The Pros And Cons Of Lesbians

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“People don’t treat me differently if they can’t tell I’m a woman; if they assume I’m a man then I’m treated normally.” In American society today, lesbians seem to be widely accepted compared to gay men, and “feminine” lesbians seem to be more accepted than “butch” lesbians. Lesbians tend to be perceived as sexy or hot while gay men are seen as disgusting and hated by God. When you think of two women having sexual intercourse compared to two men, what are your first thoughts? We interviewed two straight men and asked them how they viewed lesbians having sex over gays. One of the men responded with, “Well my thoughts when I think of two women having sex is, oh yeah, I am definitely turned on by that. Woman on woman is the sexiest thing ever!” He also added, “But when I think of gays, I gag! It’s a no no for me.” The other man said, “I’d watch …show more content…

We first asked how they were treated in society when they came out as lesbian. Kelsey, Kaitlynn’s sister, said that the guys opened up and began talking about girls around her as if she was “one of the guys.” She also said that females on the other hand would try to stay away from her, and she remembers one moment specifically. She can’t remember where they went, but they went somewhere on a softball trip and her roommate didn’t want to sleep in the same room as her because she felt as if Kelsey would be checking her out and would do something weird to her. Crystal, Kelsey’s fiancée, on the other hand said that since she was in such a tight group of friends, no one really treated her any differently, but she initially came out as bisexual because she felt as if she needed to fit into a societal norm. The guys she worked with took it as a challenge because she is the “feminine type of lesbian” and felt that they would be able to change her and that she just hadn’t “had a good lay”

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