Uncontrollable Love: Beyond Gender and Societal Norms

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Love is not a choice. We do not choose who we give our hearts to. Many people can attest to this. Emily Dickinson wrote "That love is all there is, Is all we know of love." Love is a feeling that no one has the power over and love is a feeling that conquers all. Anyone who has tried to conquer or control love has failed. Love does not listen to laws, science, societal gender, religion, social class, or race. Love is its own entity that can give human beings the biggest high they have ever felt, and also make them feel the most immense pain known to mankind. If love is all of these things and more, than love certainly is not going to be stopped by gender. To love gender is just a small hill to be climbed with new diversities on the other side. …show more content…

Traditional Family Property (TFP) Student Action states that "It is in the child’s best interests that he be raised under the influence of his natural father and mother"(2), which states that the entire adoption program itself is wrong. The problem is the facts say otherwise. A July 2010 study found that children of gay fathers were "as well-adjusted as those adopted by heterosexual parents." A longitudinal study published in Pediatrics on June 7, 2010 found that children of lesbian mothers were rated higher than children of heterosexual parents in social and academic competence and had fewer social problems. As much as people keep claiming the child will be harmed emotionally in a same sex marriage or relationship, the facts point to the truth. Homosexual couples make great parents, sometimes even better …show more content…

The reason this is so hard to understand for individuals and as society is because it dives into a religious background. This becomes almost an impossible challenge because everyone is at different places and ranges with religion. However, no matter how religious or non-religious you are, you cannot state that God, Brahman, Jesus, Buddah, Allah or any other worthwhile figures of religion can state that their "leader" promotes evil. Love on the other hand is promoted by all of these. Kindness and compassion is supported by all of these religions. Love is the opposite of evil by definition. Derek Jarman an English film director, stage designer, artist, and writer, makes an inspirational quote saying “Understand that sexuality is as wide as the sea. Understand that your morality is not law. Understand that we are you. Understand that if we decide to have sex whether safe, safer, or unsafe, it is our decision and you have no rights in lovemaking.” The bluntness and honesty of it all comes down to the basic law that there should always be a separation of church and state. This claim is made by one of the most historical documents in modern history, The Constitution of the United States. The establishment clause prohibits the government from passing legislation to establish an official religion or preferring one religion over another. It enforces

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