The Pros And Cons Of Life After Divorce

Introduction

If you think that once you are +Divorced everything is going to fall into place and life is going to move forward without any more problems, you are naïve. There are realities to think about before divorce that many wish they had known. This is not to say that having this knowledge would in any way have changed the outcome of the marriage, it is just better to be prepared.

You may have your life planned out without being aware of the realities of life after divorce. The first of these realities is that +Divorce is horrible, whether you and your ex are on good terms and regardless of who initiated it. The sense of a “normal” family will continue to elude you even when you manage to successfully blend your new family. You will experience frustration because you have less control over the parenting of your children. You can also count on +Friends-and-family to take sides, regardless of whether your +Marriage was a bad one, filled with abuse and adultery. People will always view you in a different light, even if you have been divorced for many years and are remarried.

At some stage you may decide to have sex and you will have many people who would like to set you up. You should allow them to do this. Even though you may have a lot of money, it will remain an issue between you and your ex-spouse. If they don’t already know, your children are going to find out who initiated the divorce and they are going to express their unhappiness about this.

There is good reason why you are no longer married, so expect to frequently have differences with your ex. You will wake up at night, wondering if your kids are with you or your spouse. Even if your heart is broken you are going to consider dating at some stage. Don’t rush this....

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...h are now going to be affected. Both parties’ finances will come under pressure. Establishing two homes is more expensive than one. Child support is costly and far easier in one home. Both parents will lose in this situation. Salaries will take a knock. The economic implications incurred by divorce are huge. The financial impact of divorce can be very costly.

Before getting divorced the realities and consequences must be considered because they are serious. No one comes out of a divorce unscathed. Even if you are in a marriage that is abusive, adulterous, or where your spouse is addicted to a substance or has abandoned you, it is important to be forewarned before you go ahead with the divorce. Knowledge is power and it enables you to make plans and wise decisions. We are aware that marriage should not be taken lightly and in the same manner, neither should divorce.