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The idea of having children is the most beautiful thing there is. I believe that parenthood is a wonderful gift because not everyone can have children. Even though having children is not a priority for some, it is a happiness that is beyond compare to many. Having the perfect, conventional family is what has always been socially acceptable; however, nowadays non-conventional families can be just a great as conventional ones. Raising children and having a family, conventional or not, is beautiful. When one thinks of having children, he or she typically desires the “American Dream”: a big house with a yard, a perfect husband or wife, and four perfect children. The idea of having a conventional family is very appealing to most people, because it is what has been socially acceptable for a long time. There are many pros that go along with having a socially-accepted family. One has the love and support from his or …show more content…

There should be no judgment when it comes to what families are acceptable, and which ones are not. This standard on which women are judged is very harsh. When a woman becomes pregnant unexpectedly, and she is not ready, she may turn to abortion. This is something that I believe under no circumstance should be allowed. Women may feel like they cannot give the child the family that they want, and they decide to give up. However, recently there has been a dramatic drop in the abortion rate in the United States from 1973. Researchers have concluded that this possibly could be because more women are becoming comfortable raising children in un-conditional environments (Somashekhar). Yet, little do they realize that having a child is a truly beautiful experience. Many families today are becoming less and less conventional, and we should realize that this is okay. I believe that anyone who has a child is capable of loving and caring for that child no matter what type of family they come

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