wanted to reach the same conclusion even though they were using two very different techniques.